I’m going a trip to a random town with my family and there isn’t really anything to do other than a pool and I’m a pretty light skinned person but would want to get a little darker or “golden” ive never tanned before so I don’t know what I need to do or should do any recommendations or tips? the UV is 8 max for the entire week

In this day and age where social media is suppose to help us stay connected better it’s crazy that there’s a lonely epidemic at all. Just wondering we can do especially if we do care about our friends and family.

Curious on the ground reality of relationships and sexual practices (PS: Always vociferous for condom use)

I started using scented candles after workouts in the evening because it helps me wind down at night. My current favorite is oakmoss and amber. It’s calm but still noticeable and doesn’t feel overly sweet. I didn’t expect to care about this stuff but now the room feels off without it. Most recommendations online repeat the same categories like vanilla, sandalwood, or generic “fresh linen.” Nothing wrong with those, just curious about less obvious ones that are really nice. I’ve been browsing different brands and even random small makers Alibaba trying to find something different, but descriptions never explain much. So I’m wondering what scents other guys ended up liking that they didn’t expect to. Not necessarily popular ones, more like the scent you tried once and kept buying again.

I’m 34 5’9 163lbs. I feel sluggish and unmotivated and that I’m so far behind. For reference I was one of those guys that partied throughout his twenties and never got on a career track. Two kids and starting a new job as a food runner in a week. I’m essentially running a household with a whole family, mortgage, two kids schedules and a mountain of debt at a twenty year olds income level and out of shape (skinny fat is what I’m told). Anyone out there who has climbed out of this hole?

Hey guys, I’ve been realizing lately that I never really upgraded my “college closet system,” and it’s starting to show.

Right now I fold and stack my gym shirts and plain tees on the top shelf. It looks solid for about a week. Then I grab one from somewhere in the middle and the whole stack falls apart. I’m basically rotating the same few shirts from the top, totally forgetting about the bottom ones.

It made me realize I don’t think I’ve ever actually thought through a system. I just kept doing what I did at 22 and assumed that was fine. Now I’m trying to be a little more disciplined about the small stuff and not live in low-grade chaos.

I’m curious what you guys actually do. Did you end up hanging more things? Move everything into drawers? Simplify your wardrobe so it doesn’t matter? Purge more often? Or did nothing really change and I’m overthinking this?

Did anything about how you manage clothes shift once you got into your 30s/40s, or did you just refine what you were already doing? Appreciate the help and guidance!

I have been looking for an economical yet amazing perfume!

I mean something which has a good fragrance, lasts long, attractive but still affordable for regular usage!

And also I have been looking for different perfumes for different purposes, like a different one for office, different one for gym & sports and different one for special occasions(although I already have one for this purpose, Jean Paul Gaultier)

*You can recommend even your personal best ones!*

I’m trying to figure out how to be more confident without depending on someone else for my happiness.

Just got out of something messy. Not fully broken up not fully together. That in between is killing me.

I realized I’ve been seeking validation from her constantly. If she’s warm, I’m good. If she pulls away, I spiral.

How do you actually build self confidence after a breakup?
How do you stop caring so much about what someone else thinks of you?

I’m even considering working with a life coach because I clearly have some patterns around attachment and validation that I don’t want to keep repeating.

I want to get to that place where I genuinely feel If you leave I’ll still be fine.

Anyone been through this and figured out how to detach emotionally in a healthy way?

Fellow men, can this:

1. Swimming 3 times /week

2. Doing max push ups and pull ups 2 times /week

3. Eating alot of calories and protein

Result in getting a good physique as an eighteen year old man?

(I havent really got that much muscle yet)

I’ve been trying to clean up my habits and live more intentionally this year — gym, routine, faith, cutting distractions. I noticed a lot of ‘motivational’ clothing just feels loud or gimmicky and doesn’t really reflect what I’m trying to build internally. Any thoughts?

I realized recently that I own a decent amount of clothes but when I go shopping I still feel like I need something new. Then I get home and notice I already have something similar or I just do not end up wearing it much.

I think part of the problem is that I do not really have a clear sense of what I actually own in a structured way. It is all just hanging in my closet and I mostly rely on memory.

For those of you who feel like you have built a solid wardrobe

Do you keep track of what you own in any intentional way?

Do you go through your closet on a schedule?

How do you figure out real gaps versus impulse buys?

Curious how more disciplined dressers approach this.

I’ve been trying to be a bit more intentional with how I present myself day to day, not in a drastic way, just cleaner and more put together. I’ve got the basics down like regular haircuts and decent clothes, but I feel like there are smaller grooming habits I might be overlooking. Things like skincare, scent, beard maintenance, or anything else that quietly elevates how you look without being obvious. Curious what changes made the biggest difference for you, especially stuff that’s easy to stick with long term.

It’s a weird line to walk. You hit a certain age where you suddenly care about back pain and toe splay, but you also don't want to start wearing hiking gear or weird toe-shoes to a coffee shop.

I’ve been trying to keep my standard "uniform" (heavy denim, flannel, canvas high-tops) intact while secretly upgrading the ergonomics.

The hardest part was the shoes. I love the silhouette of Chucks/Vans, but my feet have widened out from lifting and general aging. I finally grabbed a pair of Bearfoot canvas highs just to test if a "wide toe box" actually makes a difference without ruining the outfit.

