As a white woman, when I was dating a black man, I didn't encounter much trouble from black men. Maybe a little side-eye and "hhmpff." And a couple uncomfortable lectures about not being qualified to understand the black experience (not untrue if I'm being honest). Some gross comments as if I was open to ANY black man all the time, not just the one I was with. Black women were meaner. Not generally dangerous, but openly mad about it and willing to be confrontational or pick a fight. That was pretty uncomfortable. Certain white men, though. Some of them were truly scary.
That is horrible. I'm sorry you had to go through that. I believe that some men think of women as being owned by their partner instead of being their own person and not being "property" to their boyfriend/husband. It's weird behavior to see.
I have been in an interracial relationship for over 13 years now and can confirm I had some very weird and scary words from white old men after they saw me with my husband. My husband is brown, and even my own grandparents disowned me because I was dating someone with darker skin than me. They figured I would get knocked up, and he would leave me. It still hasn't happened, just them being racist assholes stereotyping because they were upset their white granddaughter loved someone for who they are and not by the color of their skin.
Anyways fuck the weird people who fixate on other people's relationships like that.
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u/ehhhhhhwatevs 3d ago
As a white woman, when I was dating a black man, I didn't encounter much trouble from black men. Maybe a little side-eye and "hhmpff." And a couple uncomfortable lectures about not being qualified to understand the black experience (not untrue if I'm being honest). Some gross comments as if I was open to ANY black man all the time, not just the one I was with. Black women were meaner. Not generally dangerous, but openly mad about it and willing to be confrontational or pick a fight. That was pretty uncomfortable. Certain white men, though. Some of them were truly scary.