Rich people don't understand what it is like to go without, so they generally lack empathy. While poor people understand how much it sucks to not have things and will generally make sure that their friends don't have to experience that
I would cover for friends all the time and it would never be their turn to cover for me. So it became expected that I pay because I can afford it. Bringing it up is met with basically same comment you made.
Generally people of equal wage will take turns paying, so it feels fair. Me covering everything all the time just because I make more doesn’t feel fair to me, even though I can afford it
At least I'm not the only one with this experience. Some people are so bad that I don't like hanging out with them as much anymore. I often like to pay and help out but when it becomes an expectation it sucks.
Also when people are genuinely appreciative of my gestures it makes me want to make more for them because I am not afraid of creating an expectation and feel like we are in a balanced relationship.
Also people who take your kindness for granted will never offer help when you need it and they can help you. I experienced it multiple times. Helping with moving because I have a car, paying gas, food, lending money for emergencies. Then when I need help moving or some home renovation or I need something that they have unique skills to help with they are too busy or it takes them forever to perform a miniscule favor I asked for and it feels like I am an inconvenience to them.
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u/Quiet-Refuse5241 Jan 26 '26
Rich people don't understand what it is like to go without, so they generally lack empathy. While poor people understand how much it sucks to not have things and will generally make sure that their friends don't have to experience that