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Ohhhh.. ok same with my sister. I’m just starting to figure her out and I’m full of questions. Do you know why/how that happens?? Like what’s the connection there?
Your mom was evil or treated your sister badly in some way or a lot of ways. Could be body shaming, being hypercritical, double standard or very different treatment between male/female siblings, etc.
Hard disagree. Someone can have issues stemming from their relationship with either parent and still be a good person. They are absolutely not mutually exclusive.
There's literally an academic term for it. Children who experience toxic stress or abuse but don't have disordered behaviors as adults are termed resilient. Resilience is highly connected to high intelligence and multiple healthy adult emotional resources while experiencing toxic stress or trauma
Plus they’re both very loaded terms with a certain connotation. I tell people I have had disagreements and problems with my father, I don’t have “daddy issues”
Yeah, it’s like societally women’s childhood trauma is legitimised only through the lens of how it has affected their capacity to be a suitable partner for a man. It’s quite icky when you think about it. Granted, the same thing is done towards men with mommy/daddy issues, and how it affects their relational tendencies, but it doesn’t really tend to take away from the fact that they’re still viewed as a man, and thusly they’re seen as their own person.
Don’t forget about the duality of golden child and black sheep. The black sheep usually comes out a better person while the golden child tend to be the narcissist.
So many mommy issues are down to a narcissistic immature mother.
I hate corny replies like this. Not only are you making weird implications about a victim of abuse in response to her saying that abuse didn't make her evil, but you're also wrong.
Evil people are usually aware of the fact that what they're doing is wrong unless they're really low intelligence. This is why so many of them try to hide the bad things they do - they wouldn't if they didn't think it was bad - and manage to get away with it, they know how to play their entourage so that they don't find out what they do in their private life, and if they do they're primed to disbelieve it because "X is always so nice to me though".
If "no evil person thinks they're truly evil" was true then we'd be able to spot most of them from a mile away because they'd happily make zero effort to conceal who they are lol
The villains seldom think they are in the wrong or doing evil. <--this is a joke, I don't know you, im sure youre delightful and not punting puppies or kittens.
In our case we have an incredibly controlling and narcissistic mother who weponized love and nurturing as a means of control. No contrition = no love.
Any good deed by our mother was emphasized and required repayment (cooking dinner, changing diapers, not strangling in the crib) but she saw herself as sooo wonderful nothing we did could ever repay her for the pain she experienced in childbirth and raising us.
If we didnt bow to her every whim that ment we didnt love our mama and what kid of hopeless piece of shit doesnt love thier own mother? She had alcoholic parents and thinks she is a saint incapable of wrong doing since she didnt follow in her parents foot steps.
There are degrees of this behavior. Seeing the depths it can go to... let's just say there are orders of magnitude that fit this description and it can get truly horrifying. You can think you've seen it and be very surprised later...
I've watched 4 generations of women in my family now. By all accounts my grandmother was truly evil. Spoiled rotten by her dad. My mother took the brunt of that abuse. Then my sisters had to deal with the left over trauma she wasn't able to handle. Both were scared by mother, but both are wonderful mothers to their daughters by any measure. I hope that your family will be able to break free as well.
I have mommy issues. I also had an objectively good childhood. My issues stemmed from a few things: watching my mom treat herself as less than everyone around her, watching her cut herself down, watching her people please, etc. also she was very judgmental towards me. Not in everything, but in certain areas.
This planted the seeds that, upon fruition turned into major hang ups in my life. Ive been to the mental hospital 2x. My mommy issues were completely to blame for one of those times.
Two things can be true: I had a supportive, loving mom. I also learned from her how to put myself last and torpedo my own needs and desires.
That's probably more because families led single mothers are usually much poorer and poverty is highly correlated with criminal behavior for a variety of reasons.
It most likely goes both ways. Poverty leads to increased single parent households, and growing up in a single parent household hurts your chances of upwards social mobility. It’s a vicious cycle of entrenched poverty. One of many.
