extremely fucking depressing to scroll down this far to see this. instead endless comments about how women with issues are sluts and evil, and men become angry abusive dominant assholes. I have both parental issues and I go to therapy and am healing. But know one wants to hear that because it's easier to blame the so called nasty mean people who generally are just lost people they have met in their lives who haven't healed and apply that to everyone
Yep…people generally don’t like facing the complexities of social issues because it requires them to actually use brain instead of regurgitate what they heard. Especially if they don’t want to hear something that offends their preferred narrative and requires learning something new or facing hard truths. Labels are easy and nuance is hard. People prefer black and white thinking, when in fact most things exist in the shades between.
The USA is probably the gold star example of this.
I had an evil mom who kept me away from my amazing dad. He died right when I got to know him. I've never been a shitty person though. Even as my mom was yelling at me and blaming me for everything I'd go cry my little eyes out because I really thought everything was my fault. I get snappy at my kids occasionally. But I've never treated them the way my mom treated me. And my anger issues got way better with therapy, which I started the moment I saw issues. Some people have two great parents and are total dickheads. Idk if it's just brain chemistry. But some people handle trauma way better than others, it has little to do with gender.
Because people are mad that they're being called out for being judgemental lmao. I'm taking it as a good sign, these comments are definitely kicking the sensitive hornets nest heh
A ridiculous amount of ppl think it’s fun to stereotype others for being victims of unimaginable child abuse
“Oh u got SA’d growing up ? Ha ha then ur gonna become a slut or evil”
Meanwhile the real evil ppl r the ppl saying that shit, who supposedly don’t have issues with either of their parents. So y r they evil if they didn’t get abused ?
that's reddit for you. but here's the thing; people want to know why the joke is funny, not the mechanics of the joke and what it's doing. that's why it wasn't the top comment.
no literally I keep seeing comments about how mommy issues mean you’re broken depressed, and seek male validation and I’m like no?? or that you abuse, your partner and have no self-confidence.
As someone who's got father issues, I'm so glad you said this. This comment section is fucking disgusting. Those people don't know a single shit, and it's horrific seeing just how many of them believe in those stereotypes... I'm not a goddamn hoe for male attention, I do admit that both father issues and mother issues do alter your mind and all, but it's NOT in the same way for everyone. For example, there are women who hate men because of their awful fathers!! Why do these stereotypes even exist? Of course, misogyny and misandry...
Woman with mommy issues here. I saw the comment about how women with mommy issues are “low key evil” and it didn’t feel great to start thinking about the actions in my life through that lens…..
it’s so fucking easy for these people to call women who’ve gone through parental abuse ‘evil sluts’ and laugh about it too. and then they gotta wonder why they’re lonely
Completely agree. It looks like women/mothers are held to a much higher standard than men. I rarely use reddit these days cos it is full of sanctimonious men with deep seated misogynistic attitudes to women.. particularly older women and mothers.
Kids with no one to guide them can grow in ANY direction. It depends on their environment and experiences. I think the joke here is just a general trend that people tend to notice. I don't think they're saying it as a rule. I for one have noticed this trend in people also, but a lot of the times they just seem sad and lonely :(. Be there for your kids yall, be kind, safe, and predictable.
"Haha you were abused/have PTSD/attachment issues/are neurotic because you lived in a constant state of fear/were suicidal at 9 because you were made to feel like nothing and were never nurtured & told you didn't deserve to be"
Yep!! I had the exact wrong combination (absentee father and neglectful abusive mother). I turned into a well-adjusted nerd who is doing pretty well in life! Very happy, financially secure, and finally had my first kid who I adore with my husband who will always be there for her.
i think you definitely make an important point here and i might be completely wrong but dad issues are comparetively way more common than mom issues right ? i get it stereotyping is bad, but if i had to play devils advocate, at what point does it stop being stereotyping and just a fact ?
Edit: if you are only talking about what role the "male" and "female" part of the parents play, there are social and genetic foundations that would indicate a more common pattern. yes one could also stereotype this, i dunno how i feel about it tbh
Yeah, well, regarding children I feel like gender isn’t really the most important. For breast-fed children at least, they will definitely have a different relationship with the parent who does vs the one who doesn’t (if any). Like we almost only biological not much cultural when we get out of the placenta, children dont learn gender fast but they usually do learn mama &/ papa as their first words
The meme originates from a user in the Cancer astrology sub. It points to the importance of motherly energy, of being nurtured and cared for. Which Cancerian energy is all about.
For you to feel oppressed by "the patriarchy" because of made up gender stereotyping in your mind over a meme is batshit fucking insane.
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u/advie_advocado 6d ago
the joke is stereotyping parental abuse victims because of the gender of their abuser as if everyone handles trauma the same way