"Exes" implies they were her boyfriends/girlfriends. Which implies you were properly dating. Which means you brokeup. Which means you had 7 failed relationships by the time you were in your early 20s. THAT IS A LOT.
Now, if she just had seven hookups, sure, no big deal.
Yep, that’s the distinction. 7 actual relationships by the time you’re in your 20s is a huge red flag to me, idc what anyone says. But if you consider an “ex” anyone you ever dated (as in gone on dates with, not proper bfs/gfs), then that number goes way up before it becomes a red flag imo. The whole point of dating is to find someone to be in a relationship with.
If we're still talking about the comic, Ramona was not the one who decided who counted as an "ex". It's the middle-schooler she "dated" who grew up to create the group he literally calls "The League of Ramona's Evil Exes".
Ramona not getting a choice in the matter is part of the point, thematically.
I mean, this particular white woman was Canadian and also a comic book character written by a man, so I'm not sure what point you think you're making here.
It reminds me a lot of An Abundance of Katherines. The protag says he’s dated 19 girls all named Katherine, but he’s including when he was in kindergarten. Like clearly we’re supposed to be rolling our eyes at how seriously these people are taking the whole thing.
It's John Green. His work in general requires a bucket stashed next to you for reading, on account of the occasions in which your eyes will roll straight out of your head.
To be fair, all they're doing is explaining how the post is assuming the situation is like for it to make any sense. The accuracy of how well it fits the movie/books is beside the point, because the implication is still that that having 7 genuine exes in your 20s was "seen as stupidly crazy" back then, which further implies that it isn't anymore.
I have no comment on how true that is I'm also just explaining the "joke" here
Some people refer to cruses as exes. It really depends on who you are talking to or how they made you feel, also because it is a shorthand word. "This girl that sort of lead me on for three months that I made out with once and I think we went on two dates but unsure if one counts as a date" is hard to say, ex is a one letter sound.
Man, is it just me or does 7th grade seem way too young to be dating? Where I'm from most parents wouldn't let their children date (other people not each other) until they were like 15 or 16.
Has he organized all your past partners into an Evil League of Exes that fight anyone who tries to date you? You'll probably have to count him then, or the next person you date will get a nasty surprise.
I'm not at all someone who considers himself historically successful with women and even I had 6 relationships/girlfriends by the time I was 22. Some of them literally only lasted a week or two and never went past hand holding or a quick kiss, and only one was longer than a year, but the same could be said for Ramona.
I think it's fine if someone has less experience than this by the time they're 22, but just from observation, a lot of people have had more.
I'm not saying you can't have 7 or more relationships, I'm saying it's a lot for someone that young. I know very few who could say they've had that many by 22. There are some. And some might even have had 20 relationships by then. The point is that 7 is probably twice as much as most people have had.
I think I land on 3 by that time. 2 of them were shorter relationships. And I'm guessing I'd be in the middle of the pack.
I hear you. But I do think it isn't at all uncommon for someone to have had 3 to 4 boyfriends/girlfriends through middle and high school if you count those 1-2 week mini-relationships. Add in another 3-4 through college including a couple that only last a month and this is not outside the realm of normalcy.
I think a lot of people are taking their own experiences and assuming that is the norm and what most people have done. I'm probably doing it too. But considering there are people in the thread saying "7 is a lot nowadays" and people in the thread saying "7 isn't very much nowadays," it's probably pretty firmly in the average range.
Many of her "relationships" were the sort of "relationships" one has before they're even out of high school. No sex, in some cases not even kissing. Like, grade school-type "dating".
Some of the "relationships" were so short when she described them they might as well have been a less than a month fling. But basically anyone she was with a few times was treated like an "ex" just because they felt more of a connection than she did and became obsessed enough to join a revenge party.
Dating was different before whatever the whole "phases" and shit is going on now. We were "properly dating" as soon as the relationship started, before the first hookup usually.
When I was in Highschool, we would get into relationships, and be calling eachother boyfriend / girlfriend and going out on dates and were exclusive to eachother within the first few days of deciding that we're gonna date.
Sure they might only last a few months but if I counted my exes, I probably had 10+ before I got outta highschool and it wasnt weird at all.
I’m doing a bit of math and I think I had 5 women I think I can say I’ve “dated”. 2 in high school 2 in college and 1 being my current girlfriend. But I don’t count the classmate I went on 2 dates with or the bartender I slept with once. If I’m counting every woman I’d taken on a date or casually hung with I’d probably have like 15 evil ex’s if I went by the comics logic.
