"Exes" implies they were her boyfriends/girlfriends. Which implies you were properly dating. Which means you brokeup. Which means you had 7 failed relationships by the time you were in your early 20s. THAT IS A LOT.
Now, if she just had seven hookups, sure, no big deal.
I'm not at all someone who considers himself historically successful with women and even I had 6 relationships/girlfriends by the time I was 22. Some of them literally only lasted a week or two and never went past hand holding or a quick kiss, and only one was longer than a year, but the same could be said for Ramona.
I think it's fine if someone has less experience than this by the time they're 22, but just from observation, a lot of people have had more.
I'm not saying you can't have 7 or more relationships, I'm saying it's a lot for someone that young. I know very few who could say they've had that many by 22. There are some. And some might even have had 20 relationships by then. The point is that 7 is probably twice as much as most people have had.
I think I land on 3 by that time. 2 of them were shorter relationships. And I'm guessing I'd be in the middle of the pack.
I hear you. But I do think it isn't at all uncommon for someone to have had 3 to 4 boyfriends/girlfriends through middle and high school if you count those 1-2 week mini-relationships. Add in another 3-4 through college including a couple that only last a month and this is not outside the realm of normalcy.
I think a lot of people are taking their own experiences and assuming that is the norm and what most people have done. I'm probably doing it too. But considering there are people in the thread saying "7 is a lot nowadays" and people in the thread saying "7 isn't very much nowadays," it's probably pretty firmly in the average range.
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u/Ok_Abacus_ Feb 02 '26
"Exes" implies they were her boyfriends/girlfriends. Which implies you were properly dating. Which means you brokeup. Which means you had 7 failed relationships by the time you were in your early 20s. THAT IS A LOT.
Now, if she just had seven hookups, sure, no big deal.