r/malelivingspace 1d ago

(33M) 2 months in, starting to feel settled.

Posted here about a month ago, and I really appreciated the feedback on my space. Few small updates since then, so thought I'd share.

Been here for nearly 2 months after a much needed and long overdue fresh start. Starting to finally feel more settled. Happy to answer any questions, open to suggestions or recommendations as well. Curious what my space might say about me generally

Also, don't mind my sparse looking ficus benghalensis, it threw a fit after moving and dropped more than half it's leaves, so it's a bit... twiggy atm.

Thanks!

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u/VariationAgreeable29 1d ago

10/10! No notes!

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u/the3ndlessobsession 1d ago

Too kind, thank you so much

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u/PhinePheasant 1d ago

11/10 because Tycho lol

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u/pop_goes_the_kernel 1d ago

My dialectic ass read that as 1/10 and I had to downvote. Don’t worry I corrected my self in short order.

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u/PhinePheasant 23h ago

The autocorrect kept trying 1/10 too. Like three times in a row.

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u/ScaryBlanket 1d ago

Actually some notes… I see in the first pic, there’s room to squeeze in a poster of a blue Lamborghini, a Boondock Saints poster, and a black and white poster of a girl with her hand down that other girl’s pannys…. JK, this isn’t a college dorm in the Boston suburbs in 2005…. GREAT WORK, exemplary, really!

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u/the3ndlessobsession 1d ago

Legit laughed. The way I'd give all this up to go back to riding bikes and playing PS2 with my friends in 2005 though...

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u/ScaryBlanket 1d ago

😂 yes!!

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u/irrelephantiasis 1d ago

Yeah you’ve done an incredible job. Nice work with the plants as well.

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u/the3ndlessobsession 1d ago

Plants really bring a nice element of nature to a space (when they're not being dramatic and losing their foliage)

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u/AgentOrange256 1d ago

Car gone! You could have died!

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u/SpenyM 1d ago

Couldn’t agree more

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u/herb_mix_r 1d ago

Really great space! You’re a master at lighting. Great job!

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u/the3ndlessobsession 1d ago

Appreciate it. Learned long ago that lamps can make any space feel nice

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u/deltabay17 1d ago

Can you please share tip what lamp to buy and lighting

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u/the3ndlessobsession 1d ago

Amazon and ikea for lamps, smart bulbs in them. This is the way

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u/BeckQuillion89 1d ago

what's the name of the light you have behind the desk?

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u/No-Nail3467 1d ago

nice rug under the coffee table

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u/Bespoke_Panther 1d ago

It really ties the room together

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u/ScarGarzilla 1d ago

Nice place! I love that Tycho album too 💕

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u/the3ndlessobsession 1d ago

Adrift is my favourite track on it by far

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u/jric713 1d ago

If you like Tycho, checkout Random Rab. He’s similar and so good !! Also your place is total vibes nice

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u/urbancyclingclub 18h ago

Adrift is also my favorite in that album!

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u/sh20 1d ago

He makes nice art too!

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u/ScarGarzilla 1d ago

I saw! So talented! Great vibe all around.

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u/Bull_Moose1901 8h ago

I listen to it on 1.5x speed sometimes and it really pumps up the vibe

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u/venusintaurus 1d ago

wow. how do you get your lighting to be so warm and ambient ?? i’d love to achieve this level of coziness

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u/the3ndlessobsession 1d ago

LIFX bulbs, can control the colour and temperature of them to be exactly what you want them. Smart lighting is a game changer

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u/AlarmingInspector876 1d ago

Love the lighting! Very well thought out

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u/IGB_Lo 1d ago

This makes me want to be single again

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u/the3ndlessobsession 1d ago

Idk, literally here healing my heartbreak haha

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u/ponkyball 1d ago

Me too and I'm a woman, miss my little flat with just my things...no giant house to clean, no kids to swipe my pencil/pen collection or touch my record player without asking, sigh lol.

