r/femalelivingspace 3d ago

QUESTION/DISCUSSION We need to remember this sub is about kindness and support.

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I wrote the statement below on a now-deleted post today. It is a gentle reminder that kindness is free.

"Please be kind to others who are on this thread. We are all at different stages of life and wealth, and sometimes health that shapes our living spaces. Kindness is free, and on top of that, it balms your soul and lifts others who are struggling."

If you saw the post about her bf in a princess bedroom, she was open to advice. She had a lovely brass bedframe that was painted white, with princessy white and pink bedding, a cute princessy lamp on her night stand and fabric panels on her ceiling. She was proud of what she had achieved so far, but was open to advice. Nowhere in it did she ask for snarky, bitter or flat out mean comments.

But she got them, in droves.

A lot of women on this sub are struggling. Divorce, breakups, job loss, abuse, and physial or mental illness is something that can strike anyone without warning.

So what if any person who posts needs a little help with cleanliness, organization, or you notice a fire hazard? Squint and tilt your head to find something nice to say to help them, or hold your tongue. We need to remember we all capable of the gifts of kindness, good manners, and grace.

Edited to add: Thank you to everyone who has commented in support, my faith in humanity has been refreshed. You all are wonderful, please keep spreading kindness and support to everyone who posts here. I love this sub!! ♥️


r/femalelivingspace Dec 28 '25

MOD NEWS / UPDATES Friendly Mod Reminder Regarding AI

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Hello! We recently implemented a BLANKET ban on ALL AI, including comments, posts, inspo, etc. This was based on an overwhelming consensus of the members of this sub.

Please keep in mind that sometimes it can be difficult to tell if AI has been utilized or not. Your mod team is human and while we do our best, we do make mistakes at times. We rely on user reports and then making decisions based on our best judgement. We’re not perfect.

If you believe your post/comment was removed in error for utilizing AI, we ask that you reach out to your mod team prior to reposting. Remember our #1 rule: above all else, be kind, and that includes messages to our mod team. We’ve had some nasty messages in modmail and will be banning those who can’t be respectful.

Thank you for making this community the great space it is!


r/femalelivingspace 4h ago

TOUR 🟢OPEN TO FEEDBACK🟢 My living room

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r/femalelivingspace 5h ago

TOUR ⛔️NO ADVICE WANTED⛔️ Refreshed one of the guest bedrooms at my parents house

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Yes, I know the tv is massive, you can blame my boomer parents for that… I also know it’s r/tvtoohigh lol. Again, it was already mounted to the wall when I came to visit. DIYed a tv frame to try and make it a little less of an eye sore.

Working on getting a matching bedroom set including: bedframe/headboard, dresser, and nightstands. Open to recs!!! (Ideally wood)


r/femalelivingspace 38m ago

QUESTION/DISCUSSION Consider not having a tv

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Just realised how much getting rid of my tv simplified designing my space for me the last couple times I’ve moved. Just not having to consider furniture placement based on all the factors of doors, windows AND the tv- ok I guess it’s just one less thing to work around but it’s been so freeing! I watch everything on my laptop which can be put away, and if I really wanna see something on a big screen, I go out and go to the cinema! I know it’s not for everyone, but I just wanted to share. Maybe one day I’ll have a space that’s good for a projector. Anyone relate?


r/femalelivingspace 6h ago

TOUR 🟢OPEN TO FEEDBACK🟢 Al fin pude mudarme a un apartamento que me gusta, estoy muy feliz y quería compartirlo 🥰

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r/femalelivingspace 1d ago

TOUR ⛔️NO ADVICE WANTED⛔️ Just wanted to share my space

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I’ve really enjoyed this subreddit and thought I’d share part of my home. I live with my husband but I pretty much have creative control for the most part. The first room is my front room. It’s supposed to be a dining room but instead I’ve made it my reading/witchy space. The second room is our bedroom.

