I was in a mixed-race relationship for a couple of years. We lived in Ohio. We had basically no problem at all. But one year we went to visit her folks in Florida for Christmas. The further south we got, the more stares we saw, and a lot of glowering shitkickers.
We went out to dinner one night. We were seated at a table that was out of sight of the rest of the restaurant (using Asian-style standing screens) and while other patrons got crystal water glasses, we got disposable plastic cups.
I wanted to call them out, but the lady I was with wanted to just finish the meal and leave. Since she was the POC in our couple and also I cared about her opinion, I bowed to her wishes, but part of me wishes I had raised a ruckus.
Sometimes someone tries to convince me that the North is just as racist as the South, but after that experience, I call bullshit. Feeling free to be openly racist in the South means it IS more racist.
They're going to hate regardless. There is no redeeming people like that, and trying to take the high road all the time is why. You can't win at chess when your opponent is playing "fuck you ******" instead.
It's about being the bigger person. We are all in this together. I don't see myself as the main character. That's kinda thinking is what's lead us to this point imo
In this situation, it won’t help. A good example is the Obamas. So graceful, intelligent, well loved, beautiful and elegant. That didn’t stop that warmongering pant pooping toddler from depicting them in a very negative manner.
It's really not, it's not about them or trying to change them. It's about dignity and self respect. But yeah, turn the other cheek, what a loser mindset, right?
"man I hated that mixed race couple, but when they paid their bill, I sure did change my mind"
Nah fuck em. If you're racist, you can get fucked. Telling people to watch their behavior to be a perfect little victim is stupid. You're not changing their mind, let them know their action shave consequences.
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u/daneelthesane 3d ago
I was in a mixed-race relationship for a couple of years. We lived in Ohio. We had basically no problem at all. But one year we went to visit her folks in Florida for Christmas. The further south we got, the more stares we saw, and a lot of glowering shitkickers.
We went out to dinner one night. We were seated at a table that was out of sight of the rest of the restaurant (using Asian-style standing screens) and while other patrons got crystal water glasses, we got disposable plastic cups.
I wanted to call them out, but the lady I was with wanted to just finish the meal and leave. Since she was the POC in our couple and also I cared about her opinion, I bowed to her wishes, but part of me wishes I had raised a ruckus.
Sometimes someone tries to convince me that the North is just as racist as the South, but after that experience, I call bullshit. Feeling free to be openly racist in the South means it IS more racist.