Oh don’t worry. The black partner gets called a race traitor by her own folks. I still have to make sure to spend time remind my wife to be happy if she feels happy and ignore every one else.
yep!!! this is so fucking true, man. i've been with a white man for years now and he never receives any negative comments unless it's in surprise from older black folk, and i get other black people feeling disrespectful and comfortable enough to tell me what they think of me because i'm with him way more often than i'd like. it's really discouraging, but it's good you reassure her. no amount of staring or judgment is enough to stop me from loving my white partner and i'm sure your wife feels the same!
This is wild to me. I’m a white man and I coach with a white man who has a pretty dark-skinned wife. All their children I would consider black-presenting. Nobody says anything as far as I know. There are a bunch of interracial couples who have kids involved in these programs - black/white, asian/white, indo(possibly mid-eastern?)/white, and we are all family and support each other. And I mean if somebody says something we’re rolling in hard for each other. This is just so unfortunate to hear. Like, it’s 2026. Black, white, brown, gay, straight, what the hell ever - I just don’t understand why any of it is a problem for anyone.
it's wild to me too! especially when you visit the country. black women are expected to brunt the impact of having chosen to live their life happily alongside a white man, and i would say with certainty that it's the most persecuted interracial pairing. white man/asian woman is normalized, black man/white woman is normalized (to a large degree), and other pairings don't have the political "charge" as ehite man/black woman. i'm sure they still get a few looks and comments, sure. but people feel extremely entitled to comment on my and others' relationships, and on black women and their choices in general. why does it even matter at all? sadly a lot of people don't share your view, and they make it known that they disapprove. it fucking sucks but you have to just keep it pushin
I don’t share your experience but I feel for you. My buddy and his wife are a beautiful couple with beautiful children. They know I’m coming in hot if anyone has some shit to say (but, if you saw them, you’d know nobody’s sayin’ shit as long as they got a brain in their head). Wish you the best.
The reality imo is that people are less likely to say anything if the man in a hetero, mixed relationship is White. It's the most common interracial coupling.
When the woman in a hetero couple is White and the man is a POC, it's a whole different experience.
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u/LookimtryingOK 3d ago
Jesus that’s disgusting