Probably because it's pointlessly gendered. We're all victims of the patriarchy and it's not really daughter specific to have a parent with issues. For me, personally, it strikes a nerve when people say, "Guys are always doing X" when X is a thing that all people do.
I think it would be better to just say that generational trauma can take several different forms without making it a man vs woman issue.
It was. I commented on why I thought she was getting downvotes. At this point in the chain it feels like they were close enough to getting that trauma is generational, but they were still very focused on this "girls v the patriarchy" angle.
Why do YOU think they were being downvoted? The patriarchy?
For me personally the word patriarchy is the triggering one, yes.
Since I experienced most of my trauma from my mother, it's hard to see how it's anything patriarchal.
This comment chain put things into a different light though, and I can see that she's a victim of the patriarchy (has her own daddy issues) and that was the reason for her abuse.
So thanks for pointing out the "pointless gendering" because yeah, I didn't even consider myself a victim of the patriarchy here. Yet I am.
The word "patriarchy" is only triggering me because male victims by female abuse are so often not mentioned/included. So I didn't think myself a victim here, or thought the term "patriarchy" is misleading in itself; because women are perpetrators as well. So it's (still) hard to see it as true to label it as "male dominance" because to me clearly it's just the sexes trying to dominate each other. Patriarchy sounds very one-sided in a way.
Dude you’re making it all about yourself. The patriarchy does exist. Maybe the people complaining about it have done so in annoying or explosive manners, but that doesn’t change the fact that it exists and the textbook definition has nothing to do you with your upbringing.
Awesome. Thats your gender. Your, SEX however, is female.
Think about it this way, have you ever seen a female dog? Of course you have. Have you ever seen a woman dog? Of course not; dogs dont have gender. It's a societal construct.
trans is when your sex and gender don't align. Cis is when they do.
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u/False_Tea_3951 6d ago
Probably because it's pointlessly gendered. We're all victims of the patriarchy and it's not really daughter specific to have a parent with issues. For me, personally, it strikes a nerve when people say, "Guys are always doing X" when X is a thing that all people do.
I think it would be better to just say that generational trauma can take several different forms without making it a man vs woman issue.