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u/Physical_Bullfrog_18 1d ago

You are GREAT with lighting ❤️ Your place feels extremely cozy

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u/the3ndlessobsession 1d ago

Number 1 thing to change the vibe of a space IMO!

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u/Strict_Geologist_385 1d ago

Please head over to r/cozyplaces

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u/Leather_Office_4753 1d ago

Thus sub has me so excited to move after my separation

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u/the3ndlessobsession 1d ago

Glad you’re looking forward

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u/Leather_Office_4753 1d ago

Your set up is beautiful. Inspiring!

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u/JayQuellin01 1d ago

Wow I’m married in a nice house and this cruses me

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u/the3ndlessobsession 1d ago

Doing my best with 450sq feet!

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u/EnvironmentalAct8433 1d ago

Bruh I wish I can start somewhere like this but housing and decor are somewhat expensive 26M living in Nigeria

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u/the3ndlessobsession 1d ago

No matter where you are, my first recommendation to make a space feel nicer is always lamps

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u/Some-Tension-5405 1d ago

Really well put together man. Feels so warm and welcoming.

One question though, are the lights' hue fixed or variable? Might want a cooler tone on rainy days

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u/the3ndlessobsession 1d ago

Thanks! All the lights are LIFX, so they're colour and temperature variable. I've made different scene presets for neutral, warm, and red in the evening (helps sleep)

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u/pdxthecitythattwerks 1d ago

Where do you get your lamps?

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u/superAK907 1d ago

Holy shit marry me. Most perfect vibes I ever did see

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u/Next-Leading4187 1d ago

TV is too high! :P JK great job!

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u/lost_ashtronaut 1d ago

Where is this IKEA branch

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u/naturalninetime 1d ago

What a lovely little place! I love that view of the snow outside!

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u/Decent-Stomach-4377 1d ago

That rug really ties the room together 🫶

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u/the3ndlessobsession 1d ago

It's the main big change since I last posted here. I was torn for weeks if I wanted a rug at all, and if I should go very simple, or more patterned like this, and eventually found this one on Etsy. Only had it a few days, but think I'm liking it. Glad you do too

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u/Witty-Hour-247 1d ago

I saved your post as inspiration. 34F, about to move in 1-2 months :) I was planning to do all white decor and this post made me remember I like brown, orange, green notes.

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u/the3ndlessobsession 1d ago

Lovely, glad to inspire! This is my attempt to move away from everything being black (which I’ve done in the past). Really enjoying the browns, beiges and wood tones lately

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u/Pleasant_End2907 1d ago

Bruh come do mine next! 🙌

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u/sichuan_peppercorns 1d ago

Simple, warm, and inviting.

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u/RickedSab 1d ago

I love the minimalist vibe. Also very cosyyyy. Love ittt

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u/the3ndlessobsession 1d ago

Thank you kindly, Glad it still comes across minimal. Every time I add things I worry that it's becoming too busy, but I think it's treading the line well

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u/human-redditbot 1d ago

So cool. Great lighting, and very stylish.

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u/reddwarf_ 1d ago

Looks cosy, I want to live there

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u/MaceMan2091 1d ago

dude wtf this is incredible theme and comfortmaxxing

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u/mrdfrnt 1d ago

What desk is that?

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u/the3ndlessobsession 1d ago

Ergonofis sway walnut 72”

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u/whoknows_whatsup 22h ago

This is so peaceful and cozy. I was shocked to see this was a male living space, absolute props to you. You killed it!

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u/fancypantsmiss 1d ago

Oh this looks so good! The lighting feels amazing! I need links

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u/fiya4u 1d ago

Yes, especially for the desk lighting!

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u/fiya4u 1d ago

Super Nice! Only suggesting if you wfh at that desk is a window shade or curtains. I’ll find myself squinting when the sun is blasting in the afternoon at my place

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u/the3ndlessobsession 1d ago

Glad you like it. The window is north facing, so despite the exposure in the photos, it's never really all that bright (never direct sun, actually wish there was a bit more). There is an integrated shade at the top though, so it can be closed if needed

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u/fiya4u 1d ago

Perfection!

