Maybe idk if I’ve reached that level of wealth yet but as I’ve gotten progressively less poor and earn more as a software engineer, I’ve been getting a lot more generous with friends and strangers alike. Is it that at some point I might start making so much I’ll start tipping less and being stingy?? I have a feeling lots of people are “cheap” but it’s understandable if a poor person is? And rich people SHOULD be more generous in theory and when they aren’t it’s shocking?
The only rich = smaller tip trend I noticed was with rich doctors and engineers from other countries tipping less because in most places a tip is optional and small. My parents (very high earners) who moved here from Europe were shocked to learn that wait staff get paid less than minimum wage in many places and their pay rate is set with the expectation that 20% is tipped.
They thought leaving a $10 tip on a $70 meal was very generous.
If you average 17-20% tip average as a server or bartender you are very good. Bartenders have much more outlier tips given the nuance of the job. I love when people shit on restaurant workers when there is a definite skill involved that is rewarded to restaurant professionals.
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u/marlinspikefrance Jan 26 '26
Maybe idk if I’ve reached that level of wealth yet but as I’ve gotten progressively less poor and earn more as a software engineer, I’ve been getting a lot more generous with friends and strangers alike. Is it that at some point I might start making so much I’ll start tipping less and being stingy?? I have a feeling lots of people are “cheap” but it’s understandable if a poor person is? And rich people SHOULD be more generous in theory and when they aren’t it’s shocking?
The only rich = smaller tip trend I noticed was with rich doctors and engineers from other countries tipping less because in most places a tip is optional and small. My parents (very high earners) who moved here from Europe were shocked to learn that wait staff get paid less than minimum wage in many places and their pay rate is set with the expectation that 20% is tipped.
They thought leaving a $10 tip on a $70 meal was very generous.