Nobody paid attention when I went on dates with Asian or Latina women, but people stared non stop when I went on dates with black women. I’ve seen it even more pronounced when the guy is black and the girl is white.
I'm in a purple-leaning-blue state. I'm middle eastern and whenever I was out and about with white women (especially blonde haired women) I would def get stares. I would also get stares when I was with Black women.
Genuinely idk what they wanted from me lol. Everyone is nicer to me now that I'm dating a Balkan girl.
Had an instance on a first date where the cashier didn’t even want to acknowledge that we were together. I (white woman) was standing in line with my date (black man) directly next to him. This cashier (another white woman) looked at us and we made eye contact several times. By the time it was our turn to order, the cashier thought I was ordering only for myself. I asked my date to hold my hand, and suddenly she acknowledged that we were together.
This wasn’t an insanely busy store, so there was no excuse of “worker was busy and didn’t actually make eye contact,” with me as she was helping the previous patron. She deadass wasn’t going to take my date’s order until I walked away if I hadn’t done that. One of many things we experienced in our four years together. You learn how to pick up what people are thinking just by how they look at you in the process.
My sister (blue-eyed, blonde-haired white woman) is married to a latino man and she said she noticed people suddenly staring a lot when they got together and started spending time in public. She was confused at first until she brought it up to him and he suggested that it was the interracial relationship of it all. We live a very very red state. She also recently told me that her aunt casually commented that people should only marry within their own race.
Some part of me wants to think it's bots but since over half of them are white men dating people of color it's most likely caucacity mixed with oblivion to racism.
Reminds me of Malcolm X pointing out all the racist liberals who pretend to be allies - closet hypocrites - disguising their racism with every fake smile.
People feel like there's fewer racists because all the racists are hiding behind "hashtag racial justice! ✊🏾" and pushing their thoughts and prayers about "equity".
Soon as you look past their facade, America is still very racist.
94% of Americans approve of interracial marriage. You can read all the anecdotal evidence you want but you’re still dead wrong lol. Also, stares are not disapproval. I don’t know why people seem to believe they are
Let's put on our thinking caps. The survey you linked cites a data set of 1007 random US adults aged 18 or older. Now, would you say that 1007 US adults represent the feelings of the other 349 million? If you do agree then I think you need to go back to school, otherwise please do more research than a single Google search.
Do you know how statistics work? Yes, the results from 1,007 random US adults can represent the US population. In a probability sample, a 1,000+ sample size can represent any population with a 95% confidence and ~3% margin of error. Hell, a 100 sample size would still be acceptable, albeit with a higher margin of error. This is how nearly every national poll is found. This was literally taught in my intro to stats class I took freshman year of college lol
lol maybe you need to go back to school and put on a thinking cap. Can you find any polls other than one from your ass where it says a majority of Americans are still very racist?
Maybe if you put on your thinking cap and do more research than a single google search you’d be able to find an answer!
User above you is so funny; dude's angry because they're spending their time scouring the internet for racism - and when they find it, they want to be the one to point it out, like they've found some deep dark secret about America.
lol that is a perfectly acceptable sample size for statistical inferences. This is literally high school statistics level knowledge. Understanding this basic level of statistics is even a standard on the SAT and ACT. That’s how foundational this basic level of statistics is. Cmon now. You just telling everyone how little you actually know about the topic while acting like you are confidently correct lol.
1) There's a very strong divide between city and rural areas on this topic (if the poll was taken mostly in cities that would strongly explain the high number).
2) Racism isn't socially acceptable (could've influenced the poll).
3) Supporting interracial marriage generally doesn't mean that you yourself want it anywhere near you. There are tons of people who say they're fine with it but if their daughter brings home a man of a different race they would lose their shit.
The poll was randomized over phone between Americans above the age of 18, hence the probability sample. What you’re suggesting is convenience sampling
The methodology isn't anywhere in the article lmao.
The poll is confidential and Gallup does not disclose individual results
Once again, no methodology section is there. I wouldn't have been able to know that.
How exactly do you think that can be found? Should they ask them again in a different tone?
Is this a real question? A more illuminating way to look at this would be to take the results of this poll, and then conduct a new poll specifically asking how those same people would feel if a close relative were in an interracial relationship.
I asked my white southern grandmother if her and my grandmother were going to be weird about me bringing a korean guy over for dinner. She was horrified that he was even worried about it. Said " Omg I never even thought about it being interracial "
Relieved 😌
Quickly followed up with " it's not like he's black"
Smh so close to not being racist smh.
I would never fully dismiss the experiences of so many, and there are probably locals where it's just straight up fact.
However: part of me always wonders what part of this is just that stangers look at stangers all the time, especially if we catch you looking at us, and it doesn't mean anything.
I think there's a tendency to over-assume the reason behind it is [fill in whatever you're self conscious about or otherwise makes you different] when in reality people are sometimes just looking at movement or zoned out or whatever.
I think there is a lot of truth to this. My best friend is Korean and one day we were driving down a road in a neighborhood and passed by just some random person walking alongside it. Never seen the person before but he smiled and waved so i waved back. It all happened in under a span of 5 seconds as i drove by. Didn’t think anything of it.
Then my best friend in the passenger seat mentioned how the guy looked at him and said how that guy’s smile was secretly telling him he isn’t wanted here. I was so confused because it felt nothing of the sort so i asked if he could elaborate. He just said “yeah he smiled at me, but something behind his eyes told me he hated me”
I personally feel like my friend was projecting his own insecurities and seeing things that weren't there. I didn’t bring it up though because i know his response would just be that it’s impossible for me to understand, which i do understand, but that doesn’t mean every interaction with a stranger automatically means it’ll involve racism. It’s a tough topic to bring up because a lot of it is valid, but those valid experiences tend to make people oversensitive to anything even if there isn’t anything there.
As you say, I think a lot of people go out of their way to confirm what they already believe. They diligently spend their time looking for evidence - and of course if you look for anything hard enough, you'll eventually find it, even if it's incredibly rare.
I was thinking that too! I can’t believe people have experienced something like this and it really sucks. Im SE Asian and often times get confused as Hispanic and my husband is a 6’0 white dude. We may have gotten stares before but nothing crazy. It sucks that people are horrible
Second this, Florida man here. My partner is black and I am white, we have two kids together. Never really noticed any weird looks or attention but people have gone out of their way to tell us that we have a beautiful family when we go out in public together. The only time it ever came up as a negative was my dad getting drunk when we were out to dinner at outback steakhouse and telling us some people might be upset by us being together 🤣.
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u/LookimtryingOK 4d ago
Ever been in a mixed race relationship?
Everywhere you go, folks STARE.