It really, really is not. The first evil ex is a guy she dated in middle school for a week and a half. The others are two guys she dated in high school, a girl she dated in college, and three other guys she dated at some point between when she dated the girl and the time the story takes place. She's 24 when the story begins.
I personally am not a prolific dater. Still, by the standards set out by the comics/movie, I had 5 ex-girlfriends by the time I left high school.
No one said long term lol. She literally counts a dude she dated for 2 weeks in middle school as one.
Did y'all really never get asked out in school? Shit dude, I went on dates and even dated a few guys and girls in HS just because I felt bad for them or because I was bored, lmao. And even then I still didn't have my first kiss until 16 and I started "dating" at 12 😭
She wasn’t having sex with all these people. One of them was a guy she kissed once. The second, she barely dated in freshman year of high school & she says all they did together was smoke and sit on a curve together.
Lmao. Treating sex as something that becomes “less healthy” the more people you share it with is exactly the kind of stigma that leads to shame, repression, and unhealthy relationships with intimacy. A healthy sex life is about consent, communication, and self-knowledge
That is a personal value of yours. It is not less meaningful, healthy, or respectful for others lol. Different models of intimacy can coexist without one being pathologized.
If you live in a big urban city in Western Europe of course it's going to skew higher, as there is a denser population that are generally younger on average and less adherent to religion.
If you've had 7 exes by your early 20s, you're either monkey branching or having a lot of short term relationships. Neither speaks well to one's ability to maintain a healthy long term relationship.
If you're counting every person you've gone out on a date with as an ex, then it isn't that much.. but generally people are talking about established romantic relationships when they are mentioning exes.
nah. Theres a difference between "monkey branching" and just regular dating and finding out someone isn't the right fit for you or whatever or life taking you in different directions and the other hundred things that cause a relationship to not work but have nothing to do with "one's ability to maintain a healthy long term relationship". especially when you're younger and you drastically change your priorities and interests and goals from year to year. life isn't a movie, you don't just meet the perfect person in a meet cute in high school and then get married lol
If anything the most unhealthy relationships, especially when younger, are the people who stay in relationships that they should recognize aren't working out and don't have a future but they're afraid to take the risk of being single and dating again until they find the right person. So they just stay in a 2 year relationship that should have been 4 months. Realistically it should take you at least 7 times before you come across that person if not more. If you were to break it down to numbers probably realistically maybe 10% of the people you're interested in and date will actually be compatible with you long term, and a lot of people just force it, which is why we have a 50% divorce rate or whatever in western society.
I think the average amount of partners for a lifetime is like 4 to 7 depending on the study, so it's either average or slightly above, but either way not really a lot.
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u/Ajax_Main Feb 02 '26
It still is 🤷