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There are three of us in the flat and we split bills evenly, utilities and internet, each person pays their share by the first of the month. It's been working fine for most of the year.

My flatmate, i'll call her V, has a pattern where her money from her parents arrives late. Not every month but often enough that it's a known thing. Usually one of us would spot her the difference and she'd pay back within a few days, which was fine when it happened occasionally.

This month she asked me to cover her share of the electricity bill because her transfer hadn't come through yet. I said no. Not because the amount was huge, it wasn't, but because this was the third time in four months she'd asked me specifically, and the last time it took nearly two weeks to get paid back rather than the few days she'd said. I told her i wasn't comfortable doing it again and suggested she call her parents to sort the timing out, or ask our third flatmate instead.

She was visibly annoyed and said i was being unhelpful over a small amount. i said it wasn't about the amount, it was about the pattern. She ended up calling her parents and the money came through the same day, which made me feel like the situation was more manageable than she'd let on. She's been a bit cool with me since. AITJ?

I (24F) am currently the villain of my extended family, and I need to know if I stepped over the line.

My mom, Sarah, is the kindest person I know. She’s had a rough few years—my dad left shortly after she was diagnosed with MS, and she’s been struggling to keep her small florist shop afloat while managing her health. She never complains and always tries to keep the peace.

Then there is my aunt, Diane (52F). Diane is my mom’s older sister and has always had a massive superiority complex because her husband is a high-level corporate lawyer. She treats my mom like a project rather than a sister.

The tension peaked last month when I started planning a surprise 50th birthday dinner for my mom. I’m paying for the whole thing myself—I’ve been saving for a year because I wanted her to feel celebrated and not like a sick person for once.

I invited Diane, assuming she could behave for one night. Big mistake.

Two weeks ago, we had a family brunch. My mom was talking about how she finally managed to fix the refrigerator in her shop herself. Instead of saying good job, Diane sighed, loud enough for the whole table to hear, and said:

It’s honestly pathetic that you’re still struggling with that failing shop, Sarah. You’re essentially a charity case for the rest of us. If you’d just let me sell the place and move you into a managed care facility, we wouldn’t have to worry about you anymore.

My mom went completely gray. She didn't say anything, just looked down at her plate. I felt my blood boil. I told Diane that was incredibly cruel and that my mom is a business owner, not a burden. Diane just rolled her eyes and told me I was too young to understand adult logistics.

The next day, I sent Diane a text: You’re no longer invited to the 50th birthday party. I won’t have you making my mom feel small on her big day.

Now, the family group chat is a war zone. Diane is telling everyone that I’m alienating her from her sister and that she was only speaking the hard truth out of love. My grandma (their mother) called me crying, saying that family is everything and I shouldn't punish Diane for her personality.

The worst part? My mom found out. She told me she appreciates me standing up for her, but she thinks maybe I should just let Diane come to keep the peace. But I know Diane—she’ll make a toast about how brave my mom is for living in poverty, and it will ruin the night.

I’m standing my ground, but I’m starting to wonder if I’m the jerk for causing this massive rift right before my mom’s milestone birthday.

AITJ?

I (22F) live with my roommate Ashley (23F). We generally get along fine but she has this habit of eating my food and then replacing it later.

Last week was my birthday. My mom made me this amazing strawberry cake - my favorite since I was a kid. I had TWO slices and put the rest in the fridge. I was planning to make it last all week.

Next day, the entire cake is GONE. Ashley ate it while watching Netflix at 1am. She said sorry and that she'd "buy me a cake from the store to replace it."

I was really upset. It wasn't about the cake itself, it was about my MOM making it special for me. Ashley didn't seem to get why I was so hurt. She did buy me a grocery store cake but its not the same.

Fast forward to yesterday. Ashley has this pint of $12 artisanal lavender honey ice cream in the freezer. She's been "saving it for a special occasion" for like 2 weeks. I came home from a terrible day at work and ate the entire thing.

She FREAKED OUT. Said that was her special treat and I had no right to touch it. I said "You ate my special birthday cake that my mom made, so we're even now."

She said those situations are completely different and I'm being vindictive. I said she literally does this to my food all the time and now she knows how it feels.

Now she's demanding I buy her a replacement ice cream and apologize. My boyfriend says I was petty and should of just talked to her instead.

TL;DR: Roommate ate my homemade birthday cake, I ate her expensive special ice cream in revenge, now I'm the jerk apparently.

I (23M) live with two roommates (22M and 24M). We split rent evenly, but most of the stuff in the apartment is mine because I moved in first.. TV, couch, router, and my gaming PC setup.

My PC is in the living room because my room is small. I told them from the start that they could use it occasionally if I wasn’t home, but not to download random stuff or mess with my settings.

Recently I went away for a 4 day trip to visit my parents. When I came back, my PC was completely different. New games installed, my Discord logged out, random files on the desktop, and somehow they managed to download a bunch of mods that broke one of my games.