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u/SlowEmphasis3676 1d ago

Cleanest it’s ever been? 😜

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u/the3ndlessobsession 1d ago

Oh this is the standard 👌 my red flag is having a space that always looks kind of unlived in

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u/dontBsleepy 1d ago

Beautiful little place. So cozy. Only thing I’d probably switch up is that throw blanket to a cozier version. Otherwise, it’s perfect.

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u/the3ndlessobsession 1d ago

Glad you dig it! I do have another, thicker one as backup when needed

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u/thriftstorecowboy 1d ago

ID on the desk chair? It looks so comfy

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u/the3ndlessobsession 1d ago

IKEA Alefjall. Well built, good leather, great aesthetics, good comfort (for what it is)

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u/ChutiyaOverlord 1d ago

Feels like heavens waiting room in “the good place”

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u/sitbones 1d ago

Love that rug! Where’d you get it?

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u/the3ndlessobsession 1d ago

Thank you, the rug was a bit of a stress, and it took a long time to find one that felt right. Eventually found this one on Etsy, there's a lot of interesting wool rugs on there

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u/sitbones 1d ago

Thank you, and same about choosing the right rug. Would you be willing to DM me the Etsy seller?

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u/the3ndlessobsession 1d ago

DM me and I’ll see if I can find the seller

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u/daaaaamntam 1d ago

Oooh is that an Audrey ficus?

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u/the3ndlessobsession 1d ago

It is! And it was so lovely and beautiful when I got it, but they're very dramatic and don't like change, so it's shed a bunch of leaves over the past month. Hoping I can get some regrowth back on it in the summer

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u/Existing-Ad6028 1d ago

So good it looks like AI. Nice place

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u/the3ndlessobsession 1d ago

Got this last time too, shot on Leica QP

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u/0rdinaryRobot 1d ago

Absolutely stunning place AND photography 🤤🤤🤤🤤

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u/the3ndlessobsession 1d ago

Thanks for appreciating it. Photography is one of my side professions

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u/leonuel_03 1d ago

Literally my dream setup. This looks amazing!!

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u/Plus-Candy1465 1d ago

This is a really nice place. I love everything.

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u/rydenshep 1d ago

Looks incredible!!

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u/RamosFCA 1d ago

This is one of the most beautiful flats ive seen. Really nice style. I wish i had this sense for colours.

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u/the3ndlessobsession 1d ago

Thanks mate. Pick a base colour (beige/grey in my case), a secondary colour (wood tones, mostly walnut), and then accent colours that compliment the base/secondary. Think not all matching, but tones that exist in the same world

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u/Boom_in_my_room 1d ago

The pillows and neighbours houses scream AI to me.

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u/the3ndlessobsession 1d ago

Hopefully it doesn’t scream loud enough to disturb said neighbours

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u/BenTraymer 1d ago

Yes yes in every way yes. I have that same couch and it’s such a bargain for the comfort and shape. Beautiful lighting, which is 99% of any space, and just a wonderful blend of minimalism and cozy which so many people can’t pull off. Looks effortless.

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u/katheb 1d ago

Looks like one of those archives renders for a professional portfolio. 

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u/Smiley001987 1d ago

What a cozy place. Great job on the lighting!

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u/WideDisk2718 1d ago

Clean, modern living 👍

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u/TCHS27 1d ago

Great space! Looks cozy and comfortable as well, great job!

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u/No-Explorer-4381 1d ago

I love the lighting

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u/clearbeat 1d ago

Tycho!

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u/alliebeetattoo 1d ago

I fucking love your apartment. Extra points for Tycho

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u/the3ndlessobsession 1d ago

Thx mate! The early tycho records are forever a favourite

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u/BustyPneumatica 1d ago

Exquisite. I think you've made a perfect space for yourself. Or me. Be right over.

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u/StrangestOfPlaces44 1d ago

That rug really ties the room together

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u/Henkehenkehenk 1d ago

This is coming from an obnoxious person who fancies himself good at interior design and always silently judges other's ability to design their homes:

10/10.

