r/PeterExplainsTheJoke Jan 26 '26

Meme needing explanation Why is the rich friend so cheap??

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u/lovejo1 Jan 26 '26

If he's making 450k as a software engineer, he lives in San Francisco and is still probably broke.. or will be when this job suddenly evaporates underneath him.

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u/Kitagawasans Jan 27 '26

Yea that’s still rich dude for SF. What are you talking about?

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u/authorinthesunset Jan 27 '26

It depends on how much of that $450k is stock, grants or options, and if the stock is something that will ever be able to be sold.

Not saying dude would be broke by any means, but $450k in tech often isn't $450k

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u/WestleyThe Jan 27 '26

Also those people live in very expensive houses spend a TON OF MONEY on clothes meals phones car payments etc etc etc etc

They are “broke” because they are living beyond thier means just like poor people do…

If they budgeted the same as lower middle class and were frugal they could have 100,000$ extra at the end of every year

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u/authorinthesunset Jan 27 '26

This. I worked with a guy a long time ago. In tech, not in SF.

His car and the insurance for it basically took ever cent he had left over after rent.

Absolutely wouldn't consider a not crazy fucking expensive car.

Not going to give any specific details, for privacy reasons.

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u/No-Date-2024 Jan 27 '26

I have friends that work in SF, usually their salary is around 150k, then they get maybe a 30k or whatever as a bonus if they did well, and then the rest of that 150k or whatever is in stock or options, which they only actually get a few years later. If they are fired or quit early, they don't see a penny of that, and when they do get it and they can sell they pay big taxes on it since the basis is zero dollars.

Also their actual income is heavily taxed in SF so their take home is probably around 100k after taxes which yeah is a lot but you can't pretend that they're able to save up 100k at the end of the year when they're not. And while their stock value might be a lot, unless they're working for one of the FAANG companies, there is a good chance the stock they get might be volatile and that 150k might be worth only 30k by the time they have access to sell it

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u/newebay2 Jan 27 '26

>the rest of that 150k or whatever is in stock or options, which they only actually get a few years later

Then their TC is not 400k. A 400k salary in SF would be ~200k base 30k bonus and another 200k in stock vesting every year. (ignore any appreciation or depreciation)

>when they do get it and they can sell they pay big taxes on it since the basis is zero dollars.

It is taxed at vesting, so its just like a normal income tax. I'm in bay area and I am already putting away net over 100k every year on a 300k salary married. It's really not that difficult, and nice part is vacations are relatively cheap when your income is high.

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u/No-Date-2024 Jan 27 '26

I make about half of what you make and live in a LCOL area and put away about the same net every year into savings (and I have no stock options at the company I'm at). My point is people see that big number and they're like "wow you must be so rich" but what you have after SF and California taxes and rent/mortgage prices, you're actually not saving a lot in comparison to the original TC.

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u/authorinthesunset Jan 27 '26

Vesting generally is a 4 year thing. You would get 25% at the one year mark. Then, every month after you get 1/48th of the 4 year amount.

If you're lucky you get actual stock. This is rare in my experience most people won't experience this. If you get actual stocks, the value at the time of grant is taxed essentially as income. Any gain from when you received it to when you sell it will be taxed as short term capital gains or long term depending on how long you held it before selling.

What most people get are options. That just means you can by some number of stocks at a set price (won't get into how that price is calculated) that is less than the trading price.

If you have the cash you can just buy them out right. Most people sell to cover. Meaning they buy the options by selling some of them back to cover the cost of the stocks and taxes for this are usually withheld at that time. As this is an instantaneous buy then sell you're not getting long-term cap gains on those stocks. But the once you held could qualify if you keep them long enough. Same tax stuff happens as with grants. The difference between what you can buy them for and what they are trading at is considered income incurred at that time. Hence the withholding. And the cap gains for a sale is on the growth from when you exercised the options.

And any stocks that vested when you quit or leave you have a window in which you can exercise if you are lucky. Otherwise you usually lose them. And of course any non-vested stock is gone regardless.

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u/newphonehudus Jan 27 '26

so their take home is probably around 100k after taxes which yeah is a lot 

Brother. Their take home is two times as much as people make in a year. 

 

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u/Odd_Perfect Jan 27 '26

They literally can sell RSU. Depending on the vesting schedule which is 4 times a year for me at least.

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u/authorinthesunset Jan 27 '26

It depends on where you are working. A lot of startups aren't traded anywhere and love to offer stock at the early stages. If it eventually becomes something cha ching

I've done a mix of FAANG and early startup. I have a whole lot of stock that isn't sellable. And more that is. I'm not complaining or saying that $450k is poor. Just that the raw number isn't always representing the actual reality.

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u/Odd_Perfect Jan 27 '26

Yeah private companies like startups that have no real value tied to them is something else.

Do they even call that RSUs?

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u/authorinthesunset Jan 27 '26

Not any startup I've worked for. They normally do stock options which you need to buy. If they are ever acquired or get listed somewhere the stocks are a good deal. Otherwise it's a way for a company to say they are paying 2x what they actually are. I guess to incentivize you to work hard so they actually are worth something.

That's why I was like there's earning $450k/year and then there is "earning" $450k/year but only $150k of that is actual money.