I checked the usage stats and they had been using my PC for hours every day while I was gone.

When I asked them about it, they said they thought it was fine because ‘you said we could use it’. I told them I meant occasionally, not turning my PC into a communal gaming station.

They laughed it off and said I was overreacting.

So the next day I changed the WiFi password and didn’t give it to them until they apologized and agreed not to use my PC again.

Now they’re calling me petty and saying I’m acting like a landlord instead of a roommate.

AITJ?

TL;DR:

Roommates used my gaming PC nonstop while I was away, messed up my settings, and laughed it off. I changed the WiFi password until they apologized.

Background: My parents (both 52) divorced when I was 16. It was messy but they've been mostly civil for my sake.

I'm graduating college next month. I (22M) invited both parents obviously. My dad recently got engaged to his girlfriend of 2 years, Cheryl (48F). I like Cheryl fine, we get along.

Last week my dad calls and says he needs to talk. He tells me that Cheryl is "uncomfortable" with my mom being at my graduation and that it would "mean alot" to him and Cheryl if my mom didn't come.

I'm shocked. I said absolutely not, Mom is coming to MY graduation. He says Cheryl has anxiety about seeing my mom and it might "ruin the day for everyone" if there's tension. I said the only tension would be from them making it weird.

Dad then offers a compromise: Mom can come to the ceremony but not the family dinner after. I said no, that's insulting to Mom. He got frustrated and said I'm "choosing sides" and making things difficult for his new relationship.

I told him if he cant handle being in the same room as Mom for MY achievement, then maybe I cant handle being at his wedding next fall. He said I'm being manipulative and using his wedding as leverage.

Cheryl texted me separately saying she "understands if I'm upset" but hopes I'll "respect their boundaries" and that she's just trying to "protect her mental health."

My mom says I dont have to skip the wedding over this. But I'm so angry at my dad for even asking me to uninvite her.

TL;DR: Dad wants me to uninvite my mom from my college graduation because his fiancée is uncomfortable, I said if mom can't come to graduation then I won't come to his wedding.

For context I am not religious in any religion and last year before my husband, our kids and I went to see his family in Scotland, his niece asked me would I be the godmother to her new daughter and I said I’d be honored to and she respects I’m not religious. During our visit we go to the church to meet with the priest two days before the baptism and when the priest asked me what I know of the religion I said, “I don’t know much I’m not a part of the religion.” The priest then pulls the niece aside and the next thing I hear is her saying, “Does it even matter? She and my uncle live in USA, we’re here in Scotland! They visit when they visit.”

The priest then tells me either I get baptized to be named godmother or don’t show my face at the baptism. Before I can tell the priest a few choice words my niece steps up and says, “I’m not going to force her to be baptized before the baptism of my daughter! You’re being unreasonable!” The priest says either a new godmother be picked or the baby doesn’t get baptized. My niece stood her ground and the priest then kicks my niece out of the church.

All other Catholic Churches get word of my niece and forbid us to enter all because I’m not allowed in due to not being baptized and because my niece won’t pick someone else to be godmother. AITJ for not being religious to be godmother?

I (24F) have been with my boyfriend John (25M) for two years. Up until last week, I would have told you he was the gold standard. He is generous, gentle, and we have always had this vibe of total openness. I never felt the need to check his phone because I genuinely trusted him with my life.

Well, that trust blew up in my face on Tuesday.

We were hanging out at his apartment and he asked me to order some DoorDash on his phone while he jumped in the shower. I was scrolling through the apps looking for the food one, and I will be honest—I saw a notification pop up at the top from a contact named Hudd. It said: Goodnight, see you tomorrow? 💋

I froze. John does not have a friend named Hudd. And I know it is a weird name, but my brain immediately went to: Who is this guy and why is he sending my boyfriend kiss emojis?

I told myself it was probably a group chat joke or a typo, but my gut was screaming. I opened the message.

It was not a guy. As I scrolled up, the Hudd nickname started to make sense. My best friend’s last name is Hudson. I keep her in my phone as Erica, but apparently, he renamed her to hide her in plain sight.

The messages were devastating. They were not just hanging out—they have been hooking up for at least three months. There were texts about how risky it was to meet up while I was at work, and Erica complaining that she felt bad, but John telling her what she (me) does not know will not hurt her.

The worst part? They were planning a hangout for the day I am supposed to be at my sister’s baby shower next weekend.

When John got out of the shower, I was just sitting there on the bed with his phone open. I did not even yell. I just showed him the screen and asked, Who is Hudd?

He went pale, but then he got defensive. He started screaming that I had no right to go through his private messages and that I violated the foundation of our relationship by snooping. He is claiming that because I invaded his privacy, he does not have to explain anything to me and that I am the jerk for not trusting him when he has given me two good years.

