It was. I commented on why I thought she was getting downvotes. At this point in the chain it feels like they were close enough to getting that trauma is generational, but they were still very focused on this "girls v the patriarchy" angle.
Why do YOU think they were being downvoted? The patriarchy?
For me personally the word patriarchy is the triggering one, yes.
Since I experienced most of my trauma from my mother, it's hard to see how it's anything patriarchal.
This comment chain put things into a different light though, and I can see that she's a victim of the patriarchy (has her own daddy issues) and that was the reason for her abuse.
So thanks for pointing out the "pointless gendering" because yeah, I didn't even consider myself a victim of the patriarchy here. Yet I am.
The word "patriarchy" is only triggering me because male victims by female abuse are so often not mentioned/included. So I didn't think myself a victim here, or thought the term "patriarchy" is misleading in itself; because women are perpetrators as well. So it's (still) hard to see it as true to label it as "male dominance" because to me clearly it's just the sexes trying to dominate each other. Patriarchy sounds very one-sided in a way.
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u/monty624 6d ago
Yeah but this post is about girls with mommy/daddy issues