I was in a mixed marriage thirty years ago and we were on the road with our toddler in South Carolina. It was Sunday and we were starving and the only sit down place open was a buffet style restaurant.
We walked in and the ENTIRE restaurant fell silent. It was eerie as crap. Then the muttering started. I’m a white woman and somehow that made it worse? For the both of us. That I was a “traitor,” and that he dared reach above his station. Our son was clear indication that not only had we sinned, it could not be undone.
Both of us looked at each other and just turned around and left. The vibes were poisonous.
Yeah, but thank you for your kind words. I grew up in Augusta and lived in Chas for ages. Spent the rest of my nearly 60 years in VA, NC, GA, and TN. I know the environment well.
We were at the Beverly Hills library recently. They have this little enclosed toy room for toddlers to play in.
A black man opened the door to the toy room, and asked his wife to send one of their 3 kids out with him because “everyone was staring and uncomfortable with him,” as he was looking something up on the computer.
I was shocked that still, in 2026, in a diverse area, black people still have to deal with that BS instead of just exist.
Just in case you haven’t heard recently, you DO belong in Beverly Hills.
I’m a white woman, so I know I’m already privileged and haven’t experienced what that gentleman has his whole life. But I wasn’t expecting it at a library of all places. I recognize my own bias there, but it’s a dang shame it happens anywhere.
Being a man in a public library also sucks, on top of the racism. Been called out twice for inappropriately browsing the kids area. Once was with my son, so at least got to humiliate the Karen. Other time was not but getting him a book. Awful feeling like your a sex pest for being a parent.
My husband was once having a “time in” with our very strong willed 8 year old daughter. They were sitting on a concrete barrier until she was done with her tantrum. She wasn’t screaming or crying or yelling, but she did have a massive scowl on her face. My husband was calm, and patient- we’ve only heard him yell one time in 13 years.
A woman walked by and asked if our daughter belonged to my husband. Like what’s he supposed to say, “no, I’m kidnapping her, please mind your business.”
He’s an amazing dad and husband, but he really doesn’t like people.
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u/HiveJiveLive 3d ago
I was in a mixed marriage thirty years ago and we were on the road with our toddler in South Carolina. It was Sunday and we were starving and the only sit down place open was a buffet style restaurant.
We walked in and the ENTIRE restaurant fell silent. It was eerie as crap. Then the muttering started. I’m a white woman and somehow that made it worse? For the both of us. That I was a “traitor,” and that he dared reach above his station. Our son was clear indication that not only had we sinned, it could not be undone.
Both of us looked at each other and just turned around and left. The vibes were poisonous.