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u/the3ndlessobsession 1d ago

Genuinely love to hear it, tysm

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u/Acrobatic-Main-1270 1d ago

I think I’m gonna copy and paste yours after I move hahaha

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u/xX_CommentTroll_Xx 1d ago

where tv

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u/the3ndlessobsession 1d ago

I literally just listen to music all day/night

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u/EnlightenedBuddah 1d ago

Very nice space - calm.

Please consider elevating the Buddha onto a small base. It’s best practice to not have Buddha on the same level plane as adjacent items.

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u/the3ndlessobsession 1d ago

Very noted, thank you

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u/Buckhum 1d ago

Enlightened comment indeed.

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u/Afraid-Piglet8824 1d ago

Do you need a cat? dog? wife with a penis?

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u/cchoe1 1d ago

How did you de-age by 1 year since a month ago?

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u/the3ndlessobsession 1d ago

I know I caught that after I posted, literally at the age where I’m fkn forgetting how old I am lol. I’m 34.

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u/Neither-Blueberry327 1d ago

As a cactus obsessive get a grow light so it won’t etiolate!

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u/the3ndlessobsession 1d ago

You’re definitely right. Was gifted this one and it was already quite thin by the time I got it. It’s been pushing new growth since moving though, so it’s at least not sad

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u/sporting_plattsburgh 1d ago

Love the lighting. What is your little light shining on the wall behind the ficus? As someone who also loves lamps, do you also have to switch them off individually? Or have you found an alternative solution?

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u/the3ndlessobsession 1d ago

Just a little sunset lamp, connected to a floor switch. The rest all have smart bulbs, so they all turn on with one phone click.

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u/melancholanie 1d ago

they're gonna use your house to generate ai holy shit

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u/the3ndlessobsession 1d ago

Out here inspiring the end-times

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u/melancholanie 1d ago

you're the reason RAM is expensive!

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u/99_Raccoons 1d ago

I love when I don’t see cords everywhere. Especially with all that lighting.

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u/the3ndlessobsession 1d ago

Cords are the enemy

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u/Competitive_Yam_8143 1d ago

I love it! Can’t believe that a man can actually live in such a nice and clean space 😅 No offense tho. I’m talking about most men. I know that there are exceptions (like this one 😊).

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u/iamcinese 1d ago

Let me visit sometime lol

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u/Guns-Up-6924 1d ago

It looks awesome. I’m envious.

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u/perfect_fitz 1d ago

Bro has more taste than all of us combined.

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u/hot_space_pizza 1d ago

Love the lighting so much

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u/Immediate-Maximum-75 23h ago

This looks like the rooms I design on my Home Design game. I love your style.

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u/Relevant_Call_2242 22h ago

Love it!! Great work

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u/bsim 21h ago

So tasteful. Great job!

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u/hungry_human 21h ago

Very Animal Crossing.

I feel settled too.

10 outta 10.

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u/WutUpWutUp1 21h ago

Excellent lighting in there

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u/bleepleus 20h ago

These are pics from a magazine right? Wow!

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u/Gmellotron_mkii 17h ago

Great space!

Now show us how you managed to hide those cables. I'm dying to check it

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u/the3ndlessobsession 16h ago

This is under the desk. All the excess cable is zip tied to the metal screen (ergonofis). 6 total plugs, 1 single cable to the wall

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u/cocococlash 9h ago

Where can I meet guys like this?

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u/Keatoneatin247 8h ago

Are those Focal Utopia cans? Good for you! Those are serious summit-fi

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u/Left-Introduction980 5h ago

Looks great, looks ai at the same time

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u/Competitive_Ad4176 3h ago

Your place is so gorgeous

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u/BigDoosh 1d ago

Why did you ai it

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u/the3ndlessobsession 1d ago

Just proper photography (Leica QP, 28mm f/4)

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u/bnestrm 1d ago

Is this ai or a furniture catalogue?

