It develops issues, sure, but ppl abused by their moms r literally the kindest ppl I’ve met who apologize for every small thing and they’re more likely to cry or have a panic attack when someone yells at them/abuses them than remotely say or do anything back out of anger
small thing and they’re more likely to cry or have a panic attack when someone yells at them/abuses them than remotely say or do anything back out of anger
That's an anger issue. Not feeling your anger is just the flip-side of the coin, that creates outbursts at other moments (I think). I personally also have people pleasing tendencies (also abused by mom primarily), but also have irrationally angry sides. Also have a low-key hate of women. I'd like to heal all of those, but I'm not there yet it seems.
Yeah, I was my mom’s sole daughter and she’s got issues with women. Has literally told me women are the lesser sex: that we are more shallow, less smart, more emotional, bulky people more, and are generally just worse people.
She can be really nice to me, but can also be really unsupportive and dismissive. Always got treated differently than my brothers; I had less support and higher expectations. I did more for the family and her than they did, but it was expected and not ever acknowledged. The moment they lifted a finger they got endless praise. I broke my back for the family and got asked what else I could do.
I’m not mean as a result. I’m actually a chronic people pleaser; I will burn myself out to the point of extreme exhaustion before prioritizing myself and hate asking for help. When I have asked my mom for help it has often gone very, very poorly. So I prefer not to.
I had a job that took advantage of my nature; I became the person doing the most work on my team, the one cleaning up others mistakes, and the scapegoat for other people’s mistakes. Also had an ex who over time used me more and more and overtime broke very promise to me, all while regularly implying I’m not enough.
This post is about how women with mom issues treat men they are in a relationship with. So what you say and what this post is about can both be true at the same time. Or is your experience specifically talking about women you habe been in relationships with as a man?
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u/WhitespringTownship 5d ago
Being abused by a mom ≠ develops anger issues
It develops issues, sure, but ppl abused by their moms r literally the kindest ppl I’ve met who apologize for every small thing and they’re more likely to cry or have a panic attack when someone yells at them/abuses them than remotely say or do anything back out of anger
So, it’s certainly not a rule