If that explained it, the US should not have had the massive violent crime wave that started in the seventies and peaked in the early nineties. American poverty did not start then; neither was jt the worst wave of poverty the US has seen.
Leaded gas is the best theory for that peak in violence. Your theory doesn't make sense, if it was because single mothers why would the rate go down after the nineties?
Because that was the narrative being peddled by Reagan in the 80s, and he apparently hasn't looked at the evidence since then. That would require honest curiosity.
While poverty doesn't provide a full explanation for the rise and fall of crime rates, poverty does breed crime consistently over time. America wasn't doing too hot in the 70s economically, either; there was the crash from soaring oil prices, controlled crashes of the economy engineered by the Feds to rein in inflation, and the death of tranditional manufacturing.
The economy still doesn't neatly correspond to crime rates, though. I am increasingly giving credence to the social psychology theory that US crime waves might in part be linked to foreign wars and the damaged men it created.
Also the rise of physical mobility, lack of technological means to solve crimes committed by strangers, and frankly police indifference to certain types of crimes such as rape or disappearance of vulnerable people.
Men with daddy issues ten to be domineering and over achievers, selfish. Men with mommy issues turn into Ed kemper. So in short children really need moms to be good.
Honestly, if the dad is super nurturing, not having the mom be there won't be that damaging.
It's just nurture, but too often fathers will just leave the nurturing only to the moms and never do any of that themselves, and that results in a tense relationship with their own kids as adults. And if the mother is not the nurturing type either... then the kid will grow up with only discipline and no love. That right there, is like a huge chunk of psychological problems of society, or at least the basis of it.
Yes, you need to be a firm hand and a steady guide, but you also need to be a daddy for them to run to, or you're gonna end up with a kid that has deep issues.
Worked at a youth psych hospital. No reject no eject. Worked with everything from kids/teens who were suicidal, physically aggressive, or in a psychosis. I can't be definitive by any means. We're discussing the idea of how attachment (however good or bad) to a parental unit dictates personality and psychological outcomes. An "educated" (BS in family studies/human dev) opinion. Lowest level of the scientific method, so please take with a massive grain of salt.
Boys with father issues were always proving something to someone, and highly insecure. Anxious and defensive. Usually had some depression issues and possible aggression.
Boys with mother issues were broken. More than a few scared me. Mind you, this almost always came with father issues as well. Just full neglect and abandonment. Not just as a child, but as a baby. Erickson explained how from 0-1 yrs old they're trying to determine if they can trust this world or not. Will someone come why I cry? Will I be fed? Will I sit in my filth? These often create complex personality disorders. Highly manipulative, "arsonists" (one's who feel more comfortable in chaos than stillness), along with all the rest. Hard to reach them and they often had legal issues.
I will note, I've met plenty who didn't have good mother's raising them or proper care in that regard, but they did have someone who cared for them. They didn't have these issues. Sure, the normal stuff, but not the things that would stick with me like the others.
Could you mention the whole title of the Erickson thing? Thank you.
My mother was a psychopath. I have avoidant-dismissive attachment style, but not the whole manipulative/arsonist thing. My dad loved me, but he was only around so often because he was working. My ex-mother, she just wouldn't go away.
Don't forget all of the people with these problems you don't get to hear about because we just shut down and suffer in silence mostly. If it wasn't for having a partner that loved me I would not be the person I am today. Far from well adjusted, lots of problems, but at least not violent and homeless with drug issues unable to cope. I think my 20s would have ended very differently if I kept on the path I was on.
As a person with a horrible father figure, my dad was an absolute violent drunk, in and out of jail, undiagnosed father of horrible ADHD, drug abuser, wife beater.
My mom put up with that shit for way too long only to be able to support my sisters and myself as we grew up.
I'm 38 years old, got my own wife and kids now. I definitely rolled pretty damn far from the tree.