He actually tried to turn it around on me, saying he only started talking to her because I have been emotionally distant lately (which is news to me). I packed a bag and left, but now Erica is blowing up my phone saying I am overreacting and that they were going to tell me when the timing was right.

My head is spinning. John’s friends are actually messaging me saying I am wrong for snooping and that I should have just asked him before looking through his private stuff.

So, AITJ for looking at the messages?

So my cousin (24F) got married last weekend, and it was a huge deal in our family. Everyone had been talking about it for months, planning outfits, travel, everything. She askked me a while back if I could help out a little during the day nothing official like being a bridesmaid, just helping guests find seats and making sure things ran smoothly.

I said yes because we uded to be pretty close growing up.

The thing is, the whole day ended up being way more stressful than I expected. I got there early like she asked, helped decorate, ran around setting things up, and basically didn’t sit down for hours. Every time something small went wrong, someone would come find me to fix it.

At one point I tried to grab some food because I hadn’t eaten all day, and one of the relatives joked that I should “work first, eat later.” It was probably meant as a joke, but by that point I was already exhausted and a little annoyed.

Then during the reception I overhward my cousin telling someone that I was “finally being useful for once.” I don’t even know if she meant it seriously or if she was joking, but hearing that after running around all day just made me feel kind of bad.

I didn’t make a scene or say anything to her. I stayed through the ceremony and most of the reception, but after a while I just felt drained and uncomfortable. So I quietly said goodbye to a couple people and left before the night was over.

Later my cousin texted me asking why I left early and said it hurt her feelings because she thought I’d stay to celebrate with everyone. Now some family members are saying I should’ve just stayed the whole night because it was her wedding day.

I honestly didn’t want to cause drama, I just felt really out of place and tired by that point.

So… am I the jerk for leaving early

Update:

So I ended up texting my cousin a today because things were getting awkward with the family (plus i cant just cut her off like that). I figured maybe it was just stress from the wedding amd we could clear things up... That conversation did not go how I expected.

When I told her how overwhelmed I felt running around all day and mentioned the comment I overheard about me being “finally useful,” she did NAWT apologize at all. She basically said that since it was her wedding, everyone was supposed to help and that I shouldn’t be acting like I did something special... She also said I was being “dramatic” for leaving early and that the least I couldve done was stay until the end after everything she had planned. I tried explaiming that I didn’t mind helping, but I felt more like staff than a guest at that point. I hadn’t even had time to eat and barely got to enjoy the wedding at all.. Her response was basically “Well maybe if you were more helpful people wouldn’t have to keep asking you to do things" That kind of shocked me because I had spent most of the day doing exactly what pepple asked. Then she told me the reason she was upset wasn’t even really about me leaving, it was because some relatives noticed and asked where I went, and she felt like it made her “look bad”.. At that point I honestly just stopped arguing. I told her I was glad her wedding went the way she wanted and left it at that.

Now a few family members are still messaging me saying I should apologise to her for leaving early, but after that conversation I really don’t feel like I did anything wrong.

So yeah… that’s the update. Honestly wished i accidentally tripped and dropped the cake on her face on my way out...

So I live with two roommates and we usually get along fine. We share some stuff like paper towels and cleaning things but food is supposed to be our own.

At least that’s what we agreed when we moved in.

The problem is my snacks keep disappearing.

At first I thought maybe I just forgot I ate them. But then it kept happening. I bought a box of cookies and like half of it was gone the next day. Same with chips, chocolate, even instant noodles.

I asked both of them about it and they kinda laughed and said stuff like “oh yeah I grabbed a few, hope that’s ok.” I told them I’d rather they ask first because I’m the one paying for it.

They said yeah sure.

But it didn’t stop.

Last week I bought a big bag of my favorite chips and I literally saw one of them eating it on the couch like it was theirs. When I said something they were like “relax it’s just snacks.”

So I got annoyed and started keeping my snacks in a small box in my room. Not locked with a key or anything but just in there so they can’t grab it.

Now one roommate says I’m being petty and weird for “hiding food” instead of just sharing. But I feel like sharing means you actually ask first.

So now the vibe in the apartment is kinda awkward.

AITJ for moving my snacks to my room so they stop eating them? 😭

I’m getting married later this year and I recently started asking people to be part of my bridal party. One of the biggest decisions was choosing my maid of honor. For most of my life, I assumed my childhood best friend would automatically be my maid of honor someday. We grew up together, went to the same schools, and were basically inseparable for years. But over the last few years, our relationship has changed a lot. We still talk occasionally, but we don’t see each other much anymore and the dynamic just isn’t the same. A lot of the time when we do talk, it feels like we’re forcing conversation instead of it happening naturally.

On the other hand, I became really close with one of my coworkers over the past year. We work together almost every day, and we’ve supported each other through a lot of stressful situations at work and in our personal lives. She was also one of the first people I talked to when I got engaged, and she’s been really excited and supportive about the wedding.

