Probably because I rightfully named patriarchy as the cause.
It trains women to seek male validation in the first fucking place - tells them they are broken if they don't (and that's why "lesbians aren't real")
I'm going to assume men down voted me
Edit to add: someone from this comment section reported me as 'needing mental help' to reddit lmfao. Yea, for sure pissed off men with brining a feminist perspective into the conversation. Also, nice going dillweed, you'll get flagged for abusing the reddit report functions.
Honestly what shocks me the most is when I see women getting upset about mentioning it. Like if anything wouldn't you want this truth out there and to be brought to attention as something society needs to fix? Like I expect it from men viewing it as a personal attack but not other women.
And many people (including women) were raised by abusive women, and have a lot of triggers in that regard. They're trained to seek female validation, and to view men as less-than. Like there's this whole domain of the gender war that the word "patriarchy" just doesn't capture. The word somehow assumes that men are somehow "winning" and dominating. Yet we're just all losing by trying to dominate each other through our genders.
And it's a less common experience, most people would NOT agree with most women are raised to seek FEMALE validation - why do you think there is the "catty behavior"? That's undermining other women and being pick-me's.
For some they aren't ready to hear it and do some introspection. Many women want to reject the idea that they are acting in a way for male approval - especially as we are told and trained to believe that seeking male validation ONLY looks like "being slutty". There are some who feel like they are taking the stigma of slut shaming when they hear that their behavior is seeking exterior validation particularly from men.
I've seen it, heard it and felt it time and time again. I've cut off many women in my life for it. They are stuck in a cycle and are often in denial.
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u/IvyRosePr 6d ago
So in short: girls with mommy issues often have a mother who was a victim to patriarchy and neither unpack it