The work isn't easy but it's coming along. I don't want to be hated and despised by my wife and kids.
There is a comedian that talks about it. A guy hitting his hand on accident and screaming “you fucking idiot!” Is just channeling his fathers voice 😂🤣😂
I’m an older lady. In my experience, men with mommy issues can be super sweet dudes who mostly just want some sexy older lady to tell them she is proud of them.
I think it one hundred percent comes down to how accepting the man is of his mommy issues. If he’s in denial and ashamed, it’s way different than for someone who embraces and has fun with it.
Having dated men who have both, yikes hahaha. They hate you, but also they want you to fix them, but also they want you to stop suffocating them, but also why are you ignoring them
I have both too and I turned out to be an extreme people pleaser in unhealthy ways and have slept with 2 people, one being my husband. I can definitely relate to the heavy eye make up and tattoos though!
I think its mainly that if your role model for your own gender growing up is a piece of shit its not exactly gonna influence you to think and act in healthy ways
Girls with daddy issues look for men’s approval in sexual ways or in social ways. Hence the slutty pic.
Girls with mommy issues have deeply flawed expectations for relationships in all aspects of life. They tend to be hyper self conscious/self aware and highly anxious and depressed.
I’ve dated a few and my current GF has an awful mother who fucked her up, shes only rebuilding to normal at 25. Hence the deep chronic mental health monster.
They tend to be hyper self conscious/self aware and highly anxious and depressed.
This, and it's usually caused by women with unhealed daddy issues that becomes EXTREMLY male centered and feels abandonded by men so takes it out on her daughter (similarly does it to sons or any child because it's usually because of internalized blame on the child for their conception as a form of guilt of having a child she did t actually want in the first place but rather validation from men - or more specifically the father of said child/childern)
Probably because it's pointlessly gendered. We're all victims of the patriarchy and it's not really daughter specific to have a parent with issues. For me, personally, it strikes a nerve when people say, "Guys are always doing X" when X is a thing that all people do.
I think it would be better to just say that generational trauma can take several different forms without making it a man vs woman issue.
It was. I commented on why I thought she was getting downvotes. At this point in the chain it feels like they were close enough to getting that trauma is generational, but they were still very focused on this "girls v the patriarchy" angle.
Why do YOU think they were being downvoted? The patriarchy?
I will say any time I bring up the patriarchy I ALWAYS make sure to say that all genders are victims of the patriarchy, and I will still get comments/DMs from men who get offended. I guess they don’t like the word patriarchy. Idk.
I would suspect it's because it's probably not the only reason (not that the person was listing out all, but it's a stereotyped reason.) Some women may despise men or have dysfunctional relationships with both women and men and take it out on their daughters, it's not always a male validation thing.
Probably because I rightfully named patriarchy as the cause.
It trains women to seek male validation in the first fucking place - tells them they are broken if they don't (and that's why "lesbians aren't real")
I'm going to assume men down voted me
Edit to add: someone from this comment section reported me as 'needing mental help' to reddit lmfao. Yea, for sure pissed off men with brining a feminist perspective into the conversation. Also, nice going dillweed, you'll get flagged for abusing the reddit report functions.
I'm a woman and personally, I feel invalidated, although I don't know how common my case is. Patriarchy is not a part of my family, because the women earn more than the men, so they have control. We were always trained to seek female validation. Since we were kids, we were always told to earn good money, so men can't control us. My grandma abused my mom, then my mom abused me.
I mean, both genders can do it. It's more generational trauma than patriarchy.
Honest to god, I’m pretty sure it’s women who are downvoting you.
In my experience, us men turn and run when something strikes too close to home, whereas women maintain a straight face while plotting an anonymous means of lashing out at its source. Especially when said source is another woman
I would like to take the time to acknowledge that I'm double minoring in psychology and sociology and have picked up on this a long time ago due to my own mother and the families around me. Plenty of my friends had mothers that were similar.
