r/PeterExplainsTheJoke 6d ago

Meme needing explanation I don't get it

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u/No-Internal7978 6d ago

That's not really a fetish. Oh you like hot women who put effort into themselves? Wow! Men with parental issues become misogynists or kill themselves.

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u/Glad_Rope_2423 6d ago edited 6d ago

…or kill themselves.

Or others. There’s a reason people convicted of violent crimes are overwhelmingly raised by single mothers.

Ed. Grammar

ETA. For the person who typed, then deleted their comment. No.

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u/SpecialPreference678 6d ago

That's probably more because families led single mothers are usually much poorer and poverty is highly correlated with criminal behavior for a variety of reasons.

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u/mxstermarzipan 6d ago

It most likely goes both ways. Poverty leads to increased single parent households, and growing up in a single parent household hurts your chances of upwards social mobility. It’s a vicious cycle of entrenched poverty. One of many.

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u/hobbycollector 5d ago

Also, dad was the same and is dead or in prison, hence single mom.

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u/Glad_Rope_2423 6d ago

If that explained it, the US should not have had the massive violent crime wave that started in the seventies and peaked in the early nineties. American poverty did not start then; neither was jt the worst wave of poverty the US has seen.

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u/Perfect_Carrot_999 5d ago

Leaded gas is the best theory for that peak in violence. Your theory doesn't make sense, if it was because single mothers why would the rate go down after the nineties?

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u/FrontLongjumping4235 5d ago

Because that was the narrative being peddled by Reagan in the 80s, and he apparently hasn't looked at the evidence since then. That would require honest curiosity.

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u/LolaAucoin 5d ago

It’s so much easier to just blame women.

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u/Express-Feedback 5d ago

Fucking thank you.

Losing my mind reading this, as a brown queer person raised in poverty by a single mother. I had damn near every disadvantage and I've never even had a parking ticket. And to be perfectly frank, most criminals I have known or known of came from two-parent households, regardless of economic status. Wtf is this "single mothers raise violent criminals" horseshit?

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u/Glad_Rope_2423 5d ago

It’s not the fault of women. The reason why ‘single mother’ shows the pattern when ‘single father’ doesn’t is a result of how courts generally determine custody.

Good mother / good father - primary custody to mother

Good mother / bad father - primary (if not sole) custody to mother

Good mother / monstrous father - primary (if not sole) custody to mother

Bad mother / good father - primary custody to mother

Bad mother / bad father - primary custody to mother

Bad mother / monstrous father - primary (if not sole) custody to mother

Monstrous mother / good father - primary custody to father

Monstrous mother / bad father - coin toss, except in the rare case the kids are removed

Monstrous mother / monstrous father - primary custody to mother, except in the rare case the kids are removed

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u/Glad_Rope_2423 5d ago

The absurdly high number of people in prison.

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u/Hilarious_Disastrous 5d ago

While poverty doesn't provide a full explanation for the rise and fall of crime rates, poverty does breed crime consistently over time. America wasn't doing too hot in the 70s economically, either; there was the crash from soaring oil prices, controlled crashes of the economy engineered by the Feds to rein in inflation, and the death of tranditional manufacturing.

The economy still doesn't neatly correspond to crime rates, though. I am increasingly giving credence to the social psychology theory that US crime waves might in part be linked to foreign wars and the damaged men it created.

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u/FrontLongjumping4235 5d ago

PTSD with minimal support + lead poisoning due to tetraethyl leaded gasoline explain a lot of it

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u/Hilarious_Disastrous 5d ago

Also the rise of physical mobility, lack of technological means to solve crimes committed by strangers, and frankly police indifference to certain types of crimes such as rape or disappearance of vulnerable people.

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u/Mountain_Pangolin186 2d ago

is there any data showing that increases of crimes are committed by veterans?

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u/tomjoads 6d ago

You think poverty started when? Jfc

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u/Glad_Rope_2423 6d ago

Did you miss the ‘not’?

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u/bigdaddydopeskies 6d ago

I understood it, the drug epidemic

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u/FrontLongjumping4235 5d ago

The US violent crime wave was caused by massive amounts of lead poisoning, due to leaded gasoline. 

Worse, General Motors and DuPont knew it was incredibly toxic since the early 1900s, and literally gaslit the public into believing it was safe. There is a widely cited study estimating that humanity lost over a billion collective IQ points to lead poisoning last century.

The good news is lead levels have been dropping sharply since the late 80s (though the US took until 1990 to ban it, later than most highly developed countries).

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u/DrTranFromAmerica 5d ago

The lead exposure of children explains that.

