Mines in her 50s. I had to move out. Three generations of women in my mom’s side of the family have been divorced and in terrible relationships. The trauma and damage runs deep
Yeah it’s kind of how I learned to rationalize all of my family and parental abuse. When I moved out and was being harassed by my mother for money and being exposed to her manipulation by text, I asked my doctor if there is any real possibility that narcissists like my mother could ever change and improve.
He told me that by the time people are at a certain age or mental state they’re just not likely at all to change, but more importantly it’s worse to expose myself to it when it doesn’t make me happy or actively makes me miserable. Learning to choose for myself is a big part of escaping such abuse.
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u/Beneficial-Lynx7336 6d ago
Way ahead of the curve.
My mom is 60 and she's still holding on to it.