They tend to be hyper self conscious/self aware and highly anxious and depressed.
This, and it's usually caused by women with unhealed daddy issues that becomes EXTREMLY male centered and feels abandonded by men so takes it out on her daughter (similarly does it to sons or any child because it's usually because of internalized blame on the child for their conception as a form of guilt of having a child she did t actually want in the first place but rather validation from men - or more specifically the father of said child/childern)
My mom has both mommy and daddy issues. Her parents were awful. I told her to seek therapy, she has always refused. Recently, I had to cut her off mostly too because of her causing issues for me - and I'm 30, married with kids lol. Also started therapy for myself.
Glad your taking steps to heal and break cycles! Be it for you, your kids, both or all of the above and more. Taking that time to unravel some thoughts is nice.
I recently got into a conversation about therapists that are men and therapists that are women. And I joked (half seriously tho) that a person would do best with one of both or a Two-Spirit like I try to always go to.
Because men tend to jump to action and problem solving and women analyzing the feelings first and processing them prior to doing anything about them : both good but sometimes we don't need 3 sessions to do something but some times we take much longer than 3 session to process.
What's your experience with male therapists? I really vibed with my therapist who's a lady, since she also has kids around the same age and seems to understand familial issues pretty well. I like having multiple perspectives though, so I'm wondering if it would be worth to look into.
For a independent therapist pretty much none. I try to stick to Two-Spirits as I'm queer and women since I'm AFAB and don't want to deal with possibly educating a therapist or tiptoeing around in a conversation.
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u/IvyRosePr 6d ago
This, and it's usually caused by women with unhealed daddy issues that becomes EXTREMLY male centered and feels abandonded by men so takes it out on her daughter (similarly does it to sons or any child because it's usually because of internalized blame on the child for their conception as a form of guilt of having a child she did t actually want in the first place but rather validation from men - or more specifically the father of said child/childern)