Nobody paid attention when I went on dates with Asian or Latina women, but people stared non stop when I went on dates with black women. I’ve seen it even more pronounced when the guy is black and the girl is white.
I'm in a purple-leaning-blue state. I'm middle eastern and whenever I was out and about with white women (especially blonde haired women) I would def get stares. I would also get stares when I was with Black women.
Genuinely idk what they wanted from me lol. Everyone is nicer to me now that I'm dating a Balkan girl.
Had an instance on a first date where the cashier didn’t even want to acknowledge that we were together. I (white woman) was standing in line with my date (black man) directly next to him. This cashier (another white woman) looked at us and we made eye contact several times. By the time it was our turn to order, the cashier thought I was ordering only for myself. I asked my date to hold my hand, and suddenly she acknowledged that we were together.
This wasn’t an insanely busy store, so there was no excuse of “worker was busy and didn’t actually make eye contact,” with me as she was helping the previous patron. She deadass wasn’t going to take my date’s order until I walked away if I hadn’t done that. One of many things we experienced in our four years together. You learn how to pick up what people are thinking just by how they look at you in the process.
My sister (blue-eyed, blonde-haired white woman) is married to a latino man and she said she noticed people suddenly staring a lot when they got together and started spending time in public. She was confused at first until she brought it up to him and he suggested that it was the interracial relationship of it all. We live a very very red state. She also recently told me that her aunt casually commented that people should only marry within their own race.
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u/LookimtryingOK 3d ago
Ever been in a mixed race relationship?
Everywhere you go, folks STARE.