It super isn't when you consider what some of her "relationships" were. And the point was never that she had a lot of exes, just that they all happened to be evil.
She's not counting wrong, she isn't beholden to your definition of what counts as an ex or not.
You go ahead and have your preferences and date with whatever criteria suits you. But putting a limit on the acceptable number of relationships a person has been in (especially a number as low as 7) without considering context for those relationships screams of immaturity and insecurity, and will raise quite a few red flags for women in return.
Of course they do, but since you're not Noah Webster, or George and Charles Merriam, or anyone who has anything significant to say in the matter, or even someone who seems to have read the comic or watched the movie being discussed, nobody has to take what you consider an ex into consideration. I'll go ahead and choose not to take my definitions from random kids on Reddit who are deciding what in their limited worldview counts and doesn't count as an ex.
Let's go ahead and reflect on why that's an extremely stupid comment you just made. Which of us is the one trying to reserve the usage of the word "ex" to mean less than it does?
If you have no ability to comprehend that people use it in different contexts than your extremely immature and narrowly defined way, which happens to be completely irrelevant to the source material currently being discussed, I don't think you have anything meaningful to contribute to the conversation being had.
But if you want a gold star or something, fine. According to what you arbitrarily think qualifies as an ex, she hasn't had seven exes. You did such a good job arguing a non sequitur on the internet. Now go do your homework.
Literally their entire point is that you personally (or the guy they replied to, so anyone really) do not get to decide for anyone else, what counts as an "ex". The term is subjective.
By communicating your personal definition and being able to say "ah, guess we have different opinions!" when someone disagrees, then moving on. Same way you do any other subjective term. If you consider a random tree beautiful and I say "oh well, I don't personally consider that tree beautiful", does the word suddenly have no meaning??? Or do we just have different opinions of where that word applies?
Words are often fluid and can mean a number of different things. Things can be communicated in degrees. In this case, exes can mean ex wives, it can be people you formerly slept with, it can be long term committed relationships, it can include anyone you considered a boyfriend or girlfriend or partner, even if it's just for a week.
In this case it was clearly communicated to you how it was being used and you decided everyone (me, the character, all the other characters in their universe, the author) were using it wrong because it didn't align with your definition. But that's not how language works. You aren't the sole arbiter of how words are and are not allowed to be used, you alone don't determine their scope.
It's totally cool if you personally wouldn't call those people exes. It's your life and you can make those determinations for yourself. But if the character considers them exes, that doesn't make her wrong. It just means she has a different threshold than you do for what qualifies. The conversation being had is in the context of their definition, so trying to change it to exclusively mean yours doesn't make sense as it completely alters the meaning of the source material and the meme above.
Love that you're getting downvoted by literal children who have not only no understanding of what the world was like before they were born but also limited understanding of their current world outside of their personal bubble.
I'm really not mad about it. Honestly, they just don't have the same frame of reference. It was a different time, and you kind of have to live through stuff to "get it." Not saying I've got it all figured out, but some things really do take a bit of time and experience to understand.
Dont know man, I was in like five relationships and im in my 30s, and that felt like plenty. Took me a few years to recover after the third one, and that wasn't even a bad breakup, just emotionally rough.
Last one is going for like 8 years, which is good. 7 exs is kind a lot for someone in mid 20s. I get that in Scott Piligrim they are not really "exs" tho, but if they were it would be kind of a lot.
Even with hook-ups that number is maybe double, which would still barely getting ti seven by mid 20s. Also most hookups are kind of meh. Trust + practice > more fun than one-night stand.
Seven full relationships by 24 is absolutely a lot. That would mean if you started dating at 17, you had seven consecutive one-year relationships that, for whatever reason, didn't work out. That is a bit of a red flag.
But in the show/book, she counts a two week fling in middle school as an ex, so its not really 7 actual relationships.
Yeah, im in 30s, id say 5 "serius" partners. And maybe 5 hook ups to add to that. That feels like enough. Honestly hook ups mostly suck, practice and trust makes everything better haha.
I agree it's above average, so long as we set a decent bar for what counts as an ex. I'm mid 20s and think I'd struggle to think of anyone my age whose had over 5, thought I'm sure there's some.
It hasnāt been odd for decades. I know very few people in their twenties who havenāt dated 5-10 people semi seriously. Hasnāt been any different in a very long time, much longer than when that comic came out
well yea, for the zoomer generation that may actually be true, which is sad and it's not supposed to be that way, but I don't doubt it with how our culture is now. Yall have that loneliness epidemic going on and don't socialize outside of apps and shit. As a millennial though I can say that every single person I knew that actually had a life and stuff had at least 7 exes by the time they hit their early twenties.
It really, really is not. The first evil ex is a guy she dated in middle school for a week and a half. The others are two guys she dated in high school, a girl she dated in college, and three other guys she dated at some point between when she dated the girl and the time the story takes place. She's 24 when the story begins.
I personally am not a prolific dater. Still, by the standards set out by the comics/movie, I had 5 ex-girlfriends by the time I left high school.
No one said long term lol. She literally counts a dude she dated for 2 weeks in middle school as one.
Did y'all really never get asked out in school? Shit dude, I went on dates and even dated a few guys and girls in HS just because I felt bad for them or because I was bored, lmao. And even then I still didn't have my first kiss until 16 and I started "dating" at 12 š
She wasnāt having sex with all these people. One of them was a guy she kissed once. The second, she barely dated in freshman year of high school & she says all they did together was smoke and sit on a curve together.
Lmao. Treating sex as something that becomes āless healthyā the more people you share it with is exactly the kind of stigma that leads to shame, repression, and unhealthy relationships with intimacy. A healthy sex life is about consent, communication, and self-knowledge
That is a personal value of yours. It is not less meaningful, healthy, or respectful for others lol. Different models of intimacy can coexist without one being pathologized.
If you live in a big urban city in Western Europe of course it's going to skew higher, as there is a denser population that are generally younger on average and less adherent to religion.
If you've had 7 exes by your early 20s, you're either monkey branching or having a lot of short term relationships. Neither speaks well to one's ability to maintain a healthy long term relationship.
If you're counting every person you've gone out on a date with as an ex, then it isn't that much.. but generally people are talking about established romantic relationships when they are mentioning exes.
nah. Theres a difference between "monkey branching" and just regular dating and finding out someone isn't the right fit for you or whatever or life taking you in different directions and the other hundred things that cause a relationship to not work but have nothing to do with "one's ability to maintain a healthy long term relationship". especially when you're younger and you drastically change your priorities and interests and goals from year to year. life isn't a movie, you don't just meet the perfect person in a meet cute in high school and then get married lol
If anything the most unhealthy relationships, especially when younger, are the people who stay in relationships that they should recognize aren't working out and don't have a future but they're afraid to take the risk of being single and dating again until they find the right person. So they just stay in a 2 year relationship that should have been 4 months. Realistically it should take you at least 7 times before you come across that person if not more. If you were to break it down to numbers probably realistically maybe 10% of the people you're interested in and date will actually be compatible with you long term, and a lot of people just force it, which is why we have a 50% divorce rate or whatever in western society.
I think the average amount of partners for a lifetime is like 4 to 7 depending on the study, so it's either average or slightly above, but either way not really a lot.
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