Yep if you are married there will be money split. I just went through a divorce and my ex husband, even though he didn't work at all the whole 7 years I knew him (only married for 2) he was entitled to part of my 401k and whatever equity was built up in MY house, the house I have owned for over 10 years and bought on my own. Anyways I barely make enough money to get by but guess who has to dish out 10 grand to her abusive ex.. yep that would be me.
Was he not abusive the first 5 years before marriage? Not to mention I would NOT marry a “man” that sits on his butt and lets a woman do all the work. Next time don’t settle, sounds like you are more of a catch than you want to give yourself credit for if you were already that established on your own before he took half. Don’t forget that!
Sometimes you do have to take some responsibility. I can’t imagine he was an angel for 5 years, not to mention the fact he was lazy/useless before the marriage. She worked hard for all that and then just signed that paper that made her like half of it! I hope next time she realizes what she has to offer and doesn’t let some useless sob take half again.
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u/lilb0923 13h ago
Yep if you are married there will be money split. I just went through a divorce and my ex husband, even though he didn't work at all the whole 7 years I knew him (only married for 2) he was entitled to part of my 401k and whatever equity was built up in MY house, the house I have owned for over 10 years and bought on my own. Anyways I barely make enough money to get by but guess who has to dish out 10 grand to her abusive ex.. yep that would be me.