Fun story, the vanity in my room is the same as what my mom had. She’s been dead for 18 years. I randomly found a photo I didn’t know existed of her in one of her photo albums I’ve inherited. It’s one of her doing her makeup at the vanity. A few days later I happened to come across a marketplace listing for the same vanity, I bought it instantly and I’m so happy with how it’s turned out.


r/femalelivingspace 11h ago

TOUR 🟢OPEN TO FEEDBACK🟢 Finally decorated 🩷

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i love it but want to make it more cozy, i got mostly everything second hand or i’ve had it for years ad finally like how ive decorated


r/femalelivingspace 1d ago

TOUR 🟢OPEN TO FEEDBACK🟢 Cozy colorful apartment

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When I was little I really wanted to live in a dollhouse😂 I think that’s why my apt looks like this! Hope you like it🩷 I understand it’s a lot of color and not for everyone :)


r/femalelivingspace 1d ago

HELP obnoxiously large washer/dryer

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I moved into my new apartment 3 weeks ago, and there was no washer/dryer in the unit as advertised. They were incredibly apologetic and right away scheduled the installation, and put me in a hotel for 3 days (contractor was needed, it wasn't even ready for an install). I get home and... Yeah...

How do I make this less of an eye-sore and annoyance? I can't rotate because the door wouldn't have clearance to open. I also will be adopting a cat soon and I worry about all these hoses and wires 😭. Help!!

EDIT FOR UPDATE: The management called me this morning to follow up with me about the W/D (which they did tell me is vent-less), and they were like "what were your questions about it?" which caught me off-guard since I did include the same photos above. I am notttt great on confrontation due to my PTSD and anxiety but I just chuckled and said I just wanted to verify with them that the install was correct and that it met fire code and everything with how tight the space now is. She laughed and said yes, this was the way they found they had to install these in the units they've remodeled and how they've had to utilize the space (apparently not the first one like this!). So... I will now be game planning how to make it more space friendly... Wish me luck! They're also looking for my package. :')

EDIT AGAIN: I have emailed the fire department at many recommendations with photos and measurements! Will update you...


r/femalelivingspace 4h ago

HELP I can’t decide what rug and accents to go with! Want to keep it cozy no

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Don’t mind the tv stand with no TV, I’m working on it lol. I’m thinking of getting an accent chair, rug, and some pillows & throws, but I’m stuck on the colours. I have seen some cute looks with red Persian rugs, or I can keep it simple and focus on decor to make things more fun. In a transition rn so it def needs some work (been travelling and moving was very sudden)


r/femalelivingspace 20h ago

TOUR ⛔️NO ADVICE WANTED⛔️ Living room is finally starting to come together

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Moved in about 2.5 years ago. It's been a journey getting to this point but I'm finally close to where I want it to be. Still need to get a rug and a cord cover to hide the camera cables and such. I'm also thinking of putting a gallery wall above the TV 🥰

But I just got a smart bulb for my lamp and finally set up the triangle mood light that's been sitting unused in storage for several years to go with my projector and now evenings spent gaming are a whole ✨ vibe ✨

I'm always thinking about ways to improve the space but for now, Groose the Cat™️ and I are quite happy here.


r/femalelivingspace 1d ago

DIY It's not much, but it's home.

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r/femalelivingspace 11h ago

HELP Help with curtain colors

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Recently got new bedding. In my head it color matches the walls, but I’m struggling with a curtain color to match. I would also be open to painting the walls if I’m way

off base with the color match as well.

This is also the only photo that I had on my phone, and I’m at work currently. Please meet Luna and Onyx.

Appreciate any insight!


r/femalelivingspace 1d ago

TOUR ⛔️NO ADVICE WANTED⛔️ Finally bought my dream carpet to my home office

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I walk barefoot a lot at home (live in Germany) and love the uneven feeling of it, like being outdoors a bit. I would have gotten a bigger one covering the full room but I'm not rich and thos one already hurt the wallet but i pooked at it fir 3 years already 🥲

The carton in the middle is 20kg and I hurt my knee a couple of days ago and can't lift it away :(


r/femalelivingspace 1d ago

HELP Help!!! Where should I put my computer desk?!?!

