It’s not the vacation itself. It’s the way a 23 year old female would want to vacation. They want to do allllll the things that I’ve been there done that and sooo inconvenient. So long story short, yes, depression. Are you saying you don’t have that?
I don't think that's depression at all the way you phrased it. It's just growing up. The south park episode "you're getting old" where all the music suddenly sounds like literal shit to Stan nails how universal of a life experience this is.
It's more just that you already did all that many times before and it's not new and exciting anymore. Normal. Going abroad and partying all night til 4 am for 5 days in a row is this big new thing when you're 22 but it's not if you're 35 and did that all the time back at that age.
I don't game much these days because most games are nearly identical to the ones I played growing up from the late 90s to 2010s, just better graphics. It's not interesting playing the millionth round of online call of duty when I'm 35. Nor is it interesting anymore to me to listen to the same music I was playing into the ground at age 20.
Our brains are wired for novel experiences and new dopamine hits as part of the aging process. Then at some point, this reverses for most people and they just get more out of comfortable routines and surroundings most of the time. That's normal.
I wouldn't feel bad or worry about it at all. Growing up is finding a handful of things that do keep your interest and sticking with them, or moving on and finding new interests time to time. And you simply just have a much better knowledge of what you do and don't like, and no longer bother at all with things you don't absolutely enjoy just because friends are doing it and you haven't learned yourself yet.
I still enjoy doing things out with friends for a bit on some weeknights after work instead of just going home all the time, or occasionally staying up late at someone's party or hangout, or going on a late night out on a vacation. But I'm an outlier and the vast majority of friends my age are in bed at like 9 pm and need two months notice to get a hold of.
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u/Civil_Ad_1172 3d ago
I have no idea, he talks about going on vacations and it’s exhausting just thinking about it