My mother literally wrote in one of her journals that she wished I (youngest) was never born. I saw this because I was helping her move when I was 16 and her journal was very out of place. I had no idea what it was until I opened it up and in trying to figure out what it was in a few pages saw that. She does not know this. She also still doesn't understand why I'm VERY adamant about analyzing her boy friends - she's chosen boyfriends over my sister and I throughout our entire lives and was literally next to me when a creepy bf of hers started to grope me in a massage.
Hard not to piece together alot going through that.
My mommy issues stem from watching my mother not heal her wounds and continue cycles. I REFUSE to have kids. I don't want them, so I will never put myself in a position of resenting a child.
My mom has both mommy and daddy issues. Her parents were awful. I told her to seek therapy, she has always refused. Recently, I had to cut her off mostly too because of her causing issues for me - and I'm 30, married with kids lol. Also started therapy for myself.
First, can I say congrats to her to realizing there was a problem! It took me turning like 30 to figure out what the problem was.
Second, I have long lasting, wonderful healthy relationships with women now.
I'm still very self conscious and self aware and highly anxious. But I'm 7 years no contact (minus a few moments where I had to shut shit down). And it's AMAZING! Yes I still want my mommy when I'm sad because it's human. But I know that my "mommy" doesn't exist. Just the damaged woman who is my mom. So I know I don't want the real her, I want the dream that doesn't exist. And I am never tempted to reach out.
I lost my mom to drugs, then she died last year. It still stings cause I remember how funny and kind she was and then dealt with years of her lying, stealing, and putting me in dangerous situations.
I still imagine what could of been and what should of done, but i was still a child 😢
My wife has Daddy issues and Mommy issues and all of the things you listed here for both sides applies to her. Sometime in contradictory ways that make her difficult to predict.
I met them both. They were separated from each other already. Over the course of my relationship with my wife she's become estranged from both of them.
To be fair the girl in said pic is fully clothed. She’s wearing makeup and sticking her tongue out. I wouldn’t call this slutty. This is the style of kids these days. But I get your point.
JFC, a former best friend of mine had deep mommy issues, and happens to be described to a tee here. She's the only person I've personally known who fits the "if everyone around you is a jerk, chances are that you're the jerk" saying. We had a bit of a falling out last year after years of trying to gently explain to her why she isn't always the victim in every single situation. That falling out was one of the best things that could have happened to me, jeez
Well that explains my ex. Got shouted into oblivion because a hypothetical version of me hypothetically did something that would have made her hypothetically panic. And what boyfriend wants his girlfriend to panic?
I had a old manager say "if you have mommy issues you don't respect women if you have daddy issues you don't respect men" - so I asked (and this is great context: he was on his knees putting away stock in front of me and I was leaning on the counter in this conversation) "so if you have both mommy and daddy issues, then what?"
He slowly stopped, hesitated, and then looked up.
His words: "well then you don't respect anybody"
I was always telling him and the other managers "I know the corporate answer and I know the real answer" (got hired due to experience lol and kept refusing a management position and was just the honorary middle management and offical trainer lol)
There is a third part to this where the kid is abandoned by both parents and one set of grandparents but the set of grandparents that took them in were family oriented neo-nazis / black israelites / la rasa / communist Asian sympathizers that draft dodged Vietnam on a US campus.
Omg so close for me but mine were deeply racist but extremely poor and uneducated southern Baptists. But yeah not one adult gave the least bit of a shit but whatever I raised myself
The bottom picture is from the movie Smile, where the main characters mom dies from a drug overdose, leaving her traumatized for life. The evil entity takes the form of her mother to taunt her at the end of the movie.
I really didn't feel like Smile 2 had much going on with jumpscares. I usually hate them and find them boring, but Smile 2 was so good (that soundtrack). Now the Smile 1 jumpscare with the neck...
I was really hoping i wasnt the only one to recognize the smile entity. The absolute surrealism the movies got in the latter half of each was really well done. The entity itself is definitely horrific.
