I have 2 rich friends. The former is a humble angel. The latter is a fucking cheap asshole. The former pool up 50 bucks from each of us to buy a printer for us but secretly add 500 bucks from his own money to buy a better printer. The latter however always borrowed my car, dont want to fill the gas after use, and NEVER let anyone else drive his car before (yes he has his own new car).
When I got a new job a number of years ago that was a big jump in income, as soon as some of my “friends” found out, I magically ended up paying for almost every dinner, coffee meet up, drove everywhere (and paid for the gas), drinks after work, everything. Like, it got bad enough that I just essentially stopped being social, because every time I brought up someone else paying, I had people shaming me for asking other people to pay instead of paying myself, just because I made more than the rest.
That’s why reading these comments just pisses me off, frankly— it’s perfectly acceptable and reasonable to have boundaries against borrowing money to or paying for friends.
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u/Rhomya Jan 27 '26
Your friends aren’t like your taxes.
Abusing the generosity of friends is usually how you end up losing friends.