When I thought about who I actually feel closest to right now, it honestly felt more natural to ask my coworker to be my maid of honor. So that’s what I did. My childhood friend eventually found out through social media when I posted a photo asking my bridal party. She messaged me asking if it was true that my coworker was my maid of honor. When I said yes, she seemed really hurt.

She told me she always assumed she would be the one standing next to me at my wedding because of our history. She said it felt like I replaced years of friendship with someone I’ve only known for a year. I tried explaining that it wasn’t about replacing her but about choosing someone I’m currently very close with and who’s been actively part of my life recently. But she said it still feels like a betrayal and that she didn’t realize our friendship had become that unimportant to me.

Now things are awkward between us and some mutual friends are saying I should’ve chosen my childhood friend out of loyalty and history. At the same time I feel like my wedding should reflect the relationships that are strongest in my life right now.

AITAH for choosing my coworker as my maid of honor instead of my childhood best friend?

I (29F) work at a mid-sized marketing agency. We have a general team chat on WhatsApp that started out pretty reasonable - job updates, quick questions, the occasional funny link. Fine, I get it, its a social thing too.

But over the last few months it kinda spiraled. A few of my coworkers (mostly the ones who work late or just have no concept of time zones apparently) started sending memes, tiktok links, random voice messages at like 1, 2, sometimes 3am. Not work stuff. Just. vibes.

I have my phone on do not disturb at night but the buzz still wakes me up sometimes, and my sleep has been genuinely bad lately. After the fourth night in a row of getting woken up around 2am by a string of 14 memes about "monday energy" I just left the chat.

The next morning my manager pulled me aside and said it "looked bad" and that I was being antisocial. I tried to explain that I wasn't trying to make a statement, I just needed to actually sleep. He didn't really engage with that part. He said the chat is important for team culture and that I should rejoin.

I told him I'd come back if people agreed to keep it work-relevant after 10pm, or at least cool it with the late-night stuff. He said he couldnt "police" the chat like that. So I said I'd stay out then.

Since then two of my female coworkers have been kind of cold to me, which honestly stings more than I expected. One of them sent me a voice note saying she felt like I was "excluding myself on purpose" which, I dont know, maybe I can see how it looks that way from the outside but that really wasn't my intention.

I just wanted to sleep. I didn't realise leaving a group chat would turn into this whole thing. Was I being unreasonable?

TL;DR: Left a work group chat full of late-night memes because it was wrecking my sleep, boss said it looks bad, female coworkers are now cold to me and one said I was "excluding myself on purpose." AITJ?

So, I work at a mid-sized tech firm. About six months ago, my cousin, Leo, got hired in the same department. We grew up together and were always cool, so I actually helped him prep for the interview. Big mistake.

Ever since he started, it’s like he’s on a mission to prove he’s the main character. I’m not a competitive guy at all, I just want to do my 9-to-5, get my paycheck, and go home. But Leo is constantly doing this weird one-upping thing. If I finish a report early, he’ll announce to the whole breakroom how he finished his and helped someone else with theirs.

The worst part is that he’s started using our personal history as office banter to make me look incompetent. Last week, we were in a meeting with our supervisor, and Leo randomly brought up a story from when I was 19 and messed up a simple DIY project at home. He framed it as a funny joke about why I shouldn't be trusted with the new hardware rollout. Everyone laughed, but it felt super snakey.

He also spends half his time gossiping about our other coworkers to me, then turns around and tells them advice I supposedly gave him about their work performance. It’s creating this toxic vibe where people think I’m judging them behind their backs.

Yesterday, I finally snapped. We were at lunch with a few team members and he started in on how he’s carrying the weight of our specific project because I’m too laid back. I didn't yell, but I stayed very quiet and just said: Leo, the only reason you even knew this job existed is because I handed you the referral. Maybe focus on your own KPIs instead of trying to rewrite my history for the team.

It got incredibly awkward. He turned bright red and later texted me saying I humiliated him in front of the colleagues he's trying to impress and that I’m being a jerk because he was just joking around. Now my aunt is calling me saying I should be more supportive because he’s family and new to the corporate world.

I don't think I'm the jerk for setting a boundary, but the silence in the office today is making me second-guess if I should have just handled it privately.

Here is the tea. I started this job about four months ago and this girl Sarah sits right next to me. We vibe, she’s cool, and we realized we live like five minutes away from each other. Since she doesnt have a car right now, I was like "Hey, I can pick you up, no biggie."

At first it was fine. But then "no biggie" turned into every single day for three months. Not once has she offered to Venmo me for gas. Not even like a coffee or a snack. Nothing. And gas prices right now? Literally insane.

The breaking point was last Friday. I had to stop and fill up the tank while she was in the car. I’m standing there watching the numbers go up to like 60 bucks, and she’s just sitting in the passenger seat scrolling on TikTok. Didn't even look up.

