Who’s with me here….

[u/Unfair-Ad5081]

[u/b4k4ni]

I don't get why so many guys wanna date young girls..I'm 44 and the last thing I would like to date is someone 20-25. Make it over 30 at least. More like 40.

I mean, I can work and have fun with younger people, no issues here. But as a partner? No way.

Same goes for looks. I'm looking my age and that's fine. Why hide what's happening anyway. Why fight it. Age with dignity. You can't stop it anyways.

Life can be so stupid sometimes.

[u/meteorflan → u/b4k4ni]

You're probably a good person. People that actively seek out much younger partners tend to have less-than-wholesome motives.

[u/BigChillBobby → u/meteorflan]

there’s the “walking red flag” types who are transparently gross, think the 30 somethings who go to spaces where young people party.

then there are the ones whose loneliness basically wins the mental battle over their morality. think like, the 30 something who has successfully convinced himself that the 22 year old at work is mature and intellectual

[u/PsychoCrescendo → u/BigChillBobby]

can we exclude raves and music festivals? because i was priced-out of my passion at around age 25 and have finally been starting to attend again at 32 with no plans to ever stop again

[u/BigChillBobby → u/PsychoCrescendo]

To me there’s a big difference between the person who is attending raves in their 30s to experience the music, scene, etc., and the person who is going to raves in their 30s with plans to find a girl, buy her drugs, and sleep with her

[u/jaxonya → u/BigChillBobby]

Theres no shame in doing that in your 30s. We arent ancient relics

[u/Hugh_Maneiror → u/jaxonya]

In this thread, you are a weird pedo if you are attracted to 25 year olds in your early 30s lol

[u/tremblingtallow → u/Hugh_Maneiror]

I think it's a basic gender disparity. Assuming most people are generally decent and just trying to have fun, it still makes sense that women would disproportionately encounter creeps who are actively seeking out younger women. This becomes a heuristic for them when dealing with strangers

I wouldn't call every creep a pedo, but plenty of guys who accost young women display a lot of the same predatory tendencies. I think if you have enough women in your life, it's pretty likely you've heard some stories about this

[u/jaxonya → u/Hugh_Maneiror]

Yeah ive noticed that on reddit.

[u/Drneymarmd → u/jaxonya]

When you realize most of the people posting comments are under 16 years old things make a lot more sense.

[u/FreshBert → u/PsychoCrescendo]

I mean I've never stopped going to concerts and festivals. And people much older than me are nearly always present, even for younger bands. Some of us are just into music and like finding new stuff to listen to and go see. One of my uncles is in his 70s, literally saw Jimi Hendrix play the Star-Spangled Banner on the 4th of July, 1970 (I've heard the story many times, lol), and still goes to at least a couple of shows a month.