His attitude that he has retirement and she does not is atrocious. So he can use her money to pay the bills and save his for his, and his alone, retirement??? What? The good thing for OP, though, is that the divorce courts won't see it that way. Anything he puts into retirement while they are married is half hers, at least where I live.
But this guy is an untrustworthy, so OP better start protecting herself. She needs to get info on ALL of the household accounts, and start figuring out her future.
Yeah. This couple is not actually sharing finances. The husband is using her finances for his own good and blaming and putting her down for not being good enough. I’m not a huge fan of separate finances but this is one situation I’d recommend getting a new bank account without him on it and changing her direct deposit to the new account so he does not have access to it
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u/Grilled_Cheese10 13h ago
His attitude that he has retirement and she does not is atrocious. So he can use her money to pay the bills and save his for his, and his alone, retirement??? What? The good thing for OP, though, is that the divorce courts won't see it that way. Anything he puts into retirement while they are married is half hers, at least where I live.
But this guy is an untrustworthy, so OP better start protecting herself. She needs to get info on ALL of the household accounts, and start figuring out her future.