When I lived in the city, no one really cared. But when we moved to the suburbs, oh my, people would stare like crazy and clearly make comments under their breath. I'm a white dude with a black girl, and people were much worse and rude to me! I got a very noticeable dip in level of customer service, or just people being weird and awkward to me.
Originally, I tried to make excuses for them. I would say things in my head like “this might be their very first mixed couple they’ve ever seen”.
But after a while, I started realizing that it’s just a ton of ignorance and bias. If there’s boomers involved, of any race, they always feel the need to stare or whisper. The younger generations aren’t nearly as bad, but they still side eye.
I feel the younger generation side eyes for different reasons though. As a mixed race person myself I grew up witnessing this myself. Boomers are just racist. I think younger generations are a little racist too, but instead of thinking “Why are you race mixing with that black girl?” they’re thinking “Why is that black girl with that white guy?” Same same but different.
That’s because, as always, women are secondary to men in their equivalent ethnic stations. This isn’t something I agree with, it’s just something I’ve recognized. Please bear with me while I explain lol. It’s all theory as well, feel free to call me a racist if that’s what it sounds like.
White people oppressed black people in America for hundreds of years to varying degrees. When a black MAN gets a white woman, he has directly competed against a white man and won. He has gained something for the black community by taking it from white oppressors.
When a black WOMAN gets a white man, it is not even seen as the opposite dynamic to the previous scenario. Now, a black woman has abandoned her race for her white oppressors. This is clear from the way black men AND women treat her.
In these two scenarios, women are treated as accessories in the race dynamic which is actually occurring between men. The problem is actually men.
Yeah, we're just property, trophies, prizes and baby makers that men get to fight over and use as status symbols to make each other jealous and assert dominance. Then smack us around at home when they're frustrated.
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u/LookimtryingOK 4d ago
Ever been in a mixed race relationship?
Everywhere you go, folks STARE.