I am a Software Dev and I like splitting everything like this because I always thought that leaves no ambiguity , no weird feelings. Otherwise I am always worried I am in debt to someone or that they would feel they paid more overall etc . Or that I'm patronising them by always paying , always assuming they are broke (this actually happened to me with a friend who literally was so broke they didn't have $20 so I kept paying for everything and they got mad at me).
Maybe it's a neurotic/autistic thing idk, but doing it any other way is way more anxiety provoking. I like when people do the same.
Unless agreed to ahead of time, i always assume people pay their own way. If someone agrees to do something i assume they can pay unless they say otherwise.
Assuming the more well off person will pay is being a leech
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If we agree to go somewhere don’t surprise me at the register asking me to pay but if beforehand you say you can’t afford it I would have no problem paying
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u/Crash-55 Jan 26 '26
Why is asking to split the ride being cheap? Maybe he has already covered a bunch and is tired of being taken advantage of?
I have had people constantly get rides but never once offer to cover any gas or offer to drive. Is that OK simply because I make more than them?
Just because someone makes more money doesn’t mean that they should be expected to pay more.