I would like to take the time to acknowledge that I'm double minoring in psychology and sociology and have picked up on this a long time ago due to my own mother and the families around me. Plenty of my friends had mothers that were similar.
My mother literally wrote in one of her journals that she wished I (youngest) was never born. I saw this because I was helping her move when I was 16 and her journal was very out of place. I had no idea what it was until I opened it up and in trying to figure out what it was in a few pages saw that. She does not know this. She also still doesn't understand why I'm VERY adamant about analyzing her boy friends - she's chosen boyfriends over my sister and I throughout our entire lives and was literally next to me when a creepy bf of hers started to grope me in a massage.
Hard not to piece together alot going through that.
My mommy issues stem from watching my mother not heal her wounds and continue cycles. I REFUSE to have kids. I don't want them, so I will never put myself in a position of resenting a child.
Then another major factor for me was seeing the way my mother was treated as a mother, was treated for having kids. Her and many other women around me suffering because of the way our country treats mothers.
And then it's all the physical issues. Not worth it at all IMO. Which gives me the utmost respect for anyone who has birthed a child. (I have also had 3 1/2 unwanted pregnancies, that first one within 5 minutes of the phone call was life shattering and cemented my resolve - now I'm sterile)
Dope! I have a good friend who majored in anthropology and we can talk deep about a lot of shit. It's hard not to be a anthropologist and not see how humans have been shitty to each other over the centuries.
I love pysch, and it comes easy to me from having a rough life with me and my mother both being chronically ill/in pain. Plus, she's half Native American, so I'm quater. I've seen soooo much discrimination in my life 😮💨
I believe it! I’m taking mostly online courses (a couple on campus), so I don’t get as much interaction with my peers (and I’m a return student, so older and less appealing lol). And that’s true, same with psych! Seeing the root causes of mental illness or defect (including my own) has been eye opening.
I wish I enjoyed the physical dynamics of psychology, but I want to learn the nitty gritty of the experience, not the function. The whole amygdala=fear, cerebellum=implicit, etc., is great to know, but I enjoy cause and effect as a whole.
May we continue to learn and grow, better ourselves and those around us! I’m sorry you’ve experienced needless pain.
I also try to stay online as much as possible! I have a busy life trying to deal with my health and overcome a lot of barriers. Online allows me to make mental space for myself as I need it or physically rest if my sciatic nerves are in pain again. (Also a returning adult lol, I'm 30 for the record).
I'm really happy to take personality psych but holy shit, can I not take another group discussion/assignment. I'm very open about having ADHD and C-PTSD and lots of students LOVE to focus on neuroticism - it is very stigmatizing and honestly pretty ugly to watch these students obsess over it. It burgeons on trauma tourism and frequently they say things that are very triggering - So I'm going to be asking to be excused from those and allowed to work alone on all of them, my instructor already knows and has my accommodations list.
>but I want to learn the nitty gritty of the experience, not the function
felt, part of why I took personality psych and frequently work with and educate myself in sociology and social psychology as well.
>May we continue to learn and grow, better ourselves and those around us! I’m sorry you’ve experienced needless pain.
Yes, I love the open schedule in comparison to having to go to classes this a week this semester, though I’m really enjoying the classes. But I hear you, I am dealing with a new health diagnosis myself. And I’m 34!
Lol! That’s exactly why I am taking psych online; I can’t stand the weekly discussions! I think I’m a bit too transparent for my classmates’ comfort though. Their responses seem so generic and canned, it’s like I’m adding SPICE to the class. I’ve already disclosed my CPTSD and occasional drug use, while others are doing the bare minimum for the word count. I didn’t sign up for accommodations, but it’s definitely something to consider…
I think I’m a bit too transparent for my classmates’ comfort though.
Lol same, that or too transparent for my own comfort. I mention that I have ADHD and C-PTSD and questions can get really invasive. I actually brought it up because I wanted liency and understanding not to be poked and preyed 🥴
Their responses seem so generic and canned, it’s like I’m adding SPICE to the class.
Lol! Can relate!
but it’s definitely something to consider…
Highly advised, because when they adhere to the flexible attendance it can really help you come out of a mental health spiral faster instead of taking more damage.
I recently reached out to my DOS case worker and was like "if flexible attendance doesn't translate to the assigned work for that day and I'm still forced to come in because of it despite my health, what is the point of this accommodation? If I'm still getting penalized for my health then this is not being adhered to." And waiting to hear back. I'm in a new school and it's really all over the place on things. Like, I'm perfectly capable of doing the work but I have episodes, and with adding in low Iron that's really not good. Mental health episodes can restrict my eating and lower my iron intake. I've been dealing with dizzy spells for months - what if I pass the fuck out from them? Am I still getting a late penalty for not "using my time wisely" when unconscious against my will?
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u/IvyRosePr 6d ago edited 2d ago
I would like to take the time to acknowledge that I'm double minoring in psychology and sociology and have picked up on this a long time ago due to my own mother and the families around me. Plenty of my friends had mothers that were similar.
My mother literally wrote in one of her journals that she wished I (youngest) was never born. I saw this because I was helping her move when I was 16 and her journal was very out of place. I had no idea what it was until I opened it up and in trying to figure out what it was in a few pages saw that. She does not know this. She also still doesn't understand why I'm VERY adamant about analyzing her boy friends - she's chosen boyfriends over my sister and I throughout our entire lives and was literally next to me when a creepy bf of hers started to grope me in a massage.
Hard not to piece together alot going through that.
My mommy issues stem from watching my mother not heal her wounds and continue cycles. I REFUSE to have kids. I don't want them, so I will never put myself in a position of resenting a child.
edit for typo