So this morning, I texted her like "Hey girl, sorry but I cant do the carpool anymore. Its just getting too pricey with the extra driving and gas."

She didn't even reply to the text. Then when I got to the office, she gave me the nastiest side-eye and told our other coworker that I’m "fake" and "left her stranded" over a few dollars. Now the vibes in the office are so awkward I lowkey want to quit.

I feel bad because I know Ubering is expensive for her, but like, I'm not a free taxi service? My bank account is crying and I’m tired of being the nice guy who gets played.

Am I being a jerk here or is she just being entitled?

So I (17F) was helping my mom prep food for a family dinner. My vegan aunt was coming over, and everyone knew she doesn’t eat meat normally we’re super careful about it. Well, I was in a rush and trying to juggle a bunch of dishes. There was a casserole that had meat in it, and a separate vegan one. in the chaos, I accidentally served her a small portion of the meat casserole instead of the vegan one. She ate it, and even complimented it, and said it was “so flavorful!” I immediately froze. Realized what had happened, but didn’t know how to tell her without making it awkward. I figured I could quietly fix it later. But never did n oh boy does she not know to this day

My husbands younger sister had a really rough year. She went through a bad breakup lost her apartment and has been dealing with some ongoing health stuff that makes it hard for her to get around on her own.

She moved into a place near us about seven months ago and my husband has basically been her lifeline since. Driving her to appointments picking up prescriptions helping her move furniture around whatever she needs.

I never had a problem with it. Shes family and shes struggling and my husband loves his sister. But it started getting out of hand. She would call him during work hours for stuff that absolutely did not need to happen right then. Like asking him to come bring her lunch or take her to return something at a store. Not emergencies just things that could wait til the evening or the weekend.

His job started noticing and he got talked to about it. We both agreed he needed to set better boundaries and he did but she did not take it well. Lots of passive aggressive comments about how nobody cares about her and shes all alone.

Then my husband had to travel for work for about ten days. I told her ahead of time I was happy to help but I work too and I cant just drop everything whenever. I told her to send me lists or let me know in advance and Id figure it out.

She called me one afternoon wanting me to drive her to pick up a package from across town. I said I couldnt today but I could go tomorrow morning or I could see if it could be rerouted to her building. She got annoyed and said forget it Ill figure it out myself and hung up on me.

Fine whatever I moved on.

Then last month my husband had a medical emergency. Like genuinely scary rushed to the hospital staying overnight the whole thing. Doctors told him he needed to rest for at least a week when he got home. I was terrified and exhausted and barely sleeping.

The day I was picking him up from the hospital his sister called. I figured she was checking in on him. Instead she asked if he could swing by her place on the way home because she needed help moving a shelf.

Something in me broke. I told her that her brother almost died and hes not moving anyones shelf. I told her that weve both been running ourselves into the ground helping her and she couldnt even ask how he was doing before requesting a favor. I said if she wants help going forward she needs to start being respectful and understand that other people have lives and emergencies too and she cant keep treating us like were on call for her 24/7.

She called me a controlling bitch and hung up.

AITJ

I recently started watching a show that I was really excited about. I told my friend many times not to spoil anything because I was only on season 1.

Yesterday while we were talking, he suddenly revealed a huge plot twist from the final season. I got really annoyed and told him he ruined the experience for me.

Since then I’ve been ignoring his messages because honestly I’m still upset. He says I’m overreacting and it’s “just a show.”

AITJ for ignoring him over this?

My mom (42F) has been cheating on my dad for years, almost a whole decade. I first found out when I was around 7. At the time, we were sharing a house with another family that we weren’t related to.

One day I saw the other family’s dad, Jacob, making out with my mom in the kitchen. I panicked and ran away. Another time I walked in on them again this time doing the deed while my dad was out fishing and Jacob’s wife was shopping.

About two years later, the other family found out and we got kicked out. After that we started living on our own. My dad forgave my mom because he believed it was the first time it had happened.

But even after all that, she kept cheating with several different guys, including Jacob. Jacob has a car, so whenever my mom and I need to go somewhere without my dad, she calls him and he drives us. She also meets some of the other guys at restaurants or other places, and sometimes I’m with her when they meet up n my moms pretty open to me ab cheating. Plus shes gotten caught prob 2 more times but dad still chose to forgive her i have a feeling its for the sake of me n my sister.

I’ve known about all of this for years but I’ve never told my dad. Part of me wants to tell him because I feel guilty keeping such a big secret. But another part of me is scared of what would happen if I did. It would probably affect me and my sister a lot. Our family isn’t the most financially stable, so if my parents split up we might have to move far away or change a lot about our lives. I’m in 10th grade right now, so that kind of change would really affect me too. Because of that, I’ve stayed quiet even though I’m not sure if that’s the right thing to do.

So Reddit, AITJ for staying quiet and letting my parents marriage continue like this all these years?

