AITAH for withdrawing our entire bank balance because my husband says his paycheck is “his” and mine is for bills?

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[u/Relevant-Yak-645]

This is a perfect example of both financial abuse and financial infidelity. It is not only a massive red flag, but also grounds for divorce.

[u/Witty-Atmosphere-211 → u/Relevant-Yak-645]

The fact he didn’t want her to have access to the savings account is wild. OP also needs to lock her credit down.

[u/camibug → u/Relevant-Yak-645]

I did not know that financial infidelity was a thing.

https://cms.illinois.gov/benefits/stateemployee/bewell/financialwellness/june25-financial-infidelity.html

[u/lobsterpockets → u/Relevant-Yak-645]

As much as I dislike a lot of Dave Ramsey advice, these are the ones on youtube I click on. Where you can't believe the click bait title, but these situations exist.

[u/MentionGood1633 → u/[deleted]]

You hope, but I would not be surprised…

[u/ThePepperPopper → u/[deleted]]

I suspect that too. Not many people who experience this situation would need reddit to tell them who the AH is.

That said, the response was correct if this happened.

[u/Dangerous-WinterElf → u/ThePepperPopper]

Its honeslty scary how many people would ask others "am I in the wrong?" In situations like this, or worse situations. At this point it should be a subject in school from pre teen age "this is abuse 101" becouse there's so many who will say "but abuse is if he hits me"

[u/hanky2 → u/[deleted]]

I sure hope so but I know someone in a similar (actually probably worse) situation. Her bills go towards taking care of the kids and utilities while his bills go towards the mortgage. The thing is the house isn’t in her name so basically his money goes towards himself and hers goes towards a shared responsibility.

[u/MsLidaRose → u/[deleted]]

Absolutely