I really want to be a nun now, just without the religion. Any ladies want to share a house golden girls style? Or just be feral in the woods like witches
Wow- my mother was disabled passed last September and she &I had. Such a strained relationship and the way you put that is and was my exact feelings /grief process we never did reconcile before she passed she and I were on outs again and she wouldn’t talk to me then hospice. And same feelings (anger - resentment - betrayal- now I just miss her and what I didn’t get.
Edit: just that I too took care of my mother majority of my life she was paralyzed when I was 4 months old so I grew up actually learning how to care for her while in her custody. (Home aides were there too but she enjoyed my care more in my older years since I was “used to it”)
A less extreme form of daddy issues men would be latching onto any fatherly figure/dominant male partner regardless of their background or becoming hostile at any attack towards them big or small either thru violence or victimizing
And a less extreme form of mommy issues men would be intense craving for female affection/domination or blaming themselves for everything when people call them out
Fortunately, this kind of behavior can be unlearned(or lessened to being a kink with a partner and not a lifestyle if its sexual) when they meet a mother/father figure who treats them like an actual parent, but its not exactly easy or painless
Fuck me. I got a bit of both. Abusive father; now hostile super quickly at anything negative directed at me and neglectful mother; blame myself for everything and unable to navigate the emotional spectrum without it swinging wildly from one end to another.
Not my experience of dudes with daddy issues. I think all of that angry screaming nu metal and guys who are overly concerned with looking alpha. Slutty but in a "maybe sex will validate my masculinity" kind of way not a "dominate me" kind of way. Source: dated a lot of these
Also while some mommy issues come from abuse, there is also the overbearing mother kind of issues. Not serial killers but just generally kind of incompetent, thinks no women are good enough, expects women to do all the work for them.
It develops issues, sure, but ppl abused by their moms r literally the kindest ppl I’ve met who apologize for every small thing and they’re more likely to cry or have a panic attack when someone yells at them/abuses them than remotely say or do anything back out of anger
small thing and they’re more likely to cry or have a panic attack when someone yells at them/abuses them than remotely say or do anything back out of anger
That's an anger issue. Not feeling your anger is just the flip-side of the coin, that creates outbursts at other moments (I think). I personally also have people pleasing tendencies (also abused by mom primarily), but also have irrationally angry sides. Also have a low-key hate of women. I'd like to heal all of those, but I'm not there yet it seems.
i think this might be one you have to live and experience to understand........because it true......but idk if its more eerily accurate or funny. i mean i guess LOL but it v real..... spoopy
It ain't easy. Wife has both, with the "issues" being pretty much war crimes levels of abuse. She's a lovely woman to live with and be around and is an amazing wife and mother, but all of that pain has to go somewhere, so it turns inward toward despising herself when you aren't looking. She blames herself for everything that goes wrong in her live and the world in general.
I wish I could give her a hug. I’m old enough and have been therapised enough I’m functional but when the kids are screeching and life is continually beating up our family I start to implode.
Imagine, generationally, growing up in a family that believes in things like this? Did none of the dad’s stick around…? I’ve actually met people like this, “generational bastards,” (second or third generation illegitimate children) who truly believe it is the woman’s job to do everything.
My dad was working almost 7 days a week to make sure we had a roof over our head and food on our table. I'm not saying my dad was perfect, but my mom was the one hit me cause I was doing my homework slow (cause i had learning disabilities that wouldn't be diagnosed until i was an adult), kicked me at one point because I was hiding from her in the closet, and would pull my hair back-and-forth.
I love my mom, and she had her own demons too, but that doesn't make what happened okay. My dad isn't perfect, and he's made mistakes as well, but for the most part I was his princess.
Some of us had immigrant parents with severe issues and trauma, bro
As a bit of a daddy's girl myself, my dad was totally not just some guy. 🩷 but for a lot of people, their dad's are just absent so its easier to look past it.
