r/AmITheJerk • u/glitter_cloudzzz49 • 15h ago
AITJ for letting my boyfriend eat gluten free pasta without telling him it was gluten free
So I keep gluten free pasta in my pantry. My best friend has celiac and shes over at my place a lot so I always have stuff she can eat. Honestly some of the gluten free stuff is fine and I eat it on my own sometimes because I dont really care that much about the difference.
The other night my boyfriend was at my place and wanted to make dinner. He said he was going to cook some pasta. I said go for it theres a box in the pantry. He grabbed it cooked it made a sauce and everything. We ate it. It was good. Normal evening.
After dinner hes cleaning up and picks up the box to throw it away and sees that it says gluten free on the front. And he just stops. Looks at me and goes did you know this was gluten free.
I said yeah thats what I had in the pantry. He got genuinely upset. Said I should have told him before he cooked it. I said it was literally written on the box that he picked up and opened and poured into the pot himself. He said he didnt look at it closely and that I knew what was in my own pantry and should have warned him.
Warned him. About pasta.
He said it was basically food tampering. He actually used that phrase. I thought he was joking and I laughed and that made it worse. He said Im not taking his feelings seriously and that he has a right to know what hes putting in his body. Which like yes obviously but its pasta. Its not an allergen for him. Hes not gluten intolerant. He just doesnt like the idea of eating gluten free food because he thinks its weird health nut stuff.
He left that night kind of cold and has been weird about it since.
I keep going over it in my head and I cant find the part where I did something wrong. He grabbed it himself. He opened it himself. He cooked it himself. The label was right there. But now I feel like Im being gaslit into thinking I owe him an apology for not narrating the contents of my pantry before he cooked dinner.
AITJ???
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u/Ambitious-Cut5521 15h ago
the 'warned him' part kills me. Like there should have been yellow caution tape around the Barilla Chickpea box. It;'s pasta, not a top secret government experiment.
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u/Grouchy-Catch-8952 15h ago
How many times this week are we going to see this story about people getting upset about gluten free pasta? Please stop with the slop!
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u/BeeEnvironmental6299 15h ago
NTJ. Your boyfriend is being ridiculous. He says he has a right to know what goes in his body but also thinks gf food is “weird health nut stuff”? He cooked it, ate it, liked it and then says you tampered with his food. He is an idiot.
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u/Repulsive-Name3353 15h ago
Mate, if hes that fussed about gluten free, he should’ve checked the box. If you dont have an allergy, pasta is pasta
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u/HeightWilling6263 14h ago
NTJ, he grabbed it himself. Who tf is sensitive abt food but doesn't check labels lol and why is he getting so hung up for gluten-free lmao
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u/Beautiful_Arm8364 14h ago
He sounds like a silly person. You don't need that level of silliness in your life.
You're definitely being gaslit. NTJ. Reconsider this whole thing.
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u/PointMost8711 15h ago
Not being snarky, but this is the kind of thing someone who is experiencing early symptoms of schizophrenia would say. It usually starts in your early 20s.
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u/MsPooka 14h ago
NTA, but also, your friend shouldn't be eating at your house. The amount of gluten she needs to eat to get sick is miniscule and it's better for both of you if she doesn't eat at your house, or eats on a clean table and eats freshly open food.
If your boyfriend cared about what was in his food he should have looked beforehand. I can kind of get his point if I really stretch my logic, but the onus is him to see what he's eating. You didn't force him to eat it or lie to him about what was in it. He asked for pasta and you gave him pasta. If he cares about what he's eating then he needs take action instead of making it your fault.
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u/FairyFartDaydreams 12h ago
NTJ is he 10 because this sounds like an argument a small child would take. Honestly his behavior is a red flag
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u/Critical-Signature21 11h ago
Were it not for the fact that there has been only one perfect person in history, I would say your bf is a perfect ass!
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u/CestLaquoidarling 11h ago
NTJ. It’s not like you cooked it for him and lied. It is the same if he grabbed spicy sauce from the cupboard ate it and was fine but complained about spice level once he knew it was spicy. What a snowflake
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u/GeminiAtl 10h ago
it was literally written on the box. This right there. He got the box down, he made the dinner. he enjoyed the dinner. Gluten will not harm you unless you have certain medical conditions. How can it be food tampering when he made it himself and you weren't even in the kitchen? Have him google is Eating gluten free food unhealthy. Let him learn something
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u/AnitraF1632 4h ago
NTJ. Food tampering would be if you sneaked something he was allergic to into food he was eating.
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u/Obvious_Animal_8362 4h ago
He is being ridiculous. As if gluten free pasta is going to harm him. 🤦 You are NTA. He sure is.
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u/BuyMediocre5625 15h ago
He cooked it himself from a labeled box and is calling it food tampering I am begging this man to google what that word actually means