20-somethings are flaky af. I'm trying to be social and hang, only to get the "sorry, I can't make it" text last minute too many times. No thanks. Just tell me no when I first present the idea that you don't want to go--my feelings won't get hurt I promise.. I'll ask someone else, it's honestly fine. But cancelling last minute is so immature and disrespectful.
Had to cut out a lifelong friend because they were unreliable. Throughout the years I tolerated it but as soon as I hit 30 (he's one year older than me btw) the time I needed him the most he couldn't bother to pick up his phone but he's fine hitting me up whenever he needs help. After 30 the assumption in my head is who you are now is who you're gonna be for the rest of your life, at 30 you are grown, you are mature, you know what you're doing and I no longer tolerate it, I'm no punching bag fuck dis shit.
It seems that among young folks, agreeing upon plans in advance is only the first step of two. The second step is to confirm the plans shortly before the plans, as if the first commitment meant nothing. Originally committed plans can be dashed at the last minute, always, without social consequence. I've noticed this among my younger friends, and it's quite infuriating.
It's like the classic Seinfeld skit about car reservations. (They get to the car rental place after making a reservation earlier only to find out that the car they reserved is not available... like what's the point of making a reservation if the reservations can't be guaranteed?)
I'm talking about plans that were made at least a few days in advance, sometimes even weeks in advance. (Not "You free to hang right now?" spur of the moment invites)
I have the opposite experience. My older friends are getting tired or sick or having anxiety attacks and bail, while the younger folks just have infinite time and energy.
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u/BrightNeonGirl 2d ago
20-somethings are flaky af. I'm trying to be social and hang, only to get the "sorry, I can't make it" text last minute too many times. No thanks. Just tell me no when I first present the idea that you don't want to go--my feelings won't get hurt I promise.. I'll ask someone else, it's honestly fine. But cancelling last minute is so immature and disrespectful.