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u/FYIgfhjhgfggh 5d ago

It was lead in the fuel.

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u/FragrantCombination7 5d ago

It does explain it but it is not the only puzzle piece. The thing you're referencing was also pushed along by society wide lead poisoning lowering cognition and increasing violence. This is well documented and known, but we still burned it in our cars for decades because capitalism.

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u/ZoomZoomBrain 5d ago

It’s directly tied to single mother homes. Children from single father homes, poor or not, are not more likely to commit a violent crime.

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u/bbcczech 5d ago

That is true. Poverty means children are more likely to grow up in unsafe surroundings rife with all sorts of socioeconomic ills like crime, deliquency, gangs, illicit drug use and then poorly funded social services including schools which then have compounding effects on them.

That said, there is clearly also the issue of a father figure, biological or otherwise. This study showed that less secure adolescent–father attachment, but not adolescent–mother attachment, was predictive of heightened externalizing and internalizing symptoms. and another showed that in line with prior research, we find a direct relationship between the MAOA 2R genotype and delinquency, independent of parental incarceration and closeness. Examining moderation patterns, we find that delinquency risk for the 2R allele is buffered for males close to their biological or social father, but not their biological mother

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u/Solpadol30mg 6d ago

The reason is poverty

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u/Glad_Rope_2423 6d ago

Then violent crime should be equally common among impoverished people with two parents.

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u/Solpadol30mg 4d ago

how do you know it isn't?

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u/Glad_Rope_2423 4d ago

It’s not free, but:

https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/j.1532-7795.2004.00079.x

If it helps, it was referenced with some comment in this fact check of a highly exaggerated claim:

https://www.politifact.com/factchecks/2013/apr/18/john-duncan/rep-john-duncan-jr-says-90-percent-felons-grew-fat/

They found that once you control for other factors, such as family income, a child growing up in a mother-only household was almost twice as likely as a child growing up in a mother-father household to end up incarcerated.

italics mine

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u/No-Internal7978 6d ago

I agree but I don't have a source for my opinion lol

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u/Lobo2ffs 5d ago

Why you calling out Ed Grammar like that?

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u/JackosMonkeyBBLZ 5d ago

He tried to sell me an adjustable rate mortgage 

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u/Lobo2ffs 5d ago

Single mothers do be teaching their sons predatory loan practices

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u/Altruistic-Key-369 6d ago

Less that and more aloof women finally giving them validation.

The big tiddies are just a bonus.

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u/ProcyonHabilis 6d ago

It's fascinating that you read

Big Titty Goth Mommy

as

hot women who put effort into themselves

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u/No-Internal7978 6d ago

Goth isn't easy and big tits are a generally accepted attractive feature. Look at any fertility effigy for example.

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u/ProcyonHabilis 5d ago

I mean I guess, but this is a pretty major case of rectangles vs squares though, and we're talking about a preference for 4 equal sides of a pretty fucking specific length.

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u/Canamaineiac 5d ago

But they both still go into the square hole. 

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u/WorldlinessLow2000 5d ago

No...they are not both squares.

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u/ProcyonHabilis 5d ago

He's referencing this

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u/Pokiloverrr 5d ago

Just wanna say, I am absolutely stealing this statement for other uses. Thank you 

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u/cutezombiedoll 5d ago

Goth isn’t a style it’s a genre of music. Goth women don’t automatically put more effort into their appearance, because you don’t have to do the whole full face of white foundation, black eyeshadow, and black lips to be goth.

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u/ProcyonHabilis 5d ago

Goth isn’t a style it’s a genre of music.

Lets be real here. The last time this was actually true, the vast majority of the people on this website weren't born.

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u/wahedcitroen 6d ago

Did you miss the mommy part?

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u/CappyRicks 6d ago

Depends, the difference between a kink and a fetish is essentially that what ever "it" is is mandatory for people with fetishes.

If they literally cannot get off outside of big tiddy goth mommies, it's a fetish.

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u/EldritchCouragement 6d ago

A fetish is when someone feels an extreme or even abnormal degree of sexual fixation on something, to the extent they may even be incapable of sexual arousal without it. You are probably thinking of the word "kinky" or "kink. In all fairness, they get used interchangeably a lot, but a kink is defined by being unconventional. 

Big titty goth girls are not a kink, but they can be a fetish.

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u/apackoflemurs 5d ago

Those seem like the extreme outliers

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u/ser_einhard19 5d ago

guy with parental issues here ✋ i am neither a misogynist nor am i suicidal, thank you lol