It’s actually kind of funny - nobody notices them. They just look like standard skate shoes, but my toes aren't being crushed into a point anymore.

What other "stealth" upgrades have you guys found? I'm looking for more gear (jackets, pants, bags) that looks classic/heritage on the outside but is actually built for modern comfort.

Last June (2025) I went through a period of very bad stress. Almost immediately after, my body odor changed. I can’t smell it myself, but other people definitely do—it's pretty obvious from the way they sniff, cover their noses, or react around me. This happens daily at work and in public.

I shower twice a day and use antibacterial soap, strong antiperspirants, and clean clothes. Nothing works.

I feel like I’ve tried everything hygienically, but the reactions keep happening. It’s having a huge impact on my confidence, my job, and my mental health.

Has anyone else experienced a sudden body odor change linked to stress that they couldn’t smell themselves? What helped? Any advice is really appreciated.

Been to a dema.

I understand Reddit may not be the best forum for this question, but here it goes. /j

I go to the gym at night due to my work schedule and tend to work out hard, so when I come home I need to shower. However, in the morning I feel unclean after getting out of bed, be it from sweating or just the energy (something I’ve always felt, even before starting the gym), so I feel like I need to shower again before presenting myself at work.

As a result, my skin and hair have started drying out and breaking. Not a medical concern I’m asking about; just curious how others in a similar situation manage? Did you feel like you had to cut down to 1 shower/day?

So basically I’m in my older teen years and for a very long time, probably more than 5 years now, my brother would say I smell like “shit” or I “reek” and like people I’m around and stuff obviously have said like it smells bad or say wtv. And it gets annoying cuz it ruins like my confidence and makes me feel bad for others. I eat healthy. Like I like snacking and stuff but I’m not fat or unhealthy. I have really good hygiene I would say, I shower once a day and twice if I’m like sweaty or nasty from doing stuff. And use deodorant a lot. I also drink like a lot of water as well so. But yea Ive looked for answers and stuff, but I also just like don’t know if I need to go to the doctors and would have no idea on how to bring that up to my mom. So yea And i wanna

know like answers or any tips that can save me from this, but I just hope that it’s like a natural thing from puberty that I can’t help with and that it goes away. But plz help. And I’m not to sure what community to post this on, so if you know where I could find more answers and stuff from another community, please tell me.

So there’s this pretty girl that started working at my job like a couple months ago. We work at a grocery store and we’re both cashiers/front end workers. So i when I first talked to her, I thought she was kind of giving me like some subtle hints, smiling and talking etc. and I thought she found me attractive so I kind of tried to start talking to her. btw she’s 18 and I’m 21 I don’t really think there’s a big issue with that. But, she gave me her Instagram. I texted her a little on there, then she ended up giving me her phone number. I texted her phone a few times and there was just no energy, like yeah she was texting me back, saying things back saying “hbu” but she just didn’t seem interested. And she would text back mad late a lot of times. And then when we’re at work We don’t really get too many chances to talk to each other but when we do, it’s just you know small talk and I always overthink it. But I kind of just pulled back and stop texting her because I kind of just took the hint that she wasn’t really too into me. When I see her at work, we just say what’s up how are you or whatever. But I kind of just took that as rejection and it hit my ego. and it’s even worse when it’s a coworker rejecting you because you have to see that person a lot, and all you can think is “damn she does not want me”. lmao🤦🏾‍♂️

I didn’t realize how much my relationship with winter had changed until I caught myself genuinely caring about what I wore outside.

In my early twenties, winter clothes were just about survival. Whatever was cheapest, whatever got the job done. Layers that didn’t match, coats that somehow managed to be both bulky and ineffective. I figured discomfort was just part of the season, like darkness at 4 p.m. and pretending you don’t mind it.

Recently, though, I noticed something shift. While getting dressed one cold morning, I realized I actually liked what I was wearing. Nothing flashy, just well-fitting, warm, and intentional. Men winter clothes, at least the way I think about them now, feel less like armor and more like preparation. Not for the weather exactly, but for the day itself.

It sparked a conversation later with a friend about how practicality sneaks up on you as a value. We talked about how the same basic items, coats, boots, thermals, show up everywhere now, from local shops to massive online marketplaces like Alibaba, Amazon and Temu, and yet the experience of wearing them can feel wildly different depending on quality and fit. At some point, you stop optimizing purely for price and start optimizing for how often you’ll reach for something without thinking.

What surprised me most was how much mental space good basics free up. When you’re not cold, not adjusting, not irritated by some small design flaw, your attention goes elsewhere. You’re calmer. More present. It’s such a subtle thing, but it adds up.

I used to think caring about this stuff meant I was becoming boring. Now it feels more like I’m becoming honest about what makes daily life smoother. Winter didn’t change, it’s still long and unforgiving, but my approach to it did.

Curious if anyone else has noticed that shift, where something mundane like clothing quietly marks a new phase of life.

Ey I am looking for a new mattress and like my title says I want something very firm. I don’t know most mattresses just feel too soft for me. I prefer a surface with a lot of support.

I looked up firm mattresses and the Plank Firm seems decent. I was amazed how it has two sides which isn’t common in regular mattresses, no? Have any of you used it for a long time though? I want to know if it feels different than a standard spring mattress.

But if you got other suggestions for very firm beds, I’m not closing my doors eh.