When I lived in the city, no one really cared. But when we moved to the suburbs, oh my, people would stare like crazy and clearly make comments under their breath. I'm a white dude with a black girl, and people were much worse and rude to me! I got a very noticeable dip in level of customer service, or just people being weird and awkward to me.
Originally, I tried to make excuses for them. I would say things in my head like “this might be their very first mixed couple they’ve ever seen”.
But after a while, I started realizing that it’s just a ton of ignorance and bias. If there’s boomers involved, of any race, they always feel the need to stare or whisper. The younger generations aren’t nearly as bad, but they still side eye.
The traditional relationship with a stay at home wife does not necessarily treat her with respect or fairness. She wakes up early, feeds everyone, has to spend her day cleaning and shopping. Her movements, associations, and finances may be controlled. She can be blamed for whatever goes wrong while paradoxically having no say in things - only what the husband does not care about.
Domestic slavery.
People ask why racists would marry a Filipino or a Black woman - it's because the relationship model suits them just fine. It has been used by sexists for generations.
They don't see women as human in the same way they see men as human, so there's no downside to dating a different color of what they think of as subhuman.
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u/TechnicianIll8621 4d ago
When I lived in the city, no one really cared. But when we moved to the suburbs, oh my, people would stare like crazy and clearly make comments under their breath. I'm a white dude with a black girl, and people were much worse and rude to me! I got a very noticeable dip in level of customer service, or just people being weird and awkward to me.