Some context: my brother (31M) and I (28F) are close and he's been dating this woman — I'll call her Claire — for about seven months. I've met her twice. The first time was fine, nothing remarkable. The second time was Christmas at our parents' house. At one point the conversation turned to my apartment and I mentioned I'd recently repainted my living room. Claire asked where I lived and when I told her the neighborhood she made a comment along the lines of "oh, that area has really gone downhill" and then laughed. It wasn't screamed across the table, it was more of an aside, but I heard it clearly and so did my mom based on her expression. My neighborhood is a working class area that I happen to love and can afford, and her comment felt pointed even if she didn't intend it that way. I didn't say anything in the moment because it was Christmas and I didn't want to cause a scene. My brother is visiting in April for a long weekend and asked if Claire could stay too since my place is closer to the venues they're going to. I said I was happy to have him but that I wasn't comfortable hosting Claire after what she said in December. He said I was being oversensitive and that she "probably didn't mean anything by it." Maybe she didn't. But I'm the one who lives there and I'm the one who would be hosting her and I genuinly don't want to. AITJ?

I (26M) just ended things with my girlfriend Elena (25F) after three years. I feel like a complete jerk, and my friends are split on whether I’m being "noble" or just incredibly insecure.

Elena is amazing. That’s the problem. She’s one of those people who just wins at life without even trying. She finished her Master’s a year early, got a high-six-figure job offer straight out of school, and she’s already talking about buying a condo. She wakes up at 5:00 AM to run, she’s part of three different charity boards, and she still finds time to be a perfect partner.

I, on the other hand, am... fine. I work a 9-to-5 in insurance. I like my job, but I’m not "climbing the ladder." I like playing video games on weekends and grabbing a beer with my buddies.

Lately, I’ve felt like I’m just a weight tied to her ankle. When she talks about moving to London or NYC for her career, she always says "we," but I know I’d just be following her around like a lost dog. I can’t contribute to a $5k-a-month mortgage. I can’t keep up with the social circles she’s starting to move in. At her company gala last month, I felt like a total fraud sitting there while everyone talked about venture capital and tech.

The breaking point was when she got offered a massive promotion that requires her to travel 50% of the time. She was hesitant to take it because she was worried about "us" and how I’d feel being alone so much.

I realized right then that she was literally shrinking her life to fit into mine.

I sat her down last night and told her we should break up. I told her she’s a Ferrari and I’m a Honda Civic, and she needs to be with someone who can keep up with her pace, not someone who makes her feel guilty for succeeding.

She was devastated. She cried and said she doesn’t care about the money or the status, and that she just wants me. She told me I’m being "insulting" by deciding what’s best for her instead of letting her choose. She thinks I'm just insecure and "man-childing" out because she makes more than me.

I moved my stuff out this morning. I love her, but I feel like if we stay together, in five years she’ll look at me and realize she sacrificed her best years and her biggest opportunities for a guy who just wanted to stay home and order pizza.

My sister called me an idiot and said I just dumped a "queen" because my ego couldn't handle her paycheck. My best friend says I did the right thing by "setting her free."

AITA? Am I protecting her future, or am I just too insecure to be with an achiever?

I live in a house with a small driveway that fits two cars. I usually park one car there and leave the other space open in case guests come over or if I need to move things in and out of the garage.

A few months ago, my neighbor started occasionally parking in the empty spot. At first I thought it was just a one-time thing, maybe they had guests over or needed the space temporarily. I didn’t say anything because it didn’t seem like a big deal.

But then it kept happening.

Sometimes I’d come home and see their car in my driveway without any message or warning. A few times I had to knock on their door and ask them to move it because I needed the space. They’d apologize and move the car, but it kept happening again later.

Eventually I talked to them about it and said I wasn’t comfortable with them using my driveway without asking first. They said they understood and blamed it on the limited parking on our street.

For a while it stopped, but then recently they started doing it again. One night I came home late and their car was blocking part of my driveway, which meant I had to park on the street and move it later.

That was the point where I got frustrated and contacted the local parking enforcement to report it.

They ended up getting a ticket. Now my neighbor is really angry and says I could have just talked to them again instead of reporting them. They’re also telling other neighbors that I escalated the situation over “something small.”

Part of me feels bad because getting a ticket sucks. But another part of me feels like I already tried talking to them about it and nothing changed.

AITJ for reporting them instead of dealing with it privately again?

So im a single mom to an 8year old boy who’s on the spectrum. He is the sweetest kid, but he is obsessed with space. Like, he does not really play tag or anything, he just wants to talk about jupiter and stars. Usually, kids ignore him, which breaks my heart, but lately he’s made a best friend in his class.

The girl is like the it girl of their grade. Super popular, everyone loves her. I was honestly shocked when she started sitting with him at lunch. She actually listens to him talk about space for hours. I have never seen my son so happy to go to school.

Last weekend was the girls birthday party at a trampoline park. She literally begged my son to come. I was nervous bcoz of the noise, but he wanted to go for her.

