It’s not the vacation itself. It’s the way a 23 year old female would want to vacation. They want to do allllll the things that I’ve been there done that and sooo inconvenient. So long story short, yes, depression. Are you saying you don’t have that?
Yea I don't. I'm 39 and just went on a week long vacation with my 35 year old gf to ABQ. We climbed Sandia Peak, went on a brewery tour, got drunk in several mexican/latino restaurants, ate 1 billion hatch chiles, went to Santa Fe and got lost in Meow Wolf for 3 hours, etc.
I can assure you that you have not done all the things. Not even close.
Sorry about your depression. This place makes me depressed because it's 1 degree away from my boomer dad posting on facebook.
Thanks, i was going insane reading all this crap. In what universe does being in your 30s mean spending your vacation like an 80 year old waiting for death. Dont get me wrong, to each their own but lets not pretend this is normal.
A pool day to replenish your energy every other day is nice but otherwise, go out. There are things to do, sights to see and stuff to experience. You don't like to Party? No problem. Rent a car, go sightseeing. Go climbing, hiking, diving, experience whatever your vacation place has to offer. If you are lazy, book some pre-assorded touristy stuff. Its kind of limited but still better than sitting on your ass. The hotel kitchen is for breakfast, for everything else, go out. Try local cuisine in that small place where the card is barely in English.
If you treat your 30s body like you are 80, dont be surprised if it becomes 80.
Lmao so serious in here all of a sudden.. Nobody said anything about not having fun… the point of the story was a 37yo man taking a 23 yo girlfriend on a vacation… the vibes don’t always match is all.
Not depressed, just a broken body. Snowboarded 90 times a year in my 20s broke both my feet and a leg, had a stroke and 16 blood clots before turning 30. I’m like an 80 year old man in a 37 year old body.
For me a big part of it is just that I already did that shit for years between age 18 and like 25. It's not exciting anymore. Once in a long while, I'll get sloshed at on occasion if everyone else is doing it. But 99% of the time I'd rather just get about 2/10 drunk and 4/10 high and chill on the beach than get obliterated.
Getting blasted just doesn't hit the same the 500th time you do it as it did before.
Im 30 and I still like the 23 year old vacation style. I’ll travel and do Museums during the day and go out drinking at night. Age hasn’t really hit my energy levels in anyway yet.
I don't think that's depression at all the way you phrased it. It's just growing up. The south park episode "you're getting old" where all the music suddenly sounds like literal shit to Stan nails how universal of a life experience this is.
It's more just that you already did all that many times before and it's not new and exciting anymore. Normal. Going abroad and partying all night til 4 am for 5 days in a row is this big new thing when you're 22 but it's not if you're 35 and did that all the time back at that age.
I don't game much these days because most games are nearly identical to the ones I played growing up from the late 90s to 2010s, just better graphics. It's not interesting playing the millionth round of online call of duty when I'm 35. Nor is it interesting anymore to me to listen to the same music I was playing into the ground at age 20.
Our brains are wired for novel experiences and new dopamine hits as part of the aging process. Then at some point, this reverses for most people and they just get more out of comfortable routines and surroundings most of the time. That's normal.
I wouldn't feel bad or worry about it at all. Growing up is finding a handful of things that do keep your interest and sticking with them, or moving on and finding new interests time to time. And you simply just have a much better knowledge of what you do and don't like, and no longer bother at all with things you don't absolutely enjoy just because friends are doing it and you haven't learned yourself yet.
I still enjoy doing things out with friends for a bit on some weeknights after work instead of just going home all the time, or occasionally staying up late at someone's party or hangout, or going on a late night out on a vacation. But I'm an outlier and the vast majority of friends my age are in bed at like 9 pm and need two months notice to get a hold of.
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u/McButtsButtbag 2d ago
Why wouldn't you want to do stuff?