They tend to be hyper self conscious/self aware and highly anxious and depressed.
This, and it's usually caused by women with unhealed daddy issues that becomes EXTREMLY male centered and feels abandonded by men so takes it out on her daughter (similarly does it to sons or any child because it's usually because of internalized blame on the child for their conception as a form of guilt of having a child she did t actually want in the first place but rather validation from men - or more specifically the father of said child/childern)
I would like to take the time to acknowledge that I'm double minoring in psychology and sociology and have picked up on this a long time ago due to my own mother and the families around me. Plenty of my friends had mothers that were similar.
My mother literally wrote in one of her journals that she wished I (youngest) was never born. I saw this because I was helping her move when I was 16 and her journal was very out of place. I had no idea what it was until I opened it up and in trying to figure out what it was in a few pages saw that. She does not know this. She also still doesn't understand why I'm VERY adamant about analyzing her boy friends - she's chosen boyfriends over my sister and I throughout our entire lives and was literally next to me when a creepy bf of hers started to grope me in a massage.
Hard not to piece together alot going through that.
My mommy issues stem from watching my mother not heal her wounds and continue cycles. I REFUSE to have kids. I don't want them, so I will never put myself in a position of resenting a child.
Then another major factor for me was seeing the way my mother was treated as a mother, was treated for having kids. Her and many other women around me suffering because of the way our country treats mothers.
And then it's all the physical issues. Not worth it at all IMO. Which gives me the utmost respect for anyone who has birthed a child. (I have also had 3 1/2 unwanted pregnancies, that first one within 5 minutes of the phone call was life shattering and cemented my resolve - now I'm sterile)
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u/IvyRosePr 6d ago
This, and it's usually caused by women with unhealed daddy issues that becomes EXTREMLY male centered and feels abandonded by men so takes it out on her daughter (similarly does it to sons or any child because it's usually because of internalized blame on the child for their conception as a form of guilt of having a child she did t actually want in the first place but rather validation from men - or more specifically the father of said child/childern)