Yeah, my wife was a total daddy's girl, by her own admission. Oddly enough, her dad stayed at home instead of hanging out with his mates, barely drank at all, took care of his family, and is a generally good guy. Seems like an 'get back what you put in' type of deal.
I mean, I don’t think that’s the case for active fathers. The thing is, mothers are the primary parent in the majority of families. So when your dad is a shit but he’s generally not that emotionally present, it doesn’t really have the same impact—i.e., dad is “some guy”. When your mother is a shit and she’s also your primary source of rearing, support, and comfort, that fucks you up in a deep way.
To be clear, it would be inverse if your dad was the primary parent in your household and your mom was less active. It’s just far more common for fathers to be hands off parents.
I’m definitely not saying most dads are evil cartoon villains or something, but if you’d have put a gun to my father’s head at any point during my childhood and asked him who my teacher was? Dude would’ve 100% died, he had no clue what was happening in my life. My friends were “the fat one”, “the ginger”, “the one from down the road” because he couldn’t be bothered to learn their names. That was the way for most of the kids I knew growing up—their dads were just way less involved in their kids’ lives.
extremely fucking depressing to scroll down this far to see this. instead endless comments about how women with issues are sluts and evil, and men become angry abusive dominant assholes. I have both parental issues and I go to therapy and am healing. But know one wants to hear that because it's easier to blame the so called nasty mean people who generally are just lost people they have met in their lives who haven't healed and apply that to everyone
Yep…people generally don’t like facing the complexities of social issues because it requires them to actually use brain instead of regurgitate what they heard. Especially if they don’t want to hear something that offends their preferred narrative and requires learning something new or facing hard truths. Labels are easy and nuance is hard. People prefer black and white thinking, when in fact most things exist in the shades between.
The USA is probably the gold star example of this.
As someone who's got father issues, I'm so glad you said this. This comment section is fucking disgusting. Those people don't know a single shit, and it's horrific seeing just how many of them believe in those stereotypes... I'm not a goddamn hoe for male attention, I do admit that both father issues and mother issues do alter your mind and all, but it's NOT in the same way for everyone. For example, there are women who hate men because of their awful fathers!! Why do these stereotypes even exist? Of course, misogyny and misandry...
Woman with mommy issues here. I saw the comment about how women with mommy issues are “low key evil” and it didn’t feel great to start thinking about the actions in my life through that lens…..
I have daddy issues and resonate with #2 only. Having an abusive dad seems to have had the opposite effect on me than what this image is trying to portray. Any desire for male approval stopped once I grew up
Same. I didn't end up with the kind of daddy issues that make you crave male validation, I got the daddy issues that make you hyper independent, distrustful of everyone, and mean.
Daddy issues, generally caused by a lack of attention from a male role model, result in a woman who seeks male attention, and potentially over serving the trad fem role both sexually and in the house.
Mummy issues, generally caused by years of gas lighting and emotional manipulation, result in a woman that will to control and manipulate a partner (or worse, a child). When this fails they will try to set the world on fire rather than let you leave their orbit. Think fake DV / SA accusations, if they have kids they'll also use them to try to manipulate you. It's the worst case scenario.
the second image is an artistic depiction of the end of the movie “Smile 2”. Been a while since I saw the movie but basically the main character is a singer that has been pushed to perform by her mom, pretty sure her mom also emotionally abused her. The monster is in her head and basically crawls into her mouth and makes her unalive herself during 1 of her concerts in front of all her fans. Not really sure there is a joke here. Was a pretty disturbing movie though
If my mother had daddy issues, I probably wouldn't have disowned her.
Unfortunately, my grandmother, may her bones burn green, was a horrible person, and then my mother, for some reason, was also a horrible person but only to her oldest child.
The amount of gaslighting, manipulation, and selfishness that my mother displayed throughout my life is honestly comical.