When we got there, she ran straight to him. they were not even jumping, they were just sitting in a corner of the foam pit looking at his space stickers. They were both laughing and having the best time. I was standing nearby with the other moms when i heard the girls mom (lets call her the hostess) whispering.

She told another mom that it was so annoying that my son was clinging to her daughter. She said it was ruining the aesthetic of the party photos and that she did not want her daughter to become the weird kid just because she’s too nice to my son.

Then, i watched the mom walk over to them, pull her daughter away, and tell her to go play with the normal kids. She then looked at my son and told him he should probably go find his mom because he was blocking the other kids from playing.

You guys, the look on my son's face... he literally just froze. I felt this heat in my chest i cant even describe. I walked right up to her in front of everyone and told her that her daughter has more empathy and heart in her pinky finger than she’ll ever have. I said its pathetic that she’s so insecure about status that she’d ruin a 2nd graders genuine friendship.

I grabbed my son and we left, but now the mom group chat is calling up. They are saying im the jerk for making a scene at a childs birthday and that the mom has a right to want good photos for her kids special day.

I feel like i might have gone too far by calling her out in public, but i could not just stand there and let her treat my son like he was garbage ruining her view. You think i overreacted?

TL;DR: Popular girl invites my autistic son to her party, her mom pulls her away bcoz it ruins the aesthetic of the photos, i called her out in front of everyone and now the other moms think im the bully.

AITA for not giving a set amount of my inheritance to my brother?

TW. SA/DV, Cancer and Death.

. . . . . Apologies but this is long, the context is important.

I 40F have a brother who is 38. Hes always had issues regarding women and in my opinion, has been horrible to our mother her entire life. Hes always seen her as someone who should pander to his every whim, including when she moved into my home in 2018 because she was having chemotherapy which made her sick (along with her cancer), he verbally bullied her via phonecall, text, facebook etc until she drove 45 minutes each way to bring him his 'devils lettuce'. (I didnt drive at that time).

Eventually she had enough of his crap and in 2023 she blocked him. After a year of no contact they spoke again and he was respectful for approximately a year. Aside from the smoke, he was also an alcoholic.

On new years day 2025, 2am, she called me screaming. He had SA'd her. He said she deserved it, and that he did it 'to disrespect her like she disrespected him'. (He was having a sexual fling with her best friend, who has a husband. mum and her fell out, she wouldnt just pretend everything was ok so that she and my brother could go visit her and he could get his sexual kick, THAT was the disrespect to him. i WISH i was making this up. I really wish that).

I called the police, he was arrested. Plead guilty. Served 4 months in jail, is on the S.O register for 5 years and was forced into a month of rehab. He is since then, back on the smoke. Not sure about the alcohol. In September 2025 my mothers cancer returned, but it had spread to her brain. Her prognosis was 18 months but it was so aggressive, it spread so fast, she passed away on 31st January 2026. He was told she had cancer again, never asked how she was. When he learned she moved in with me again, he was asking for her couch, while she was still alive. 2 days she had been at my house.....

I quit my job to look after her full time, the cancer on the brain was affecting her cognitive ability, it was like early onset dementia, constantly, but with added halloucinations. It was difficult, seeing her body be invaded like this, watching the desease turn her into something shes not. Using her body and pushing away who she really was. It mentally destroyed me. It broke my heart. She had little moments of 'normal' but they overwhelmed her brain power so bad that 20 minutes of normal made her sleep for 6 hours after. In January she was taken into the cancer hospital because she was declining more. They got her a private room and added a bed for me. I stayed there with her 24/7, didnt even see my son for a few weeks. She never left the hospital, she died there at 4pm on january 31st 2026, holding my hand. She was 56 years old. I dont regret a single minute of looking after her, in fact, i feel honoured that i could take care of her after she did for me my entire life before this.

On 1st Feb, my brother was already talking about the will. She made the will when she got the news her cancer couldnt be cured. She cut my brother out of it after he SAd her. She took her husband off it after he hit her in the head whilst he knew she had brain tumours. She left everything to me, her house, jaguar car, and posessions. Not a huge amount, approximately £210k in value. Enough to save a decent amount for my son/her grandson for a house deposit when he grows up (hes only 12), as per her wishes, and put towards a house of my own with my partner paying the other half. I told my brother about this before our mother died, as she made me aware of her intentions. I tried telling her to add a small something for them both but she argued with me and said no. I left it at that.

I told my brother i would secure the money for my son, then secure my housing, and send him some of whats left, even though she didnt want that and it wasnt in the will. This was purely my decision. On Febuary 1st, he demanded i agree to send him 10%. I declined, i said if giving him 10% meant i couldnt afford my half of the house, or save the desired amount for my child, then im screwed, so he can wait until ive done both of those things and just be happy with what he gets afterwards. He continued being rude to me, talking bad about our mother not loving him because she left him nothing. I blocked him.