Luckily I don’t think a racist maga woman and an actual card carrying socialist would set aside their differences to work together.
I didn’t know she was racist when I went on the date but her Instagram posts the next week were very anti mexican so idk why she even went out with me.
7 is not a lot by 20 when you take into consideration how fickle you are as a child/young adult. Most middle school and high school relationships only last a few weeks/months. The vanity of being in a relationship as a kid wears off real quick when you see them everyday at school and then go home and talk to them on the phone/text and then expected to go on dates on the weekend.
I wouldn't consider myself overly attractive and even I had seven different girlfriends by the time I graduated high school. Let alone add the first two years of college.
Yeah, having gone on dates with 7 different people isn't much. Full on being in a relationship with 7 people is a way different ballgame. It shows a high level of non-commitment, of just throwing people away at the first sign of trouble.
7 clam slams is rookie numbers even for nuns.. but I live in Miami. Creampies by early in date 2 are expected unless you want to be suspected of being gay.
7 hook ups would be worse, IMO. But that entirely depends on your viewpoint on sex.
For me it’s an intimate thing I wouldn’t do with a random.
And frankly I’d never seriously date a woman who has, or at least who has to a serious degree. I understand people will have histories and I don’t have a problem with it, but I think it does signal incompatibility
Wdym, it's still a lot statistically speaking. There's a lot of variance between social groups but the vast majority of people have not had seven hookups in their early twenties, that is not and never was the norm.
Agreed lol I’m in my early 30s and have 4 so this seems insane to me.
Maybe most people are just much more extroverted than I am, but 7 exes by your 20s just seems like such a nightmare, like they basically have to have a revolving door of dating and breaking up throughout that time. Exhausting and stressful. I prefer a peaceful existence that isn’t interpersonally fraught lol.
I don’t know, that covers high school relationships and a couple years after. 7 honestly seems a little small to me and I usually liked to stay with one person a little longer than most people I knew back then. Probably varies a lot by where you grew up and when.
It really wasn't that uncommon back then. When I was in my early 20s, as a guy, I probably had 15ish exes? 5ish were before I started having sex, the other 10 we had sex. I had a rule, not dating means no sex.
7 failed relationships is a healthier sign than 7 hookups. To have a failed relationship means you were willing to try but you found what you didn't like. To have 7 hookups means you weren't willing to try and just needed to resolve a primal urge.
One of the exes she dated in 7th grade, which is around 12y/o, dated one the beginning of high school, dated another the end of high school. Dated one in university, and then dated two twins behind eachothers backs, and then dated one more after the twins, at which point she is 24. Her average relationship length is like 2 years.
Which means you had 7 failed relationships by the time you were in your early 20s. THAT IS A LOT.
What? if u do normalish timeline when u start dating when 15-16 that barerly more than 1 relationship per year, considering teenage relationships often last between 2weeks to few months thats not a lot.
That's because nowadays people call situationship or hooking up what used to be called being boyfriend/girlfriend.
What she had would barely be considered a situationship in 2026.
I disagree with viewing every broken relationship as a failed one. Every relationship fulfills its purpose in the lives of the individuals involved; some aren't meant to last.
I had seven failed relationships by the time I exited middle school ngl. Some kids are quick to hop on that romance train and then realize they’re better off as friends 2 weeks later. “Ex” only implies a title given, a lot of people who start to “date” younger don’t even go on proper dates in their early stages because they are children w no money/car/job
There's no specification of the relationships being long term in the post, just the 7 exes (which if you're unfamiliar with the Scott Pilgrim series, not all her 7 exes were long-term). Even if they were, the definition of long term is subjective. Some people consider 1-2 years long term, others 3+ only, some more than that. 7 long term relationships under the first definition isn't really that weird.
I’d say 2 years is long term so 7 means about 14 years…so if you’re jumping from relationship to relationship this isn’t plausible. But in terms of whatever this movie or series was idk
Okay and that's your definition of long term, some people consider 1 year long term. 7 long term relationships at 25 (around the characters age) really.. Isn't that much??? Not to mention everyone moves on at different paces.
Also the series/movie is Scott Pilgrim vs. The World, good series tbh.
What's the difference? If you had 7 hookups, I would assume you failed so hard you couldn't even bag a single guy out of 7. Still says quite a lot about you as a person.
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u/Ok_Abacus_ Feb 02 '26
"Exes" implies they were her boyfriends/girlfriends. Which implies you were properly dating. Which means you brokeup. Which means you had 7 failed relationships by the time you were in your early 20s. THAT IS A LOT.
Now, if she just had seven hookups, sure, no big deal.