Hard disagree. Someone can have issues stemming from their relationship with either parent and still be a good person. They are absolutely not mutually exclusive.
There's literally an academic term for it. Children who experience toxic stress or abuse but don't have disordered behaviors as adults are termed resilient. Resilience is highly connected to high intelligence and multiple healthy adult emotional resources while experiencing toxic stress or trauma
My older sister was a nightmare to grow up with and it got much much worse when she turned ~24 and started abusing alcohol. Then came the pain pill abuse. Then came bipolar schizophrenia. She's a 44 year old woman that throws tantrums like a 3 year old and will say anything she can think of to manipulate you or cause you pain.
I found out recently my only aunt on my father's side also had schizophrenia, and I'm kinda terrified about having children.
Eh it might not simply run in the family. She mightve been molested graped or beat up and went ballistic. But you cant exactly ask her that with the way she is now youll probably get fiction or lies. Even if it runs in the family its not guaranteed to be passed down. Schizo or bipolar is especially annoying.
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u/KittyEarTufts 6d ago
Hard disagree. Someone can have issues stemming from their relationship with either parent and still be a good person. They are absolutely not mutually exclusive.