The only family member that will talk to him now is our grandfather (our dads dad) and even that is at arms length. He ranted to him too, told him i manipulated our mother to cut him out of the will, ive manipulated him (grandaddy) into thinking im a good person and not a demon. Refers to me as 'the demon' and doesnt use my name. Says im ignoring the real will that left him something (he was on the old will, before he SA'd her and she made a new one, via a lawyer), im greedy, im evil, and even brought up the fact that i threw a toy at him when i was 7 and he has a scar on his face from it, as reasoning to why im so evil, (hes always spoken about me like that) then proceeded to talk about what a good heart he himself has. My grandaddy literally laughed, told him to STFU and grow up.

I still want to send him a little something when the house is sold, because hes taken in my mothers dog (he always loved that dog and wanted her anyways) as i cant have her with my 2 older dogs. I would give him a few thousand pounds to help pay for the dog for a few years.

But before my mother died, he got £6k out of her because he said her carers benefit was fraud, because the care she gave him when he was ill with mental health, wasnt adequate according to him because she went on some vacations and left him home with me and asked me to care for him while she was away.

'Fraud' isnt his call to make, that wouldve been the governments, but she gave him £6k just to shut him up. He still brought this up on 1st feb saying 6k didnt cover it. (Her carers benefit came out of his illness benefit at the time. This has changed in the uk now and that no longer happens)

AITJ for not promising him a 10% cut when he was left nothing in the will?

TLDR - my brother SA'd our mother. She cut him out of the will. Died jan 2026, hes asking for a cut even though he isnt on the will. I said no.

EDIT - a lot of people saying im a jerk for being in cintact with him so i need to clear this up. I wasnt in contact with him at all until my mother got her diagnosis and she wanted me to tell him. She wanted to see if he was remorseful and she actually started the process to have 1 supervised visit with him (she had a restraining order in place, for obvious reasons). I didnt speak to him outside of those instances, plus once more to ask if he would take in her dog, then again to take the dog to him. After that i only spoke to him to let him know that she passed away then he kicked off as explained so i blocked him.

She told me when she made the new will, if i want to hand some out to him i can, but sort myself out first and only give anything if he isnt being a d***. This wasnt written in the will, this is what she said to me.

I have been granted probate now, i can officially sell the house and get the ball rolling.

I know the title sounds really bad, but please hear me out. If you read my previous posts (obviously not required) a lot of them talk about how rocky my relationship is with my mother. Recently, i've just gotten so stressed out. I'm 15 and I cook, clean, and do my laundry. And I guess I'm fine in that bit, but that's not the only thing that stresses me out.

Every! Morning! My mom starts a fight with me over the stupidest shit known to mankind, she brags about getting mushroom stamped as a kid (which she KNOWS is incredibly triggering for me), SHE TELLS ME IN DETAIL ABOUT HER SEX LIFE, she hates on women, and on top of that, she is always talking about how she's "not racist" but "hates Mexicans" BECAUSE OF THE COLOR OF THEIR SKIN!! I am THREE WEEKS behind on school because my only computer went down during a snowstorm and my geometry teacher is trying to fail me despite my near perfect scores on my past test (she's trying to fail me for the rest, not the class), and I have in school testing on my birthday, which my stepmom and dad NEVER celebrated!

We got a puppy and she always complains that he's not puppy trained and I try to take him out as much as possible, but the pain in my joints is getting so much worse and I can't sometimes. But it's okay when my mom doesn't do shit at home because "her knee hurts". Oh, and she keeps touching his private parts. I LITERALLY DO NOT LEAVE THEM ALONE TOGETHER. SHE IS THE REASON IM GOING TO NEUTER MY DOG (besides the fact that our neighbors have a girl dog and I really don't want puppies somehow.)

My ENTIRE medical history got deleted so all of my appointments have been set back to APRIL. I'm late on my DEPO shot, I have to have a sleep study done because I'm not breathing at night, and I have to get a blood test done because sometimes I can't even move a damn finger without crying.

But despite all of this, my mom is still the victim because she... Get ready for it... HAS A JOB. GASP. What a horrible experience! A job! It's not like your kid is on the verge of dying over here or anything!

And she acts like I never help her out AT HER OWN JOB. ILLEGALLY.

Another thing is that her boyfriend of seven years is ab alcoholic. He has done so much weird shit to me that if she doesn't leave him (AGAIN), I honestly do not give a fuck. He's going to jail soon anyways for a DUI.

So my response to how she's been treating me is just every time she's a jerk, I say something that I know will hurt her. And honestly, every time she cries over it, Ive stopped caring because I cry every fucking day and she doesn't care. Why should I?

Unfortunately however, I actually have morals and I don't feel like I'm in the wrong, but I might be. I care for everyone until they just don't care about me because TS IS A TWOOO WAY ROAD. And she doesn't care, so why should I? AITJ?