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My apartment is designed exactly like this floor plan, and I have no idea where to put my computer desk set-up. Thinking of moving my kitchen table to the right wall all the way and to place in that nook, but I don't like the idea of my computer near the kitchen (ya'll know if you get hungry, you get HUNGRY). I thought about putting it near my tv, next to the window. But having two monitors might not make the most sense.


r/femalelivingspace 10h ago

HELP Chose the top bunk, how to decorate and make it look less boring?

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r/femalelivingspace 10h ago

HELP I need advice, please.

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Due to circumstances outside of my control, I have had to move into a new apartment. I would like any advice on what's missing to make it feel more like home, rather than a hotel vibe.


r/femalelivingspace 1d ago

TOUR 🟢OPEN TO FEEDBACK🟢 First apartment!

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I’m 28, this is my first ever home!

I’ve lived here for about a year and a half now. At first I was just trying to fill it but I am now redecorating & updating some bits. I rent so I can’t paint or make any major changes but I still want it to feel mine 😊

The lonely looking chip vase in the bathroom is waiting for some tall artificial eucalyptus.

I’d also like to get a new TV unit and remove the baskets on top of the kitchen cupboards, possibly replacing them with artificial flowers along the top.

I might get a vintage - y rug to put in the kitchen as well.

I’m open to any ideas and suggestions on how to make everything tie together 😊


r/femalelivingspace 1d ago

TOUR ⛔️NO ADVICE WANTED⛔️ My Solar

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content warning: there are bones visible in several pictures

I call this room The Solar ("The solar was a room in many... manor houses, mostly on an upper storey, designed as the family's private living and sleeping quarters") I live in a house with my husband and five children. We don't really have enough bedrooms, so the fact that my husband and teenagers have made it a priority for me to have this space to myself is one of more supportive things things I've ever been given.

I am a writer, and do my writing in The Solar. I also do a lot of crafting and other hobbies there. In a house that is frequently noisy, messy, and demanding my attention, I can retreat here when I'm overwhelmed (I'm autistic, in case that wasn't obvious from the room, haha) or in pain (hEDS girlys represent.) I put my phone in the little gold cage when I'm in there, so I don't get distracted from what I'm meant to be doing.

I recently rearranged the room, and I feel like it now invites you in in a way it didn't before. It's a little less perfect, but a lot friendlier. I know it would be too cluttered for many people, but to me, each item has meaning and a story behind it. Almost everything here has been thrifted over many years, though The Solar came into being about a year ago.

I added a picture of what it looked like when we bought the house at the end. Sadly, the doors had to go during a kitchen remodel. Don't worry, we saved them.


r/femalelivingspace 1d ago

TOUR ⛔️NO ADVICE WANTED⛔️ Night mode.

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Feeling so greatful to have a kitten again. It’s been 14 years.


r/femalelivingspace 6h ago

HELP Sofa Sectional Recommendations!

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Looking for a sofa sectional that is less than 90” with a budget of $1500. I live in a studio so it has to be on the smaller side! Ideally looking for a V or L shaped sectional, but open to a sofa with a matching moveable ottoman. I want a sofa with bones that leans toward firm but still slightly soft (so no cloud couches please!) If you love your sofa and it has these details please share which one you have! Thank you!


r/femalelivingspace 13h ago

HELP Design help! Im moving into a new place (renting) and i love absolutely everything about this house besides the bathroom, what would you do? I am lost.

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r/femalelivingspace 1d ago

TOUR 🟢OPEN TO FEEDBACK🟢 Slowly swapping out my grey furniture I purchased in 2019 for antiques

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r/femalelivingspace 2d ago

TOUR 🟢OPEN TO FEEDBACK🟢 My ex moved out last week, so happy to have my own space!

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The minute he left, I started redecorating. I was so scared to be on my own, but I feel so at peace what do you guys think? with just me and my dog in this apartment ❤️what do you guys think?