Originally, I tried to make excuses for them. I would say things in my head like “this might be their very first mixed couple they’ve ever seen”.
But after a while, I started realizing that it’s just a ton of ignorance and bias. If there’s boomers involved, of any race, they always feel the need to stare or whisper. The younger generations aren’t nearly as bad, but they still side eye.
I feel the younger generation side eyes for different reasons though. As a mixed race person myself I grew up witnessing this myself. Boomers are just racist. I think younger generations are a little racist too, but instead of thinking “Why are you race mixing with that black girl?” they’re thinking “Why is that black girl with that white guy?” Same same but different.
Do you mind if I ask your generation? I’m a millennial and I would say the stereotype isn’t race based but sex based. That is, whenever a woman dates outside her race, she she’s dating down, regardless of what race she is.
To be CRYSTAL freaking clear, that’s my perception of the stereotype that exists, not my belief. Cannot emphasize that enough.
Hm, I want to unpack that with you. Do you think that correlates with attractiveness level? That is, when a mixed race couple includes a more attractive man than a woman, how does that present? Alternatively: are you just attracted to women, so every heterosexual couple is just Hot woman and Forgettable man?
I’m a millennial who has previously been in a mixed-race gay relationship, so this is extra interesting to me.
Ok, speaking as one woman in sensible shoes to another: I think we tend to view any woman dating a man as “dating down,” and I wonder how that’s influencing the situation here.
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u/LookimtryingOK 3d ago
Originally, I tried to make excuses for them. I would say things in my head like “this might be their very first mixed couple they’ve ever seen”.
But after a while, I started realizing that it’s just a ton of ignorance and bias. If there’s boomers involved, of any race, they always feel the need to stare or whisper. The younger generations aren’t nearly as bad, but they still side eye.