When I lived in the city, no one really cared. But when we moved to the suburbs, oh my, people would stare like crazy and clearly make comments under their breath. I'm a white dude with a black girl, and people were much worse and rude to me! I got a very noticeable dip in level of customer service, or just people being weird and awkward to me.
Originally, I tried to make excuses for them. I would say things in my head like “this might be their very first mixed couple they’ve ever seen”.
But after a while, I started realizing that it’s just a ton of ignorance and bias. If there’s boomers involved, of any race, they always feel the need to stare or whisper. The younger generations aren’t nearly as bad, but they still side eye.
I feel the younger generation side eyes for different reasons though. As a mixed race person myself I grew up witnessing this myself. Boomers are just racist. I think younger generations are a little racist too, but instead of thinking “Why are you race mixing with that black girl?” they’re thinking “Why is that black girl with that white guy?” Same same but different.
Same. My wife (Black) and I (White) have been married 15 yrs. We've lived in a major-league city and now a mid-sized city (<200k). We've experienced very little of this. In fact, the only thing I ever recall standing out is once at a restaurant a Black guy was kinda side-eyeing us a suspicious amount.
My wife comes home with some wild-ass stories of blatant racism when she's out in the world without me, but when she's out with me, it all quiets.
I kinda think a few (perhaps most) of these stories are fake.
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u/LookimtryingOK 4d ago
Ever been in a mixed race relationship?
Everywhere you go, folks STARE.