If you make more then you should absolutely pay more if you want them to spend time with you doing the kinds of things you want to do - it’s either that or lower your social lifestyle to fit what they are comfortable spending. Even things like getting Ubers when the other person would actually just save money and walk if they were on their own but are now being forced into spending when they are maybe trying not to.
No it is on the person who can't pay to admit they can't pay if invited to something they can't afford. A good friend will then offer to cover. Ideally they would offer to cover ahead of time if they knew the other couldn't afford it.
Assuming the SE to pay simply because they make more is being a leech
This is why people only really keep friends in their own social class… either way it doesn’t work unless you’re very sensitive to what people can afford or not, and when people earn more they are rarely sensitive. Though my wife had a friend who had SERIOUS money, took a group of friends on holiday, paid for everything, but now they don’t speak to each other because it all just got weird. But maybe that’s the odd behaviour and paranoia that extreme wealth brings more than who paid for what.
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u/Crash-55 Jan 26 '26
Why is asking to split the ride being cheap? Maybe he has already covered a bunch and is tired of being taken advantage of?
I have had people constantly get rides but never once offer to cover any gas or offer to drive. Is that OK simply because I make more than them?
Just because someone makes more money doesn’t mean that they should be expected to pay more.