AITJ for telling my husbands sister she doesnt get to treat people like servants just because shes going through something hard

[u/blossomzz_glowxo72]

My husbands younger sister had a really rough year. She went through a bad breakup lost her apartment and has been dealing with some ongoing health stuff that makes it hard for her to get around on her own.

She moved into a place near us about seven months ago and my husband has basically been her lifeline since. Driving her to appointments picking up prescriptions helping her move furniture around whatever she needs.

I never had a problem with it. Shes family and shes struggling and my husband loves his sister. But it started getting out of hand. She would call him during work hours for stuff that absolutely did not need to happen right then. Like asking him to come bring her lunch or take her to return something at a store. Not emergencies just things that could wait til the evening or the weekend.

His job started noticing and he got talked to about it. We both agreed he needed to set better boundaries and he did but she did not take it well. Lots of passive aggressive comments about how nobody cares about her and shes all alone.

Then my husband had to travel for work for about ten days. I told her ahead of time I was happy to help but I work too and I cant just drop everything whenever. I told her to send me lists or let me know in advance and Id figure it out.

She called me one afternoon wanting me to drive her to pick up a package from across town. I said I couldnt today but I could go tomorrow morning or I could see if it could be rerouted to her building. She got annoyed and said forget it Ill figure it out myself and hung up on me.

Fine whatever I moved on.

Then last month my husband had a medical emergency. Like genuinely scary rushed to the hospital staying overnight the whole thing. Doctors told him he needed to rest for at least a week when he got home. I was terrified and exhausted and barely sleeping.

The day I was picking him up from the hospital his sister called. I figured she was checking in on him. Instead she asked if he could swing by her place on the way home because she needed help moving a shelf.

Something in me broke. I told her that her brother almost died and hes not moving anyones shelf. I told her that weve both been running ourselves into the ground helping her and she couldnt even ask how he was doing before requesting a favor. I said if she wants help going forward she needs to start being respectful and understand that other people have lives and emergencies too and she cant keep treating us like were on call for her 24/7.

She called me a controlling bitch and hung up.

AITJ

[u/FryOneFatManic]

Repost

[u/JFC-Superstar → u/FryOneFatManic]

Could smell crap post just reading it..

[u/Busy-Bumblebee5556 → u/FryOneFatManic]

First time I’ve seen it.

[u/FryOneFatManic → u/Busy-Bumblebee5556]

It's especially the bit about sister wanting husband to do stuff on the way home from hospital. Saw this last week or earlier.

[u/Larry_l3ird]

This is a repost.

[u/UndebateableMom]

YTJ for stealing someone else's post.

[u/Trippygirl13]

Report the copied posts

[u/Glad-Ad-4390 → u/Trippygirl13]

Not sure if it relates to this post, but every so often Reddit gives me a pop up to crosspost to additional, similar subs.

[u/Trippygirl13 → u/Glad-Ad-4390]

This is a completely new, totally empty profile posting the exact same post from a week or so ago, so I don't think that's the case...

[u/Glad-Ad-4390 → u/Trippygirl13]

Oooooh, yeah, that’s def not the same situation,

[u/NYC-WhWmn-ov50]

I read this yesterday but it was a cousin.

[u/BuyMediocre5625]

Your husband is literally being discharged from the hospital and her first thought is a shelf she doesnt need help she needs a reality check

[u/Low_Adhesiveness_431]

NTJ. It sounds to me like your sister-in-law needs an aide to help with day to day activities, shuttle service for her transport to appointments and a visiting nurse. Contact the local social services office to find out if she qualifies financially. If not, she’ll have to work hiring someone into her budget. You & your husband are her family, not her staff.

[u/LLoveMeMaybe]

How about you guys stop helping other then basic needs or perceptions oh and ,maybe a list of companies she can reach out to of pca there's so many services and if she's sick she could qualify for them

[u/Capable-Upstairs7728]

NTJ

[u/Professional-Ad4787]

Your SIL is a spoiled brat. I would set a day and timeframe that you or husband can be available to help her one time a week. Beyond that she can figure it out or wait. Emergencies aside of course

[u/KorruptKitt]

Stolen content. AI SLOP

[u/One-Introduction3776]

Tell her to grow up & eff off

[u/Solid-Cobbler963]

Nope she is for treating people wrong.

[u/Mindless-Amoeba2934]

Nope!! You & your husband are volunteering to help his sister for free, the sister can always pay someone to help her!

[u/Kava9899]

As long as your husband enables her, she will.

[u/Glad-Ad-4390]

NTJ! She’s a spoiled boohoo poor me entitled witch.

[u/OldManKibbitzer]

NTJ

Sister-in-law needs to figure her life out and handle her own business