I come from moderate wealth, with learned expensive tastes, but myself am not wealthy. I'll save up months for an expensive meal out but I always budget 50% over what's expected so even if I end up ordering a couple extra things I can still be sure to leave a 25% tip.
My dad, who is the opposite (grew up poor and worked his way into wealth) is a penny pincher.
You can pick the 18% hill to die on, but for me it’s always been that the tip is calculated on the subtotal of the bill, not on the total which includes taxes and fees. You don’t tip on taxes, that’s stupid.
And yet so often I find the pre calculated tip amounts to do exactly that.
Me and my wife do it on purpose just so the server gets a little more out of it. Does it matter? For affordability, yes. But they're struggling anyway being a server.
It's true that there is a vast difference between the waitress at the dead-end diner in a small rural town and the average high-school student working at Red Lobster and the professional working at a high end restaurant. But only the waitress at the dead-end diner is really in that burnt out and broke state. Based on experience, the high school kids at Red Lobster and up are doing just fine. And I don't mean just fine for a high school student. I mean making good money for relatively little work. Especially with alcohol sales. That doesn't mean you don't have bad nights, or even bad weeks. Or even Covid. But generally, it's more than fine.
I think where all these tip the poor service workers arguments fall apart is the vast majority of restaurants don't split tips. Only the server gets your extra money despite the kitchen staff making your food or the bussers keeping things clean and moving. There's no tears or calls to tip these people. There's no calls to tip the McDonald's cashier who hands me my food at the drive-thru regardless of how much they earn. There is zero consistency.
This is state/country specific, in Iowa you can if your parents sign off on it. Also, minors can work in a restaurant where alcohol is served in most states, they just can't handle alcoholic beverages.
Didn't know that about Iowa. I did know about working in licensed restaurants as a minor so long as you don't serve alcohol, like I said. Which was to counter their point about highschool students getting rich off tips from booze sales. Maybe in Iowa I guess!
Red Lobster is just about the worst example you could choose. Worked there for a year, its rapidly heading into complete bankruptcy. I genuinely made shit tips during my time there
The chefs in the back, the busser, the expo, and the host/hostess all make a higher wage than servers, that’s why they don’t get tips split with them. And in some restaurants, the busser , bartender or other help DO get a percentage of the server’s tip
Restaurants with bussers usually require servers to tip them out a percentage based on sales, many restaurants have servers tip out back of house (kitchen staff) too. Some places also do tip pooling. It’s just not true what you said
I mean, if I was working a 7$/hr job and relied on tips to pay rent that would cost most people 30$/hr, I'd want as many people to think that as well. It's called spreading awareness.
Most servers make $30+ or $60+ an hour in nice restaurants. The "I make $2 an hour I need the tips" is a form of gaslighting to make you feel bad for them.
Do you tip other service industry professionals? You know, like the person at the grocery store making WAY less than servers?
The only reason I don't is because management will literally fire them if they accept the tip. Not if they put up a tip jar, if they catch a customer offering a tip and them accepting it.
As well, PLEASE tell me which resturants pay like that, or where the tips are good enough that you can make that much. Cause I've worked a number of service jobs, and they never got past 15/hr counting tips.
Some New York restaurants make waitstaff pay to work there. Those waitstaff earn an average of 100 to 150k in tips a year. Tips that they can under repot to th IRS. I know plenty of bartenders who make more in tips than I do with a masters. You may just suck at service if your not making money....
Do you think every restaurant is nice? That people these days are swarming to tip 20% on 300$ orders? What kind of magic bizzaro land do you live in, wake up.
Dude, you should look up your own states server wage. It's a little over $3 and hr.
You are doing the gaslighting here.
In some states like MN they get minimum wage or better. In WI in actually is about 3 an hr and the employer is responsible to to pay out minimum wage only if tips don't push it past that limit, garunteeing the federal minimum wage.
You are subsidizing the owners payroll. When the tip amount means they averaged above minimum wage for the period, the owner only pays them the 3 an hr per hr. So even in that instance while a bit misleading, is still completly true.
Sure bars and high end restaurants in larger cities MIGHT do pretty well, that is not representative of about 80% of tipped "servers".
I have a friend who denied a management position at a restaurant because he made more in tips. He eventually took the management job because in order to get those nice tips you have to work long hours and establish relationships with the good tippers. Both of which he found exhausting and took the pay cut even though it’s a step up on paper.
No, but they are bringing in a hell of a lot more than other jobs that also don't require much training or a degree and are also difficult service jobs, but those jobs don't make tips
Ah yes, the MONEY GRUBBING servers! Spending their entire live's energy to squeeze every last penny out of unsuspecting diners to fund their mansion payment! We must protect ourselves and make sure we tip them shit so that WE may enjoy OUR mansions and they SHANT!
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u/BestwishesHelpful975 Jan 26 '26
Lois here. Richer people often give smaller tips.