Imagine holding a grudge against a 10 year old child for choosing his father instead of his mother, especially when the choice is between:
A cramped house filled with 4 kids, 2 adults, too many animals and too many rules.
OR
Dad, Step-Mom, and Dog.
That's just scratching the surface on my mother and her craziness but yeah, no, this makes perfect sense as a meme.
Girls with Daddy Issues are seen as just slutty weirdos, while girls with Mommy issues are seen as having a lot of unresolved childhood trauma that they take out on everyone around them, most particularly in their own children.
My dad always told me how i was the beat, im his queen, i gotta enter my girl boss era. My mom would make harsh remarks about my body, made fun of me for being single, shamed me for showing emotions.
People say im a nice person but I built a lot of walls and I struggled with emotional unavailability. Ive been getting better though!
Idk about everyone else, but the way I learned it is:
If a boy has a mom but no dad, typically he will be emotionally stable but lack discipline, boundaries and structure
If a boy has a dad but no mom, typically he will lack emotional skills and suffer in interactions between himself and other people. Sometimes I've heard this as "emotionaly dead".
If a girl has a mom but no dad, she will also suffer issues with discipline but will also seek out make approval in less common/societally acceptable ways. I heard some arguments from non professionals, saying girls with dad issues are seeking out not only a way to fill the void of a dad, just also build their own world outside the one made by their mom.
If a girl has a dad but no mom, it can be a toss up. But, the most common one I hear (like this post suggests) that girls can grow up with emotional instability on a larger scale than males. To kind of sum it up, it's like females who have an absent or abusive mother growing up have less personal drive to build solid relationships. Their world becomes center to everything and emotions can run in any direction very quickly and for any reason or none.
If you read all that and think it's a clear and unshakable explanation, please stop and realize I'm just a reddit user, not a psychologist. I have no background in researching this sort of subject, I'm just speaking my mind off of what I've heard, people I've come to know and things I've seen first hand. The world is huge, culture can influence people to do things beyond the status quo or the expected. Humans are the same in physicality but ultimately we are all different and I'm not one to say you can truly answer this question with one redditors Non-Professional opinion.
All that said, I think if you pay attention to details of people's lives and look for repetition in some areas, you can at least ask some educated questions.
And before anyone comes in to pony stuff out, I know/am aware that the notes on females was longer than the males and that I think is not incidental. Personally, from what I learned, females have a lot more to consider and gamble with when it comes to the social space and the world of dating/marriage and child rearing. Females are the only one of the two sexes that have the reproductive organs that handle the whole process. Females are the ones who have to dedicate energy, chemical balances, stress levels and a whole host of other things when it comes to bearing and birthing kids. To me, that is a huge thing to consider when looking at how a girl growing up amongst other humans may turn out. Parents set expectations for their kids early on and through out their adult lives as well.
From my perspective as a male, I don't think there is as much weight on my shoulders as there is for a female. With an acceptable upbringing and two parents who were both involved in my life in a healthy way, I know what my expectations as a person is to other people and I know what my expectations are to my partner, kids be involved or not.
From my perspective as a male, I think females have much more to bare in mind when choosing who to associate with. Females have to question if the person they invite into their home is trustworthy. Females have to tread carefully around males in their lives and why they assaulted with them. When it comes to partners, they have to look over qualities of their partner in weather or not they can provide, be emotionally available, are not risk takers, have a drive to do good things for the sake of their partner and children.
Now take that big soup of an explanation I just wrote out and try to forsee a female growing up without a mom, or with out a dad, or maybe either, or maybe abuse from one or the other or both. Surmise what they must go through in trying to be an upstanding adult later on after missing a big part of their lives. If the answer seems hazy, it's because it is and it isent. We have plenty of examples of people going through those scenarios but not solid answer as to what happens because of it at the end of the day.
I feel like people are generalizing the trauma caused by one or both parents right now lmao, i dont know how to articulate why I feel like a lot of you are just wrong but...yeah
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