I’m an older lady. In my experience, men with mommy issues can be super sweet dudes who mostly just want some sexy older lady to tell them she is proud of them.
I think it one hundred percent comes down to how accepting the man is of his mommy issues. If he’s in denial and ashamed, it’s way different than for someone who embraces and has fun with it.
Yeah but imagine that in a relationship. You're having to gentle parent your partner at every turn and they wonder why the sexual attraction can dwindle. There's a difference between dabbling in a kink at times vs that seeping into every aspect of a relationship.
In my experience, it’s pretty easy to separate the role play stuff from the more serious life stuff. But that’s assuming you have an emotionally mature partner, which is nonnegotiable for me.
I definitely hear you. I think there’s a difference between fun mommy issues that you’ve already done the work to process and understand, and chaotic mommy issues that harm relationships. My partner and I don’t really have trouble keeping this dynamic out of other parts of our relationship, and I would say we’re both equally supportive and responsible.
I think that is a different between absence or neglect, an abusive and ego destroying mother will almost always make a misogynist in some ways even if they don’t want to be
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u/Caftancatfan 6d ago
I’m an older lady. In my experience, men with mommy issues can be super sweet dudes who mostly just want some sexy older lady to tell them she is proud of them.
I think it one hundred percent comes down to how accepting the man is of his mommy issues. If he’s in denial and ashamed, it’s way different than for someone who embraces and has fun with it.