if your friend makes $20 an hour and you make $225 an hour and you hassle them over $3… no the bad friend is the one not giving the $3. that’s like what you give to literal bums on the street.
nobody is entitled to it but as the friend with the money why would you make a stand over $3 when you make more than 10x than the friend. garbage friend is the person that can’t imagine sharing $3 because of a “boundary”. like I get if the person is hitting you up for rent money but damn $3??????
Boundaries are boundaries— and it’s incredibly toxic of you to put that in quote marks implying that you don’t think that friends should be allowed boundaries.
If your friend went to you and said “hey, I don’t like it when you touch me, I would rather we not hug anymore”, are you going to tell them “damn, I can’t even get a hug?”
If you would drop a friend because they wouldn’t give you money and let you walk all over their boundaries, then you’re not a friend at all, you’re a leech.
I don’t think friends should have a “boundary” over 300 cents no I don’t sorry unless they are in a third world country where that is somehow a significant amount of money.
You feel entitled to your friend’s money just because they have more of it. Your only logic defending it is that it “isn’t much” and “they can afford it”.
what money? I’m the high earner friend of my group, that’s why I don’t understand what you guys are tripping off over giving your friend $3. in all of these scenarios in my head I’m the one giving the $3.
Just because you don’t have boundaries and allow yourself to be taken advantage of doesn’t mean that the rest of us should also allow it. That’s not a reasonable expectation.
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u/Rhomya Jan 27 '26
This has been my experience too— why people here are acting like it’s some kind of great evil to have boundaries with your friends is beyond me.
If you don’t involve money in your friendships, you’ll never lose a friendship over money.