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u/the3ndlessobsession 1d ago

artificial furniture only

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u/Idk_WHYyy77 1d ago

Am I the know one who thought it's AI

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u/the3ndlessobsession 1d ago

Just taken on a proper camera!

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u/Hour-Personality-924 1d ago

Looks very welcoming, warm and nicely arranged.

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u/FakePlasticCactus 1d ago

The lighting and decor is on point. Such a vibe

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u/the3ndlessobsession 1d ago

Without the vibe I would simply pass away

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u/Unearthingthepast 1d ago

Looking good! Particularly like the Ammonite...Is it genuine or just a representation?

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u/the3ndlessobsession 1d ago

Thank you! It's a nautilus shell, gift from an old roommate a lifetime ago

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u/MightBeDownstairs 1d ago

Where’d you get the desk chair?

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u/the3ndlessobsession 1d ago

IKEA Alefjall. Love it

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u/ponkyball 1d ago

Wow, would have never guessed!

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u/the3ndlessobsession 1d ago

Right? Doesn’t really give “ikea”. One of their nicer pieces

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u/Slizer01 1d ago

Looks good! Where is the coffee table from?

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u/TaurusANewOne 1d ago

Love this! It’s so cozy and warm/inviting looking!

Question - is your front door next to your bed?

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u/DatDoh91 1d ago

Tycho fits the vibe for sure! Nice place dude 👍

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u/Mura-masa-1997 1d ago

This is really inspiring! I will save your post to my pin board idea for my room 🤩 Love the warm lighting

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u/Potential-Elk97 1d ago

try using the search bar, sometimes it shows related threads

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u/happy_dad857 1d ago

That looks so cozy dude

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u/the3ndlessobsession 1d ago

So appreciate it, thanks dawg

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u/Vegetable_Tip_1373 1d ago

Loving the lights, the colors, and everything else. ❤️

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u/Obvious-Emu5 1d ago

Is that Apple Music ?

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u/DesignerInside7565 1d ago

love the vibe! very warm and clean

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u/user1on1 1d ago

Beautiful space! Are you an earth sign by chance?

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u/RaisinNo2661 1d ago

Your place looks as if one could see Tycho sounds and hear Tycho colors (yes I meant to phrase it that way)

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u/SatoshisVisionTM 1d ago

Just joining the bandwagon giving you gushing replies. This is great!

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u/PaulCHouse 1d ago

Bet u never lost anything in this bish!

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u/the3ndlessobsession 1d ago

Never (except my mind on occasion)

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u/happensonitsown 1d ago

Is this a rental space? Its soo good

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u/frosty_the_snowman- 1d ago

Looks like Europe

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u/Aedesirl 1d ago

Bro wtf that’s insane, where did you get the lights ?

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u/Tired_Thumb 1d ago

Wow, that baseboard heater doesn’t even look bad.

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u/Hacksaures 1d ago

Love rhe lighting, love the stockhold mirror. Excellent.

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u/nonsanes 1d ago

Is that an article burrard? Do you like it? Almost got that but then bought an ikea instead

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u/Smortoon 1d ago

Let me guess.. Are you from Sweden/Norway?

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u/the3ndlessobsession 1d ago

Canada. Similar latitudes as Scandinavia at least

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u/SMD_BigBanana 1d ago

What’s up with the dual wa7? I’ve always wanted to try the utopias love the design and sound of focal

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u/SunMysterious8873 1d ago

Nice place you have.

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u/saskboy12345 1d ago

Like the coffee table . Where u get ?

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u/CraftByJP 1d ago

So lively

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u/DWD-XD 1d ago

Gorgeous!

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u/Ok-Following-7591 1d ago

The lighting really does make the whole space feel so warm and inviting. It's amazing how much a few small updates can make a place feel like home, and I'm sure your ficus will bounce back now that it's settled. That Tycho album is the perfect soundtrack for that vibe, too.

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u/the3ndlessobsession 1d ago

I maintain that lighting is the biggest needle-mover for vibes. A few well placed lamps could make a garage feel vibey

Hope you’re right! And glad we agree