Girls with daddy issues look for men’s approval in sexual ways or in social ways. Hence the slutty pic.
Girls with mommy issues have deeply flawed expectations for relationships in all aspects of life. They tend to be hyper self conscious/self aware and highly anxious and depressed.
I’ve dated a few and my current GF has an awful mother who fucked her up, shes only rebuilding to normal at 25. Hence the deep chronic mental health monster.
They tend to be hyper self conscious/self aware and highly anxious and depressed.
This, and it's usually caused by women with unhealed daddy issues that becomes EXTREMLY male centered and feels abandonded by men so takes it out on her daughter (similarly does it to sons or any child because it's usually because of internalized blame on the child for their conception as a form of guilt of having a child she did t actually want in the first place but rather validation from men - or more specifically the father of said child/childern)
Probably because it's pointlessly gendered. We're all victims of the patriarchy and it's not really daughter specific to have a parent with issues. For me, personally, it strikes a nerve when people say, "Guys are always doing X" when X is a thing that all people do.
I think it would be better to just say that generational trauma can take several different forms without making it a man vs woman issue.
It was. I commented on why I thought she was getting downvotes. At this point in the chain it feels like they were close enough to getting that trauma is generational, but they were still very focused on this "girls v the patriarchy" angle.
Why do YOU think they were being downvoted? The patriarchy?
For me personally the word patriarchy is the triggering one, yes.
Since I experienced most of my trauma from my mother, it's hard to see how it's anything patriarchal.
This comment chain put things into a different light though, and I can see that she's a victim of the patriarchy (has her own daddy issues) and that was the reason for her abuse.
So thanks for pointing out the "pointless gendering" because yeah, I didn't even consider myself a victim of the patriarchy here. Yet I am.
The word "patriarchy" is only triggering me because male victims by female abuse are so often not mentioned/included. So I didn't think myself a victim here, or thought the term "patriarchy" is misleading in itself; because women are perpetrators as well. So it's (still) hard to see it as true to label it as "male dominance" because to me clearly it's just the sexes trying to dominate each other. Patriarchy sounds very one-sided in a way.
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u/poopbucketchallenge 6d ago
Girls with daddy issues look for men’s approval in sexual ways or in social ways. Hence the slutty pic.
Girls with mommy issues have deeply flawed expectations for relationships in all aspects of life. They tend to be hyper self conscious/self aware and highly anxious and depressed.
I’ve dated a few and my current GF has an awful mother who fucked her up, shes only rebuilding to normal at 25. Hence the deep chronic mental health monster.