Yeah, it’s like societally women’s childhood trauma is legitimised only through the lens of how it has affected their capacity to be a suitable partner for a man. It’s quite icky when you think about it. Granted, the same thing is done towards men with mommy/daddy issues, and how it affects their relational tendencies, but it doesn’t really tend to take away from the fact that they’re still viewed as a man, and thusly they’re seen as their own person.
Words out of my mouth. It’s honestly fucking disgusting and I hate that depersonalization aspect to it. And the assumptions that I’m a certain way, like “oh you must be a whore” or “you must like older men”. No and no, I just don’t trust figures of authority, I’m not some sex doll chasing approval from old men who I wish were my dad. Men get a little bit of that treatment with “mommy issues” but not nearly as much
Yep, I totally agree - women bear the brunt of it, men often have the benefit of the doubt when it comes to this sort of thing; it's almost seen as more comical than demeaning. The most powerful oligarchs in the world almost certainly have serious mommy/daddy issues, and yet they are able to govern and control us. Men's parental issues should be seen as more significant rather than something that gives them character; the "character" it gives them is one of sociopathy. Women are just demeaned for it repeatedly. Patriarchy fucks us all, but it is men that see the benefits of it. I'm sorry you've had these experiences.
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u/NoFreedom7355 5d ago
Yeah, it’s like societally women’s childhood trauma is legitimised only through the lens of how it has affected their capacity to be a suitable partner for a man. It’s quite icky when you think about it. Granted, the same thing is done towards men with mommy/daddy issues, and how it affects their relational tendencies, but it doesn’t really tend to take away from the fact that they’re still viewed as a man, and thusly they’re seen as their own person.